Women leave men.
That is what they are biologically hard-wired to do.
You can’t change it. Society can’t change it. Laws can’t change it. Seduction or relationship techniques can’t change it. “Being Alpha” doesn’t change it. Religion doesn’t change it.
Women. Will. Leave. You.
Men react to this reality in one of three ways:
- Hate it, resent it and women, and rage about how horrible and unfair it is.
- Use all kinds of theoretical bullshit, this-should-work techniques and try to prevent the inevitable from ever occurring. (“Okay, if I marry a Christian virgin girl with two married parents and a college degree…”)
- Understand and accept it and integrate it into your life in a way that doesn’t damage your long-term happiness.
Option one is emotional. Option two is irrational and Guy-Disney. Only option three has any decent chance of working for you in the real world, and in the long-term.
Today I’ll discuss how you can understand this behavioral pattern and actually integrate it into your life so that it’s an expected and normal thing rather than some catastrophic event every time it happens.
A while back, a commenter wrote this:
I literally have an mltr who is now back with me but has left me for an Alpha 1 once for 4 months or so. The way you sound, I am doing something wrong or she never would have left me for another Alpha.
Yep, that is correct. Of course, nothing is 100% in life, and there are always rare exceptions to every rule, but as always, the exceptions prove the rule.
To be clear, I’m not talking about if she goes out and fucks another Alpha but stays with you or comes back to you very quickly. That’s not “leaving.” I’m only talking about if she full-on leaves you for one of these men. If that happened to you, then yes, you were probably not Alpha enough.
This is because when women have a lot of one thing, they eventually start to seek the opposite. As I’ve explained before, women are constantly attracted to emotional variance. Feeling the same things over and over again are fine for most men, but that is hell on Earth for a woman. If she feels bad all the time, she’s going to run out and do something that makes her feel really good, even if it’s inappropriate. If she feels good all the time, she’ll eventually self-sabotage herself, her relationships, or her work, to create drama and problems in her life so she can feel “normal” again.
This is completely unlike a man who, for better or worse, can work at a boring 8-5 job, come home, have a beer, watch a football game, and go to sleep, and live just like that for 25 years straight.
Women’s boredom tolerance and status quo tolerance is a tiny fraction of what a man’s is. Again, for better or for worse.
In terms of a sexual/romantic relationship with a man, when women leave, they go from Alpha to beta, or from beta to Alpha. Either way, they’re going from one thing they’re missing to something else. They do not go from the same thing to more of the same. This is why I have virtually never had a woman leave me for another Alpha, but I’ve had scores of women (temporarily) leave me for betas. It happens all the time. (And of course, 94% come back, for the same reason.)
When a woman is first with an Alpha, she is exhilarated. The sheer masculinity, drive, power, and attractiveness (I’m talking more about internal attractiveness, not external), great sex, and sense of adventure really turn her on. Whether it’s a territorial and jealous Alpha Male 1.0 or an outcome independent Alpha Male 2.0 doesn’t matter. It’s crazy exciting for her, and she loves every minute of it.
Until she doesn’t. She’s a woman, so eventually (weeks, months, or years) she gets tired of being controlled and yelled at by the Alpha 1.0 or the emotional distance or lack of Disney of the Alpha 2.0. The same traits she loved in this powerful man, she now hates.
So, she leaves.
If he’s an Alpha Male 1.0, he flies into a rage at her disloyalty and disrespect, and there are massive arguments. If he’s an Alpha Male 2.0, he shrugs and has sex with one of the other younger, hotter women he already has on rotation. (And he knows she’ll be back, so he doesn’t really mind.)
What does she do? Does she go get another Alpha? Fuck no! She’s had enough of Alphas. Now she wants a Nice Guy. A Gentleman. Someone who kisses her ass, takes her out to dinner, and tells her she’s pretty all time. Someone who will worship the ground she walks on and someone who will follow her agenda. She wants a beta.
She finds one very quickly since most men today are betas (which is, perhaps, the single greatest reason for the slow collapse Western civilization is now experiencing). She snags one up and instantly he makes her his girlfriend, which is what betas do.
At first, she loves it! After weeks, months, or years with an Alpha who pretty much never did what he was told, being with a man who slathers her with attention, affection, money (in the form of dinners, drinks, gifts, trips, or even actual money) being with her new beta boyfriend is a god damn dream come true for her. She plasters his pic all over her social media, quickly introduces him to all of her girlfriends and family, and she loves every minute of her Disney bliss.
Until she doesn’t. She’s a woman, so eventually (weeks, months, or years) she gets really fucking irritated with having a hyper-needy boyfriend who misses her all the time, calls/texts her all the time, tells her he loves her all the time, and is pretty much up her ass 24/7. The exact traits she really appreciated from this man now piss her off.
So, she leaves.
The beta cries (often literally) and feels like his life has come to an end. He tries to get her back 27 times to no avail and spends the next six months feeling depressed and stalking her Instagram page.
What does she do? Does she go get another beta? Fuck no! The last thing she wants is another needy pussy. She wants a MAN now. So, she hooks up with another Alpha. Or, if the last Alpha was an Alpha 2.0, she goes right back to him instead, since going to him is much easier than finding a new Alpha, which is a difficult process for most women, involving lots of tedious first dates, needy guys, jerks, and a bunch of frustration. The more difficult dating becomes for women, the better it is for us Alpha Male 2.0s. (And it’s a very good time to be an Alpha 2.0 right now. And it will get even better.)
Back and forth she goes, on and on, between Alphas and betas, often for decades. As she gets older, the time with each man expands, but she still doesn’t stop leaving them.
Sometimes she even marries one of her beta males, has a few kids, and then divorces his ass for an Alpha, and continues the forever back-and-forth beta/Alpha dance.
She keeps doing this until she hits her early sixties or so. At that point, she knows her sexual attractiveness isn’t what it used to be, and she’s not really interested in sex that much anyway, so whatever guy she’s currently with (usually a beta), she just puts up with.
Here’s how all of this ties back to you. If a woman leaves you for an Alpha, guess what that means? What kind of picture do you think you were presenting this woman? Alpha, or beta? Beta, of course.
The reverse is also true. If the vast majority of women leave you for total beta males, this is a very good sign. That means you’re the Alpha, otherwise she’d be going for other Alphas. Even better, if you’re an Alpha 2.0, there’s around a 94% chance she’ll come back to you in a little while, which means she really didn’t leave you. She just took a little break.
Again, there are odd exceptions to this. There are times a woman can leave an Alpha for an uber-Alpha, just like there are extreme Dominants who leave betas for even more submissive betas. But again, these are the exceptions.
Your goal is not to keep a woman with you forever. That’s not in the cards. Instead, your goal is to ensure that:
- When she leaves, she leaves you for unattractive beta males. This ensures that…
- She’ll eventually be back.