I’ve decided to try a little experiment, and you’re involved. I’ve lost a decent amount of weight this year, but the last hunk of the weight is always the hardest to lose. In order to finally get this weight loss chapter of my life over with, I’ve decided to pull out all the stops and put as much weight (pun intended) towards this goal as humanly possible. 

So, I’ll make a deal with all of you. In order to get my audience mentally on my side with all of this, if I hit my goal weight by December 28th, 2019, about three and a half months from now, I will significantly discount everything I sell for a short period of time. 

I just weighed myself and I currently weigh 228.4 pounds. If I weigh 195.8 pounds or less by December 28th of this year, I will discount everything I sell (ebooks, programs, everything) 30% for several days. If I weigh more than 195.8 pounds on December 28th, then no discount occurs and nothing happens. This means I need to lose 33 pounds in 3.5 months. This is a very doable goal as long as I stay consistent with the things that have already worked for me this year.

Since I now post regular videos of myself at YouTube, I won’t be able to fudge this. You’ll be able to see a noticeable weight loss in these regular videos, or you won’t. (Though many of those videos are posted several weeks after they’re created, so you always need to account for that possible time lag.)

My rationale behind this: 

– Accountability. I’ve told everyone about this goal, including all of you, Pink Firefly, my family, and my own coaches (I practice what I preach so I have several coaches myself, and no, please don’t ask who they are). That will help motivate me to get this done. 

– Positive Mastermind. If I know I have hundreds or thousands of you mentally wanting me to lose this weight as bad as I do, I think it will help me. It’s more of a spiritual and attitudinal thing that I can’t explain or go into detail beyond that. 

– Help. Some of you guys may give me some ideas I haven’t thought of yet. I’m documenting exactly what has worked for me so far and what I’m continuing to do to lose this weight over at the Caleb Jones Blog, starting with this article here. The summary is that I’ve discovered I need to address my psychology rather than doing or not doing certain things with my diet. Refer to that article with more details, and please refer to the list it links to before giving me any advice (since I’ve tried pretty much everything non-psychological you can think of already). 

You might be thinking that I don’t want to hit this goal if I have to give you all a 30% discount on my products, and that somehow, I will lose money if I do this. Not really. I’ll only offer this discount for a few days, with a deadline, so I should see a nice little income bump from it. This way we both win. 

Regardless of if I hit this goal or not, I will post a picture of the numbers on my scale at this blog on December 28th so you can see how much weight I’ve lost… or not lost, if I fuck this up. Hopefully I won’t.

Three and a half months, starting now. If I succeed, the very last problem in my life will be gone, and phase two in my physical health plan finally begins (bodybuilding and human growth hormone). If I fail, I’ll have to keep at it.

66 Comments on “I’ll Give You A Reward If I Lose Weight

  1. Caleb,

    If you want to lose weight to be healthier or more energetic (if not please disregard or delete this comment), I encourage you to be more granular in your goals, or to reconsider.

    Many people think if they lose weight they lose fat. That’s not necessarily true. So if your goal is to lose fat, first measure your fat percentage and then specify your goals in terms of losing fat.

    My second piece of advice is to encourage us to help you follow a new protocol, a new system (e.g. about what you eat, how much you eat, how much you exercise) rather than a goal.

    Godspeed

  2. BD, fasting or skip breakfast bro! Because people who eat breakfast consume significantly more calories than those who skip the meal, and end up weighing more (study by British Medical Journal). Many of my buddies and myself included manage to lose weight follow this advice. Of course doing this with exercising as well.

  3. Hey CJ, I am proud to say, I have lost >60 pounds in the last year. Here is how: Saturate your Body with Nutrients. The Principle is very simple: One Rule. You HAVE TO eat a certain (large) amount of vegetables, salad, fruit and nuts/seeds EVERY single day,e.g. 3 Apples, 2 Red Peppers, a Cucumber, 3 Cups of Broccoli, 5 Tomatoes and a head of leafy salad. You HAVE TO eat that no matter what. No excuses. Anything more than that is your choice. If you want a Burger, eat a Burger, want a Steak, eat a Steak. But you HAVE TO eat that large Amount of healthy food every single day. So decide how you want to space it out. For example i wanted a Steak yesterday evening. But i also still had to eat the Salad and the Tomatoes. So i ate those things first and then had my steak. Bottom Line is: You aren’t Hungry despite eating low amounts of calories. And your Body becomes super healthy. If you need guidance as to what exactly counts as healthy food, i suggest Dr. Fuhrman’s “Eat to Live” Book. Then of course get excercise at least 3 times a weak. I personally hit the Gym 3 times a week and do Cardio (Swimming in my Case) on the other 3 days with Sunday off.

  4. Make it a contest amongst your readers. Each put up $1000 into a pool. Then pay it out in 6 months to the biggest losers. Lots of details, verification to resolve…

  5. Hey, am actually a few days away from finishing an app that does something quite similar: you create a goal and pay money. If you complete the goal within this time, you get the money back. If not, I keep it.

    Would you like to try the beta version?

  6. Hi Caleb. 2 easy methods are Convict Conditioning and Leangains which includes intermittent fasting. Results will have to be earned in any case. Good luck.

  7. @Fanguy. No offense but skipping Breakfast is a terrible Idea. That’s what all the fat people do. I did that for years when i gained a lot of weight. Basically any Diet that works by cutting down on the amount of food you can eat doesn’t work in the long run. The only thing that works long time is to consume more Nutrients per Calorie. Thats the only way to not regain the weight the second you stop with your restrictive program.

  8. What is your height, Blackdragon?

    Now, speaking for myself, I have discovered a very drastic way of losing weight, yet also effective way of KEEPING my weight at a specific level. Granted I go to the gym and eat as healthy as I can (barely any sugar except for some pieces of dark chocolate, about 75% cacao every day), lots of fish, nuts, veggies, water, coffee etc.

    But here is the thing: I have done keto, low carb and forced crush diets (when I had stress or any kind of mental isssues I had to go through) and what helped me longterm losing and keeping my weight at a certain level was crush dieting. Whenever I did one of these regular healthy diets, I used to lose weight slowly but I reached a plateau, where I couldn’t lose weight anymore. In fact I might have started gaining weight back. However, whenever I crush dieted, for whatever reason, I lost a great amount of weight within weeks and “only” gained a few pounds back, yet still maintained a lower weight than I used to before my weight loss. And when you do this a couple of times through out the year, you will most likely be able to lose weight, gain a little weight back but still lower your overall weight on a longterm.

    Obviosuly you will have to eat and live as healthy as possible but what these extreme diets have taught me was, that you learn what foods you should avoid in order to not gain pounds back and you also realize that you don’t really crave for some foods anymore. For instance, I went to South Europe a few weeks ago and lost a great amount of weight, due to the fact that I ate a lot of fish, seafood, veggies and was moving a lot too, even though I drank ots of alcohol. I used to eat A LOT of chicken before, but now I have reduced my meat intake because I don’t feel like eating it as much anymore. I feel better eating fish or sea food for some reason, at times pasta and also regularly rice.

    I am not saying what I do or did is healthy, but I have figured it has been the most effective way for me to lose weight and keep it under a certain level. This is why was I was able to lose 20 Kg within 3 years (I had a dark time in my life, which made me gain so much weight lol) and keep it at this level.

    So to summ it up, I

    drink lots of black coffee without sugar (good for metabolism)
    water
    rice, low carb pasta, potatoes
    little pieces of dark chocolate whenever I feel like eating sweets
    eat fish, chicken, many veggies, eggs, FROZEN veggies, only 0% cheese with lots of protein, nuts with low carbs, protein bread
    olive oil (it’s funny cause I used to consume like almost 1 liter of oil wihin 6 months, now it’s like I consume as much every 2 months)
    I often leave out 1 meal a day, but it’s more unintentionally so I don’t know whether this is a good advice)

  9. BD, it’s not magic all it takes is clearing out a lot of the bullshit you’ve been fed your whole life. You’re an expert at cutting out SP in regards to relationship dynamics, take my advice and do it for your nutrition/fitness ideas (which are largely just the Disney of the industry).

    Calories matter, that’s it. You HAVE to track them (and luckily I know you’re anal and meticulous about tracking things). Sign up for MyFitnessPal, and track literally everything you put in your mouth.

    Protein is key, without knowing anything about your composition, you should probably eat about 225G per day. It might be tough, so you’re likely going to need to supplement (whey is cheap and easy). Outside of that fat/carbs don’t matter, eat what you prefer.

    Eat 10x calories per pound, adjust that every 10 lbs. So start out now eating 2300/day, drop that to 2200 when you get to 220.

    If you want more info or have any questions make a thread in SMIC and I’ll be happy to help. This goes for any SMIC guys.

    I lost a massive amount of fat, without doing cardio, and while in my 30s. Anyone can do it, it just takes the right info and sticking to your plan. In fact it was actually easy once you separate out all of the bullshit.

  10. @BD

    I don’t focus on losing weight but GAINING WEIGHT (muscle) instead!  What I did was lift weights only 2-3 x per week for only 30 mins at most and focused on the Chest, shoulders, neck shrugs, upper back, biceps and triceps (upper V shape areas that women love too) ONLY (no setups either lol).  It has helped big time in giving the appearance or illusion that I did lose weight (or that I lost more than I really did since the upper area gave the illusion my waste looks smaller.  The women love the bulk and buffer shoulders (subconscious probably) as it appears more Alpha or tough etc.

    Not to mention the added confidence you will feel from the added muscle and how it helps the Alpha lifestyle etc.

    I am not talking about a huge muscle head look either.  Just adding 1/4 – 1/2 inch to arms or shoulders or some thickness to neck and arms can make a huge difference and take the focus off of the belly.  Not to mention the self confidence it gives me with sex and mental focus.

    So what I do is the bigger my belly gets, the more I gotta work out my top part (V shape) to stay equal or bigger than it does at all times so that I LOOK skinnier than I really am lol!

     

  11. You said that you are 5’11” ~ 180cm

    Current BMI:

    103.6/1.8/1.8 ~ 32 kg/m2 (low end obese category 1)

    2019Dec28 Goal BMI:

    88.813/1.8/1.8 ~ 27.4 kg/m2 (middle of overweight range)

     

    However you also frequently do weigh training and use TRT, so the BMI is only roughly indicative of a general trend and I wouldn’t be surprised if in term of Fat Free Mass Index (FFMI) and Fat Mass Index (FMI), you are one category bellow (lot of muscle weight and still too much fat but maybe not obese fat). A lot of people in north america confuse morbid obesity (category 3 and above) and less severe obesity (category 1). You could very well be just in a little excess fat with very strong frame and muscle mass making a FFMI of 23 kg/m2 or higher.

    Normal range: 3 kg/m2 <FMI <6 kg/m2

    Excess fat range: 6 kg/m2 <FMI <9 kg/m2

    Obese class I range: 9 kg/m2 <FMI <12 kg/m2

     

    I encourage you to be more granular in your goals

    I second to this, especially for helping you on a psychological level. I would recommend to include a yearly body composition DEXA scan in your health routine checks. Find the cheapest one in all the places you live and travel to, it’s pocket change money for you and a gold mine of information that can really help with your psychological struggles by shedding light on where precisely you stand and tracking all the changes, year after years.

  12. lose that weight! David goggins went from 295 to 190 in something like 90 days. he’s all about the mind. #canthurtme

  13. Ohhhhhhh kay, let me state what I’m already doing so I can save some of you guys some typing.

    • I am already lifting weights 5 days a week (dumbells, barbell, free weights, body weight, mobility, all supersets, minimal rest time, etc) to gain some lean mass.
    • I am already skipping breakfast and I do intermittent fasting 7 days a week. I only eat between 11:30am and 6pm.
    • I am already eating shitloads of vegetables at least 6 days a week.
    • I am already tracking 100% of my calories meticulously 7 days a week.
    • I am already eating lots of protein, mostly fish.
    • I am already one of the highest-energy men I know, including men 20 years younger than me. Energy levels is definitely not my problem. Body fat is.

    I will say, yet again, that I’ve done all of the above in the past and I am still not at my goal weight. I know this is hard to understand, but my problem is not specifics about what I’m doing or not doing. My problem is purely psychological, as I explained here.

    I am still happy to take suggestions but as I said in the above article, I’m not super interested if they don’t involve psychology.

  14. BD, as far as psychology goes…

     

    You just have to really interalize that food is just fuel. There is no “good” or “bad” there’s just choices.  I tend to not eat much “junk food” because it’s not very satiating, but calorie dense.  A lot of people feel guilty when they eat a doughnut or something on a diet and that’s part of the issue of why diets fail. A doughnut is just a doughnut (and I find them delicious).

    You can absolutely budget sweets or whatever into your calories, but they still need to be tracked.

    Another thing plenty of people do (and I was guilty of this too) is eating when they’re bored/thirsty/stressed/etc. You’re still going to want to for a while, until you realize what you’re doing. A thing you can do in addition is actually drink water when you’re feeling hungry, but it’s not time to eat yet. Your stomach is pretty elastic, and in time will shrink, resulting in being less hungry between meals.

     

    I’m a fan of daily weight tracking and trends. The key here is to not be super obsessive over the number. You can fluctuate quite significantly over a week (it’s mostly water weight). The first time I gained 6lbs over night, is when I realized how  susceptible the scale is to water weight.  Weight loss is also non linear in a lot of people. What you “should lose”, and what you “actually” lose don’t mesh up exactly. You might have shit results for 4-6 weeks despite doing everything right, then you can wake up one day and all of a sudden you’re down 5-10lbs and a pants size.  This is the reason a lot of people get discouraged and say whatever doesn’t work.

    If you’re actually eating at a deficit, then you will lose weight. Your body doesn’t violate physics, but a lot of the starting points are just “best guesses”.

  15. I encourage you to be more granular in your goals, or to reconsider.

    I have already done this. I have specific goals regarding body fat percentage, muscle mass, blood work panels, and so on.

    My second piece of advice is to encourage us to help you follow a new protocol, a new system (e.g. about what you eat, how much you eat, how much you exercise) rather than a goal.

    I agree with that advice but in this case that wouldn’t be as emotionally motivating for me. I am an extremely goal-oriented and numbers-based person. It’s just how I tick.

    Godspeed

    Thank you.

    Would you like to try the beta version?

    No thank you.

    228.4 pounds = 103.6 kilograms

    195.8 pounds = 88.813 kilograms

    Yeah I should have done this for my non-American readers, which is about 50% of the readership. Thank you.

    Protein is key, without knowing anything about your composition, you should probably eat about 225G per day. It might be tough, so you’re likely going to need to supplement (whey is cheap and easy). Outside of that fat/carbs don’t matter, eat what you prefer.

    I don’t disagree with that advice (I am eating lots of protein and I want to gain more muscle), but that advice is more for an ectomorphic guy focused on gaining muscle mass rather than a highly endomorphic guy focused on losing body fat.

    However you also frequently do weigh training and use TRT, so the BMI is only roughly indicative of a general trend and I wouldn’t be surprised if in term of Fat Free Mass Index (FFMI) and Fat Mass Index (FMI), you are one category bellow (lot of muscle weight and still too much fat but maybe not obese fat).

    That is me. BMI doesn’t apply to me at this stage. I have a decent amount of muscle mass and I carry my weight pretty very well. People who know me (including those who have sex with me and have seen me naked) are often shocked when I tell them how much I weigh. “Wow, you’re 228 pounds??? That much? You don’t look like that at all!”

    I would recommend to include a yearly body composition DEXA scan in your health routine checks.

    Already on the agenda for January.

    You just have to really interalize that food is just fuel. There is no “good” or “bad” there’s just choices. I tend to not eat much “junk food” because it’s not very satiating, but calorie dense. A lot of people feel guilty when they eat a doughnut or something on a diet and that’s part of the issue of why diets fail. A doughnut is just a doughnut (and I find them delicious).

    Thank you. I’ve already made that mental transition with the help of Noom. They teach the exact same thing, that you can lose weight (and I have) eating literally whatever you want, doughnuts included, as long as you stay in a caloric deficit. It may not be as healthy to do that, but you will lose body fat and you will more likely stick with that eating plan long-term since you won’t feel deprived.

    Another thing plenty of people do (and I was guilty of this too) is eating when they’re bored/thirsty/stressed/etc. You’re still going to want to for a while, until you realize what you’re doing. A thing you can do in addition is actually drink water when you’re feeling hungry, but it’s not time to eat yet. Your stomach is pretty elastic, and in time will shrink, resulting in being less hungry between meals.

    I’m already drinking 100 oz (3000 ml) of water a day, including with all meals. I piss all day long.

    You can fluctuate quite significantly over a week (it’s mostly water weight).

    Oh yes, I am well versed in this. I weigh myself almost every morning and I’ve learned my bodily patterns very well based on how the scale will change based on water, salt intake, bowel movements, and so on.

  16. Some advices from a French guy (the country of healthy food :d).

    Taking vegetables is good, but if you keep eating a lot of meat this will make your goal harder, as meat is full of grease (fish is also one of the lowest fatty food in the world with vegetables).  Also in some countries, including the US (where you are currently living) and some countries of Latin America (where you are planning to live), animals are fed with food full of hormones, to make them get bigger faster. Still, this also affect your body as well. My sister went to Argentina for 6 month and has gained 4 kgs even if she was eating vegetables frequently (because the quality of the food was not the same).

    Eating food with low quantity of added sugars might also helps, as sugar can be consider as a drug (stronger than heroin ==> for the psychological stuff) and can make you feel hungry often.
    Eating slow sugar food (like pasta with complete corn instead of the traditional one) might also help to reduce the envy of food (the more often you will be hungry during the day and the harder it will be on a psychological level).

    Another trick to reduce the quantity of food that you need to eat, is the principle of the bean. Some studies have been made where people were asked to eat only one bean, but they had to keep in their mouth and feel all the different sensations that this bean was making them feel. In the end, the stomach had the impression of getting filled sooner. This might be difficult for you, as I had seen some of your posts where you were mentioning the fact that your lunch was lasting less than 30 min (way too short).

    Also, many of the trainers that I talked to told me that doing sport was not the key factor to reduce the weight, as the body was starting to eliminate real grease only after 30 min (up to 40 min), so keeping focusing on food is a good idea.

    One trick that I use also to cut the hunger when I’m starting to feel hungry is to eat some fruits that can make you feel full very fast, such as apple. Then you can postpone your hunger for up to 2 hours (up to my own experience).

    Skipping breakfast is not necessarily the best solution (it depends of people), as breakfast is supposed to potentially (but not always, it depends of people) be the most important meal of the day, and to fill you for the rest of the day.

    This is all I can say from my own researches over the past few years, as I wanted to eat healthy in a world where fast foods and other cheap food store are legion.

    Your goal looks a little hard but can still be reached to my own opinion (go go Caleb, you can do it ! ! ! ==> just be careful of not putting a lot of efforts and then reducing the efforts, otherwise you will gain weight again, and very fast, as this is what happen to people doing a diet and then considering they are done with it).

  17. My comments are classified as “spam” here and I don’t know why. So I wrote a long ass comment but it didn’t show. So I won’t write it again but I will say this: when I crush diet for like 1-2 weeks, I lose lots of weight that way and only gain a few pounds back but still not as much as I used to weight before. If you do this a couple of times a year, you will lower your weight on a longterm and keep it at that level, provided you still eat healthy and work out.

  18. Since you’re in line with using Cosmetic related tools/treatments as you age, here’s one I’ll be surprised if you know about (at least a good amount), but I can recommend this because I’ve both researched it a ton, own one, it’s clinically proven with several supporting studies, and doesn’t take too much time. Since I work with many clients who use this for their own clients … this is how I first found out about it.

    This thing alone won’t help you lose 30 lbs HOWEVER it may help you with everything else you’re doing to help with fat loss/ weight loss by maybe 20-30%.

    Buy a Red Light Therapy Device. For example a JOOVV red light therapy device. They have a 6 month full money back guarantee.

    Use it for 10-20 mins a day… can do other stuff while it’s going on like reading or eating or whatever …shine it on your face and your body, specifically your stomach and abdomen. I can link to a whole bunch of articles but here’s one to give you an overview along :

    https://joovv.com/blogs/joovv-blog/remarkable-benefits-red-light-therapy-weight-loss-fat-reduction

    If you shine it on your face and body, and I’ve seen the effects myself on my stomach, it’ll :

    Legitimately help with increased fat loss (not necessarily weight loss, but fat loss)
    It works even better when you use it immediately before, or immediately after exercise, or both
    It has a direct affect on your cells, things related to ATP production and mitochondria etc, all things that when functioning better help you with weight loss
    If you shine it on your neck it also helps people with optimal thyroid production, which may be involved in extra fat loss

    Overall…it helps with a bunch of stuff in terms of overall health and skin etc, but in your case … it’ll also help with fat loss.

     

  19. Hi BD, long-time reader of yours. I lost 50 pounds in 2016 happily following the Slow-carb diet promoted by Tim Ferriss. Give it a try, it’s very easy to follow, and it rewards week-long discipline with weight-loss, and cheat days.

  20. These threads always go the same way.

    “Caleb, you need to try THIS!!!”

    “Thank you, I’m already doing that.”

  21. I totally second the comment about the speed of eating below 30min meal means you are not taking the time to process mentaly what you are eating. It’s even worse if you are doing something else at the same time such as on your mobile or watching some video content. Psychologically you need to be focused on your food, and chew each mouthful a veeeeery long time before swallowing. It should be virtualy liquid before you swallow it.  No more little chunks.

    30min meal also means you are barely chewing the food, you are direclty swallowing it. More time in your mouth also means more time spent enjoying the yummy taste! Think about it: you like eating food or you wouldn’t be fat. So take more time to enjoy the food taste longer in your mouth, if you chew 4 times more it means you are tasting yummy food 4 times longer. Instead of just swallowing food as fast as possible: you’re killing all the fun of eating and it can make you snap in a few weeks or days to binge like crazy (and for that 6000kcal you also need to swallow fast the food, no time to chew and appreciate). I know this may be hard to do for a time management maniac and workaholic, but really think about it: food is important for your body and it is something you like, so make a conscious effort to dedicate more time to enjoy eating, tasting it in your mouth before you swallow it. Enjoyment of food is in the mouth, on your tastebuds, not in the stomach!

    How do I know? I use these psychological points when I want to loose weight. Or if I want to gain weight I do the exact opposite: I barely chew the food and swallow it as soon as possible and eat as fast as possible while keeping my mind focused on something else such as a show on netflix, or something on my mobile.

  22. These threads always go the same way.

    “Caleb, you need to try THIS!!!”

    “Thank you, I’m already doing that.”

     

    It’s a trap. BD wants us to know what it feels like, when WE contradict him, regarding other topics ^^

  23. Less swallowing, more time chewing: more enjoyment with the tastebuds, less fat on your body!

    But for that you need to allocate more time to enjoying the tastes of your food. One full hour spent eating is the irreducible minimum for a breakfast, lunch or diner for your mind to fully process what you are eating and for better satisfaction.

    Satisfy your need for swallowing with as much water as you want, not with food. Food is for tasting and chewing as long as possible.

    I know I am repeating over and over the same thing, but it’s psychological: hopefully one sentence in there resonate in you and you understand how psychollogicaly harmful for your weight loss goals is eating fast (and/or without focus on the plate, the smell and the tastebuds).

    Would you, for the sake of time management, reduce sex to intercourse only, with one insertion and immediate ejaculation (and/or while thinking about your business or watching TV)? Of course not, you do not limit the time you spend enjoying the sexual action.

  24. I went to look at the other article before replying, and you’re on the right track. But i’d go a little deeper than psychology, though it may include that. It’s predominantly emotional and the subconscious mind.

    If someone has had weight issues, then it’s basically been a coping mechanism. It might be due to trauma in the past and your mind thinks it’s keeping you ‘safe’ by holding onto the weight (like someone who has been attacked in the past and thinks it makes them safe, which it doesn’t), or you might have learnt that food=love like I did when my grandma would always make me cakes and be like “I love you, so I cooked this for you”, or it might have been someone being bullied at school, usually some kind of trauma or something in the upbringing. The more weight someone has the more this is true.

    It involves going back and dealing with, healing these emotions and healing it from the subconscious mind. For example using FasterEFT is how I did it, but there’s alot of other things like Inner Child Work, Sedona Method, PSTEC is a pretty good one to just get the programs and apply without having to study alot. Whatever it might be for you.

    The thing is when you transform these emotions and the subconscious you NATURALLY start to do the right things, I could never do so for very long until I did this, and now i’ve kept it up for like 6+ years consistently, I originally lost 52kg. Things suggested like ‘appetite suppresants’ are not going to help you much past maybe temporarily (and you said they didn’t work at all), same with shakes and other bullshit, it’s not a proper solution. People get upset at that, but i’ve been through it and digging into the past, trauma and painful emotions is the only sustainable solution even if it’s uncomfortable.

    Once you’re starting to deal with that then there’s a few practical things. Like don’t instantly try to change your eating all at once, because all that will happen is you’ll do it for a week or two maybe then be like “FUCK THIS” and give up. It’s much better to change 1 little thing at a time, adjust to that, then the next thing. Same with the gym (or whatever it is for you, find something you enjoy) alot of people try to go every day and then wonder why they give up. Start with maybe 3 days a week, actually I achieved most of what I have with 3 days a week, so stupid amounts of it isn’t needed.

    Don’t get on the scales every day, maybe once a week or every few weeks. Every day will just piss you off as it goes up and down through the day depending on what you’ve eaten or drank.

    Also I highly recommend lifting weights, people who lost weight with just cardio look nowhere near as good as someone who has lost it while also lifting weights, it recompositions your body much better. But if you hate weights, then that won’t work. It has to be something you enjoy and can do over the long term.

    Don’t think of it as a ‘magical diet’ you’re going to do for a while to lose the weight and then go back to what you used to eat then wonder why you put the weight back on. That’s what alot of people do. Eating healthily and exercise has to be your new lifestyle, it’s just something you do. And transforming your mind and emotions is where you’re able to do this, instead of constantly struggling with cravings and such. Like people can eat fastfood in front of me now and I don’t give a fuck, nor do I crave it.

    But happy to see you’re on the right track. Most people don’t realize what you’ve realized, that you can’t do all the right things if your mind isn’t in the right place. It’s not as simple as ‘just exercise’ ‘just eat healthily’ if you have your subconscious mind going in the other direction of holding onto the weight.

  25. I read the Noom stuff on the other blog. Very interesting. I’m impressed that you are maintaining weight loss even on extended overseas trips. Wow. That’s big. I almost always put on at least five kilos on a trip to a new country. Partly its the disruption to a schedule, not having access to the same supplies — but I can see that it’s also linked to a desire to explore, new sensations, all of that. Like you say, psychology.

    Something about this topic that creates a strong urge to boast, advise, argue, even though I know I’m not gonna change anyone’s mind. I’m in the ketogenic/IF camp. Eliminate or severely restrict sugar and starch and tranfat; fairly high protein, with a lot of fish; unlimited saturated and monosaturated fat, restricted omega 6; lots of fiber in the form of green vegetables. Weight control is no longer an issue, I do it mainly for energy levels and mental clarity.

  26. Cut your self off from sex till you reach your goal.  If that doesnt stimulate u psychologically i dont know what will.  Your too good at game so you subconsciously know you dont have to lose weight.

  27. I totally second the comment about the speed of eating below 30min meal means you are not taking the time to process mentaly what you are eating.

    Already handled. I am already following a mindful eating program where I take a very, very long time to savor, smell, eat, and chew all of my food. I utterly hate it with a passion but I have to admit it has helped. I’ll describe it over at the CJ Blog in a future article there.

    If someone has had weight issues, then it’s basically been a coping mechanism. It might be due to trauma in the past and your mind thinks it’s keeping you ‘safe’ by holding onto the weight

    Correct, we were just discussing that over at this thread.

    Cut your self off from sex till you reach your goal.

    As I’ve described many times, having zero sex (for a man with high T and a high sex drive) is like telling someone to never take a piss. It’s just not feasible in the real world regardless of logic. Even if I were to try that, I’d “cheat” and eventually just have sex anyway. Moreover, Pink Firefly would hate it if I stopped having sex with her for a few weeks/months, not only for sexual reasons but for emotional ones, and that wouldn’t be fair to her.

    It’s a good idea though, and one I considered.

  28. I am 5’11 (same as BD) and I’m always between 180 and 190 pounds. I never watch what I eat (but I don’t eat fast food) and have a sedentary job of 8+ hours, six days a week. I also drink six to ten beers a day and don’t work out.

    This may not be possible for you, but I almost exclusively take public transportation when commuting. I don’t know how it makes such a big difference, but it does. For travel that’s not commuting, I will usually walk if it’s half an hour or less.

    Where I work there is also stairs, so I use those several times a day. Don’t know if you could somehow integrate that into your day. Maybe take stairs instead of elevator every time.

    Also, not circling around for a ‘good’ parking spot, and instead opting for a far away parking spot on purpose.

    Even just walking around the block after dinner for about half an hour. This also helps with staying friendly with your neighbors, as you more than likely will wave at a few of them as you walk past their houses if they’re outside.

    Walking has the added benefit of noticing stuff that you didn’t know was there, even if you pass it every day while driving. Anyway, just thought I’d mention something I find enjoyable that doesn’t require much effort.

    Hope you hit your goal!

  29. Everything I see from you BD/CJ is what I would expect from a consultant that helps clients – facts are facts, let us use that to fix (fill in the blank).

    Your weight problem is similar to your comments about how women are irrational, embrace this thought.

    Fact: Calorie count higher than expended = stay fat get fatter.

    Fact: Nutrition when lower than needed produces hunger = eat more.

    Fact: Sugar turns to fat in the human body, all carbs are sugars, so all sugar and carbs are high in calorie and low in nutrition.

    Maximize the nutrition, and minimize the calories, this sucks and you will hate it, but you are a man, stop being womanly in your thinking and live with reality.

    You cannot eat enough kale, spinach and broccoli to get fat. With the proper amount of protein a human can gain all the nutrition needed from quality fresh food that is low in sugar and carbs.

    Control or eliminate the low quality food options, be a man and eat what is needed to stay at maximum health.

    It is better to eat nothing than to eat garbage.

    Your health is worth more than that donut!

    I went from 340 pounds to 220 now and have been at that level for over five years, 6’2” and muscular, it is possible but it sucks. And I eat kale, and I hate it!

    You are lifting, so that exercise issue is handled, like a man this is a positive thing.

    Use your own advice path here, be a man, and yes it sucks but it would be worse to be an emotionally addicted woman.

  30. When you say the problem is completely psychological what does that mean exactly?

    That you’re doing all that is necessary to loose weight, but here and there you don’t follow it and that adds to many calories and destroys everything? Because you’re not “strong” enough to follow the programs 100% and only do it 90%?
    That you’re eating exactly what you should eat, but your body and your cells convert the food in a different way because of your mental focus? So that 1 calorie isn’t threated as 1 calorie in your body? And that your body keeps to the fat even at 1500calories per day with only 50g carbs, because the “mental energy” makes the body process the physical food in a different way?

    I always thought that if you know what works for your body and body type. And you know your insulin sensitivity, so you know how many carbs your body can handle in terms of insulin in your system, then you just follow that approach and that’s it. But you need to be 100% consistent.

    So what I read from your blog post. You follow the correct diet for your body type already. Like eating 1800 cals and only 50g carbs every day for months and it didn’t work? And now you work on the psychlogoical aspect of your diet without changing any of the eating habts at all? And then the 1800 cals and 50g carbs per day are treated differently by the body?

     

  31. I am already lifting weights 5 days a week (dumbells, barbell, free weights, body weight, mobility, all supersets, minimal rest time, etc) to gain some lean mass.

    What do you mean 5 days a week? That could actually be too much because it causes less intensity . Are you doing one muscle a day or what split do you use? In my oppinion Deadlifts and Squats (and the other 4 compound exercises) are a MUST because they will actually train your whole lower body better than anything else and burn lots of fat too. I train 3 x week but I train every muscle 2-3 times a week. Many guys do bro splits and they still look like crap. I do like a fully body + push/pull mix of a workout which allows me to do every compound exercise like 2 times a week and I still train every muscle 2-3 times a week. At your age and mine too I guess (I am 38) anything that allows you to train your muscle multiple times a week is better.

     Body fat is.

    Have you ever measured your bf%? If I weighed like 220 lbs at 12% bf I would be more than pleased. But if your bf% is like 25%, yeah that’s a problem. I have seen your youtube videos and I can only see parts of your body. You have good or muscular lean underarms I believe but I can’t see the rest and can only assume that it is not as developped, especially your chest and shoulders and maybe belly too? If you have big muscular legs, that is good.

    Btw Caleb, why don’t you grow facial hair? You always look so perfectly clean shaven but I think a little facial hair, like a goatee or shadow would look even better on you.

    I will say, yet again, that I’ve done all of the above in the past and I am still not at my goal weight.

    Since you said you have gained muscle mass, you may want to re-think your weight goal. Maybe you would look at better at 200 Lbs. Like I said, the bf% is more important than the weight itself, unless you have already calculated that in advance.

  32. You asked for psychological support, but mostly are getting tips and how-to hints.  So let me ask a couple of questions instead.  Could you say a little bit more about what you think to be your primary motivations for losing 30+ pounds in 100 days?  Why that amount?  And why that timeline?

  33. Some of you guys may give me some ideas I haven’t thought of yet.

    Have you considered intermittent fasting or One Meal A Day, Caleb? I’ve been doing intermittent fasting for six or so months and I dropped from 220 to 205 with my fat% dropping from almost 30 to a little under 24, and that’s with me just eating 1-2 times a day. I can even get away with eating fast food if I do this (provided I have kicked my own ass in the gym enough: Pizza/Tacos after 8 sets of heavy squats feels really satisfying lol).

    Also what kind of workout routine do you follow? I heard in one of your podcasts that you do uphill walking or something right after waking up. Do you do 100 push ups a day? Lift really heavy weights to where you can barely move after? I feel like those are the kinds of things that overweight dudes like us need to do daily with one day off.

    Check out a blog called Bold And Determined and an e-book called Body of a Spartan. TONS of awesome info about getting in good shape there.

  34. i prefer processes over goals.  So just eat 21 grilled chicken salads per week, for the rest of your life.  If you fail 30% of the time, youre still going to be lean as hell.

  35. @BD

    I’m already drinking 100 oz (3000 ml) of water a day, including with all meals. I piss all day long.

    That gives me the opportunity to ask something: how do you deal with the interruption in workflow? I drink a lot of water too, and I’m constantly having to stop working to go to the bathroom, which pisses me* to no end. Any advice to mitigate the issue?

    *pun completely intended

  36. Maybe this has already been suggested, Idk, but what I’ve noticed work well for me earlier this year was the carnivore diet. Got the idea from listening to Victor Pride’s late podcast, where he suggested that since the elites push us to go vegan and eat grains like slave animals, the healthy way for us to go must certainly be the opposite: eat mainly meat like hunter animals. You know the dude 😉

    So for a few months I ate mainly meat and a little vegetables and fruits, almost no carbs. I’ve actually lost almost too much weight this way so I’ve reintroduced some carbs like bread and potatoes in reasonable amounts.

    When I ate fish I added eggs since fish tends to not be as satiating as meat.

    The interesting part is that as I lost weight I clearly lost fat faster than muscle, and became quite lean. No six-pack, but I can see the vertical line at the very top of my abs which hadn’t happened in some time. But in the past when I lost weight by going carbs-free, I lost muscle much quicker. With a carnivore diet you maintain more mucle mass and more of what you lose tends to be fat.

    For vegetables I especially recommend cabbage and onions and the like, good for testosterone.

    Also a very interesting side-effect of this diet is your dreams after a diner with some meat tend to be super vivid and seem super real and you remember them a lot more.

  37. Start eating more calorie dense food or cut down cardio.

    Hear me out before thinking I am crazy. I was 81kgs at one point(too much for my height) decided to loose weight. Read a bunch of shit and executed all of them. Was eating only eggs, fruits and whole grain bread working out HIIT cardio 5 days a week was losing mad weight.

    Then the problem came as I hit 74kgs. It plateaued at 74kgs even though I was doing the same thing. I kept at it but then I started losing sleep. Funny thing was my sleep was fine on the days I DIDN’T work out. Then I read about working out and increase in metabolism so what happens is when you work out your metabolism rises and you have to increase you calorie intake to match it. I thought this was stupid. But I was feeling good on the days I was not working out the 2 rest days. I said what the heck started eating some more and voila weight started dropping.

    Ask yourself did you do a lot for things at the same time? Did your weight drop for a while and stopped maybe increase in metabolism may be a cause. That why people recommend avoiding exercise and focusing on diet only if loosing weight is the goal.

    Since you are doing all of this at once you are probably overdoing many things. Try cutting down some cardio or eating more calorie food like fruit. Seen if your weight budges.

    I couldn’t find the beachbody website article(it was quite a few years back when I read it). It Was about a guy who was losing weight for a while because of intense workout and good diet but stopped loosing so he talked to the coaches and slowly increased his calories to 3400 form 2500(I don’t remember the exact numbers so don’t go by this) then was losing weight.

    I found this post though. Not sure if I agree with all of it but yeah it talks about eating more. Don’t read all of the articles below I have mention which parts.

    https://www.facebook.com/notes/carmen-arroyo/eat-more-lose-more-really-beachbody-article/176405532377333/

    reason 2 in this article

    https://www.openfit.com/guide-help-me-lose-weight

    reason 5 in this article

    https://thefitnessfocus.com/weight-loss-tips-2/what-to-do-when-youre-working-out-and-not-losing-weight

    Troubleshooting video.  Skip to 1:19

    https://www.beachbodyondemand.com/blog/askshaunt-cant-lose-weight

    Here’s an older guy who writes for Girlschase.

    https://thedoctorsdiary.com/health/quest-healthier-body-ten-lessons/

    Love your articles and read your book unchained man loved it. I used to think I have read a lot of ideas nothing would surprise me but man chapter 27 really had me thinking.

    Hope all this helps. All the best.

  38. @Iceman: You recommendations are directly contrary to the John Barban article linked to by John, in which the author says:

    The following claims are false and are your best way to know that a person is clueless about biology and physiology and nutrition if they say:

    Eating too few calories is going to ‘slow’ your metabolism (unless they’re referring to people who are starving to death…and are in fact about to die)

    that there are foods that can ‘damage’ your metabolism

    That you can speed up or slow down your metabolism (without drugs…and that this would be a good thing in either direction)

    I’ll let you two fight it out.

    BD, from the list you gave, you seem to be doing all the right things. Good luck!

  39. Disclaimer – I’m not an expert.

    Something that helped me lose weight when I had plateaued around 200 lbs –  I went from lifting 5 days a week to 3 days per week. All heavy weights. I still worked out the other 2 days per week I didn’t lift, but replaced with more stretching and mobility, core, and more cardio and interval training. Basically swapped some lifting, and added a variety of cardio. Been hovering in the low 190s now but I really want to get down to the low 180s.  Also looking to switch something up to see if it helps me move down to the next level, I really like these posts because some new ideas always come up in the comments, some good, some bad of course.

  40. You asked for psychological support, but mostly are getting tips and how-to hints.

    I know. It happens every time I bring up this topic. (And, as has already been noted, I’m almost always already doing exactly what is being recommended.) I think most people on the internet have a hard mental block about this topic and aren’t aware of what they’re saying (it happens in politics too).

    I clearly state my problem is obviously physiological then guys immediately start taking about red light therapy, intermittent fasting, carnivore diet, and become very concerned about things like the specific wight lifting routines I’m doing or that I might be doing leg day too often. None of which have anything with a psychological problem with food.

    I can’t really blame these guys since they’re just trying to help, but the unawareness and disconnect between the topic at hand and the topics they want to discuss is very interesting to observe whenever the issue of men’s fitness is brought up.

    Could you say a little bit more about what you think to be your primary motivations for losing 30+ pounds in 100 days? Why that amount? And why that timeline?

    Math. Which is the same method I use to determine all of my numerical goals.

    I know for a fact, after years of tracking, that I can reliably lose 2.9 pounds per week on average if I don’t screw up. I chose a more reasonable figure of 2.2 per week (average) to account for regular-but-minor screw-ups.

    My goal weight has always been my high school weight of 195 where I looked pretty good. Not lean, but damn good, especially with my big build. I don’t need nor want a six pack at my age; a little fat on me is fine. I like being big. (And sure, I might get to 195 and decide it’s not good enough; that’s possible. I’ll make that determination then.)

    I started at 228. 228-195=33.

    33 / 2.2 pounds per week = 106 days. From September 14th that’s December 28th.

    Math.

    When you say the problem is completely psychological what does that mean exactly? That you’re doing all that is necessary to loose weight, but here and there you don’t follow it and that adds to many calories and destroys everything?

    Correct! I’ve vastly improved upon this this year, but it’s still a problem. Read this.

    Like eating 1800 cals and only 50g carbs every day for months and it didn’t work?

    No. Eating correctly and perfectly at all times always works, of course. The problem is that eating correctly and perfectly 100% of the time has been very difficult for me on a psychological level. I have a mental way of viewing food on a subconscious level that isn’t healthy. Working on it.

    how do you deal with the interruption in workflow? I drink a lot of water too, and I’m constantly having to stop working to go to the bathroom, which pisses me* to no end. Any advice to mitigate the issue?

    I pee into a disposable gallon container I keep right at my desk. Disgusting but effective and I don’t give a fuck. I’m not going to waste my time walking to and from the bathroom 10+ times a day; I’ve got important things to do. Also and more importantly, the longer you keep up with consistent high water intake, the more your body adjusts. I don’t pee nearly as many times per day as I did months ago when I first started drinking the 100oz per day. Guys start drinking that much, have to pee all the time, then say “fuck this!” AND give up. Nooooooo… you’ve got to stick with it for about 7-10 days at least before your body starts to adjust.

  41. Hey Blackdragon.

    I’m trained as a nutritionist and have a few easy tricks up my sleeve for weight loss.

    I’d be happy to give you a free consultation and if it works out, I’m interested in two of your books. I already bought one.

    Don

  42. Henri nails it.

    I had a nutritionist for a while who weighed me on this $10k scale that measured body fat, bone mass, and relative hydration.

    Garmin makes a similar consumer based scale that’s like $100 now and it’s fantastic.

    I could shed 20 pounds in two days by giving up on hydration.  The real wins are when my hydration goes UP and my body fat % goes down.

    I have a target weight I’d like to have, but it’s a calculation of me being 15% body fat and a certain hydration, not the other way around.

     

     

  43. I pee into a disposable gallon container I keep right at my desk. Disgusting but effective and I don’t give a fuck

    Yeah, was thinking about something like that. I’m a bit of a neat freak, but work is certainly more important than that. Thanks, BD.

  44. I had a nutritionist for a while who weighed me on this $10k scale that measured body fat, bone mass, and relative hydration.

    Garmin makes a similar consumer based scale that’s like $100 now and it’s fantastic.

    These things are impedance based, it gives very funny readings based on algorithmic guesstimates. It’s pretty much useless to give a real absolute bodyfat %, but can be used to keep track of the general relative trend between 2 DEXA scan (or water tank) measurements.

  45. Btw Caleb, why don’t you grow facial hair? You always look so perfectly clean shaven but I think a little facial hair, like a goatee or shadow would look even better on you.

    I do find it very weird looking, in a bad way, that you completely shave your sideburns: most men leave 1/3 or 2/3 of a inch (1 or 2 cm), roughly to the level of the middle of the ear. It doesn’t even really necessitate maintenance. Unlike a goatee or shadow.

     

    Example ben affleck freshly shaved here:

  46. BD

    I think it would help if you would post exactly in detail what you eat (assuming that you track exactly what you eat).

     

  47. Sounds like you’re on the right track with what you’re doing.

    Check out some YouTube interviews with Dr. Gundry.  He’s Tony Robbins’ doctor.  He has figured out some serious shit about what people should and shouldn’t be eating.

    Not only will it help you lose weight but also slow aging.  It’s hardcore but eye opening.

    His book is called The Plant Paradox.  The guy is fucking genius IMO.

     

  48. I’m not a doctor, but my best guess would be a combination of that psychological food disorder you mentioned coupled with severe intestine inflammation every time you binge on junk.

    You probably binge more than you think – your conscious mind don’t process how much junk you eat when you are satisfying yourself – and your gut must have some severe acute inflammation response to your previous years of abuse now that you are on a good diet…so it probably does not show on your blood tests.

  49. Well if your Problem is purely Psychological, i’d take a look at a self hypnosis program (like “The Gabriel Method”). Can’t vouche for it working though. Anytime i gained weight it was a physiological effect. (aka too many calories)

  50. The easiest and cheapest and fastest way to cut body fat:

    Snake Juice fasting, combined with occasional dry fasting.

    I have cut from 5’11”, 327 lbs on June 21, 2019 to 252 lbs this morning (September 25, 2019), 52″ real waist measurement to 44″ real waist measurement, size 48 pants (that were honestly pretty tight, maybe should’ve worn a size 50) to a size 40, size XXXL shirt to XL, and possibly the best part of cutting weight this way: NO. LOOSE. SKIN. None at all. Disbelieve if you want, but there isn’t any so far.

    Snake Juice is:

    2 Liters of water, as clean as you can get it,

    1/2 tsp of himalayan pink salt,

    1/2 tsp of food-grade magnesium sulfate (not just off-the-shelf epsom salts, has to be food grade)

    1 tsp of baking soda,

    1 tsp of Potassium Chloride.

    The schedule I’ve followed has been:

    Starting a long-term fast:

    3 days Snake Juice fast, refeed with 2L bone broth during the day and an 8 oz. grass-fed ribeye steak with 2 cups steamed broccoli at 8 P.M.;

    3 days Snake Juice fast, dry fast on day 4, 2 days Snake Juice fast, refeed on day 7 the same as above.

    During this initial period you’ll suffer some headaches (especially if you’re a habitual caffeine user like I was), some minor lightheadedness, some body acne as your skin adjusts, some OBW food cravings that will pass if you think yourself through it and stay occupied, and some intestinal clearing that you may find disturbing- this is actually really good for you, your body will start to get rid of some old intestinal plaques that have been interfering with or completely blocking the bioavailability of the nutrients in healthy foods you’ve been trying to eat.

    Long-term fast:

    3 days Snake Juice fast, 1 day dry fast, 2 days Snake Juice fast, dry fast, repeat the 2 day snake/1 day dry fasting pattern and then bone broth/steak/broccoli refeed on day 14. Go longer if you want before refeeding, but this has worked really well for me.

    What this does is that it forces your liver to completely deplete its stores of glycogen and sends you into a supermegaturbokamehameha ketosis state. Forget just going on a ketogenic diet, that can take up to 6 weeks to reach the full ketosis you can force in 48-72 hours by fasting. Your HGH and Testosterone levels increase pretty drastically, any inflammation-related chronic ailments are right out. The first 3-5 days can be mentally tough, but once you’ve got the inner proof there’s nothing anyone can do to convince you that you can’t do this.

    Dry fasting is also easier than it sounds. It induces your body into a state of autophagy and pulls metabolic water from your body fat. The first few dry fasts I did I found myself wondering why I wasn’t thirsty at 7 P.M. when I hadn’t had anything to drink since about 10 P.M. the night before. A little dry mouth sometimes, but a quick rinse with biotene mouthwash takes care of that. Autophagy due to dry fasting is why I don’t have any loose skin from the weight loss I’ve achieved so far since skin is mostly made of lipid tissue, and it’s also eaten up some epidermoid cysts on my face (saving what it would cost to have a dermatologist surgically remove them) and bone spurs that were in one ankle and one knee.

    Energy levels are UP during fasting, energy and focus from ketones are much clearer and lighter than energy from glycogen. Inner confidence is UP, from looking better, feeling better, much easier first interactions with new prospect women, and knowing I can do something that most people have mountains of SP that prevent them from even trying for one day. Strength training is normal, only adjustments I’ve made is that I train on Snake Juice days and rest on Dry Fast days, but still walk 2 miles minimum every day. My 2-year old Husky demands that.

    Okay, BD, I’ll throw down the gauntlet here. You pick whatever method you want, and I’ll stay on mine. I’ll reach my goal weight of 185 lbs (-67 lbs for me compared to your -33 lbs) by December 28 2019 or before, and if I do, you not only give the limited 30% discount like you planned if you reach your target (or don’t if you screw it up), but you give ALL paying, registered members 24 hours of FREE access to your entire catalog on January 1, 2020. I’ll set up a YouTube Channel so you can monitor my bro-gress as well.

    Deal?

    -Atrox

  51. Neville Goddard has a ton of free books/lecture on the power visualization, which it sounds like may be the most important part of what you want? You were raised catholic so you may get an extra kick out of them.

     

    Also I 2nd what Atrox_Lava has stated, myself, my older and younger brother as well as my best friend all did the snake diet and lost weight easy.

     

    Good luck, you’ve cracked the code for everything else you wanted in life, I bet nows the time for this thing too.

  52. Ugh, nothing like a weight loss topic to bring the armchair experts crawling out of the woodwork. Ninety-nine percent of the dietary advice I see in comment sections or on social media is bullshit and, ironically, the ones who seem to have the most “wisdom” to share are the ones who are chronically obese or overweight.

    Good luck separating the wheat from the chaff.

  53. Weight loss, like anything else, is 20% head knowledge and 80% motivation. We ALL know to lose weight. But there are chocolate chip cookies. You have to reach the point where you’re sick and tired of being fat and tired. Stop being a b**** and realize that the slice of cake isn’t going to make happy. It’s not going to heal the hurt in your heart. It’s just a temporary mouth sensation. It’s short-term happiness. You know who lives for short-term happiness? Women and children. You’re an effing man, go to chew on some rocks when you’re bored, frustrated, sad, etc. You GOT this. You can do it, you’ve been doing it. Eyes on the prize. Be the elite sexy mofo that you are.  Live it, love it, feel it!

  54. Do 100 push-ups a day, everyday. You have all day to do them, so this is easy. This will really help keep weight off and if your diet is on point, you will lose.

  55. “Eating correctly and perfectly at all times always works, of course. The problem is that eating correctly and perfectly 100% of the time has been very difficult for me on a psychological level.”

    Counting calories has less general compliance among people trying to lose weight than setting general guidelines.  There have been studies done on this.

    It’s better psychologically to set general principles, for example:

    –1) Eat only what 3 – 4 generations back would recognize as food

    –2) On any packaged foods Ingredients list should be short and recognizeable (no strange chemicals that your grandparents wouldn’t recognize)

    –3) On any packaged food, processing should be minimal and not do anything to change underlying composition of food.  A corollary, avoid foods that don’t rot.  They are highly engineered to increase shelf-life and thus their underlying composition has been heavily altered.

    –4) Generally avoid sugar.  Eat mostly vegetarian.  When you do eat meat, make sure it’s high quality stuff on free range farms, not animals standing in their own shit.  It’s worth it to pay more for this — also backed by science that the low quality animal meat from animals that eat their own shit cause all sort of issues in the microbiome.

    (all from Michael Pollen’s book — omnivore’s dilemma).

     

    Finally, one other thought — weight lifting is good for gaining muscles — which is not going to help you lose weight.  The best exercise for losing weight is a weight bearing exercise, like running, or jumping rope.  Cardio has got to be a part of your regime also for other health reasons — it basically primes your entire blood / oxygen delivery system which lifting barely targets.  It doesn’t matter how much you may hate cardio, it’s got to be part of your regimen if you want to live a long time.

     

    Hope this helps.

  56. Caleb,

    First let me say thank you for everything you’ve put out. I’ve read everything on your blog, own almost every book you’ve written and enjoyed meeting you at your Vegas seminar which was fantastic. You and I spoke briefly about health.

    I’ve been in the wellness industry for the last decade, worked with thousands of clients and have seen it all. You’ve tried it all apparently too. I feel for you.

    I know you said you want psychological help so I’ll start here.

    Psychological:

    Here is the reframe I have used with many clients and since I know you are a fan of Harry Browne, it might be helpful for you.

    By allowing big food corporations who employ food scientists who work to create purposely addicting foods for your brain..YOU ARE NOT FREE..By eating these foods you are HANDING OVER your personal power to these large food companies…They want you FAT, SICK, and ADDICTED to their foods. They put soybean oil and other vegetable oils into all of their processed foods which create hormonal dysfunction.  By eating these foods you allow the gov and corporations to put a leash around your neck and LEAD you like a dog as they laugh their way to the bank, profiting off the destruction of your health.

    There is no room for trying to use willpower, as these foods will always taste great to all of us. They are designed to. The final decision that your body/health is the most important thing is the only way to turn down these foods. After this decision is made, your level of disgust at the idea of these companies actively trying to destroy your health and profiting from it will become more visible. Saying no to unhealthy foods will become an easy decision not based on willpower but rather an internal belief about where your health sits in your value system.

    Harnessing this anger is the way I gave up soda 10 years ago and never looked back. It wasn’t because it doesn’t taste good, it was because I eternalized the belief that my body is the most important thing and I will never hand over my health to a corporation.

    Eating healthy is the easiest way to give a big fuck you to these companies and it is the only way to be FREE.

     

    Physical:

    In terms of one physical thing, the question I would ask is : Why are you drinking 100 ounces of water a day ?

    The half your Body weight in ounces of water a day was created out of thin air in the 50s with the introduction of highly processed foods pushed onto your generation and permeated for the last few decades as science. But there is none.

    I know you travel a lot….think about the last time that you’ve been outside the country.

    Do you ever see people carrying around massive bottles of water constantly drinking water all day long?No..that doesn’t exist. People in the rest of the world are not trying to drink half their body weight in ounces.

    Most experts would say what you’re doing by drinking that much water is peeing out vital minerals and nutrients that your body needs. Your body need salt for proper hydration which you are flushing out of your system by consuming that much water.

     

    To understand this :

    Dr. Berg and the water myth:

    https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=ae4wZ79GzGU

     

    Dr. James DiNicolantonio ( all the info on salt)

    https://www.amazon.com/Salt-Fix-Experts-Wrong-Eating/dp/0451496965/

     

    My challenge/recommendation to you is:

    Cut back on drinking so much water , 30-40 ounces a day is plenty.

    This will seem weird initially since you are used to drinking so much but you’ll adjust. You get plenty of extra water in fruits and vegetables.

    Add in Celtic sea salt liberally on your meats and veggies.

    3. Do that for a week or two and see how your weight/hunger/cravings change.

     

    This is the sea salt I personally recommend:

    https://www.amazon.com/Fine-Ground-Celtic-Sea-Salt/dp/B000EITYUU/

    We all have your back and are pushing for you. You’ve given us so much support so this is the least I could do. I hope it helps and if you are ever interested in chatting more feel free to reach out.

  57. Caleb,

    First let me say thank you for everything you’ve put out. I’ve read everything on your blog, own almost every book you’ve written and enjoyed meeting you at your Vegas seminar which was fantastic. You and I spoke briefly about health.
     I’ve been in the wellness industry for the last decade, worked with thousands of clients and have seen it all. You’ve tried it all apparently too. I feel for you.
    I know you said you want psychological help so I’ll start here.

    Psychological:
    By allowing big food corporations who employ food scientists who work to create purposely addicting foods for your brain..YOU ARE NOT FREE..By eating these foods you are HANDING OVER your personal power to these large food companies…They want you FAT, SICK, and ADDICTED to their foods. They put soybean oil and other vegetable oils into all of their processed foods which create hormonal dysfunction.  By eating these foods you allow these corporations to put a leash around your neck and LEAD you like a dog as they laugh their way to the bank, profiting off the destruction of your health.

    There is no room for trying to use willpower, as these foods will always taste great to all of us. They are designed to. The final decision that your body/health is the most important thing is the only way to turn down these foods. After this decision is made, your level of disgust at the idea of these companies actively trying to destroy your health and profiting from it will become more visible. Harnessing this anger is the way I gave up soda 10 years ago and never looked back. It wasn’t because it doesn’t taste good, it was because I eternalized the belief that my body is the most important thing and I will never hand over my health to a corporation.

    Eating healthy is the easiest way to give a big fuck you to these companies and it is the only way to be FREE.

    Physical:
    In terms of one physical thing, the question I would ask is : Why are you drinking 100 ounces of water a day ?
    The half your Body weight in ounces of water a day was created out of thin air in the 50s with the introduction of highly processed foods pushed onto your generation and permeated for the last few decades as science. But there is none.
    Most experts would say what you’re doing is peeing out vital minerals and nutrients that your body needs. Your body need salt for proper hydration which you are flushing out of your system by consuming that much water.

    I know you travel a lot….think about the last time that you’ve been outside the country.

    Do you ever see people carrying around massive bottles of water constantly drinking water all day long? …No..that doesn’t exist. People in the rest of the world are not trying to drink half their body weight in ounces.

    To understand this :
    Dr. Berg and the water myth:
    The Drink 8 Glasses Water Per Day Big Fat Lie!

    Dr. James DiNicolantonio ( all the info on salt)
    https://www.amazon.com/Salt-Fix-Experts-Wrong-Eating/dp/0451496965/
     
    My challenge/recommendation to you is:
    1.    Cut back on drinking so much water , 30-40 ounces a day is plenty.
    You get extra water in fruits and vegetables.
    2.    Add in Celtic sea salt liberally on your meats and veggies.
    We all have your back and are pushing for you. You’ve given us so much support so this is the least I could do. I hope it helps and if you are ever interested in chatting more feel free to reach out.

  58. You should do it the other way round. Discount everything until you reach your weightloss goal. The pain of  losing money should be a bigger motivator.

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