Bad Date Logistics Are Always Your Fault
One of the biggest reasons why men screw up and don’t get laid is because of bad date logistics. This is when, on a date (a second date, if you’re using my system) the logistics are such that it’s either impossible or very difficult to have sex with the woman you’re with.
Bad logistics can vary wildly. I too have been guilty of bad logistics in the past. Many other men have told me about their logistics problems on dates. Here are a few random examples:
– You’re ready to have sex, she’s ready to have sex, but there is someone back at her place, or you’re too far away from your place, and you don’t have money for a hotel.
– It’s very late at night and she’s comfortable enough to have sex but not comfortable enough to go back to your place, and there’s no where to go.
– You’re both ready to have sex but you suddenly need to take a big shit (or throw up), killing the mood. (Yes, guys have done this.)
– You head out to the date, but you haven’t eaten all day, so you’re starving, and thus modify a correct bar date to an incorrect go-to-a-restaurant-and-eat-out date which spikes ASD, screws up your frame, and kills your odds of getting to sex fast.
– You’re both ready to have sex, but you didn’t bring any condoms, and she refuses sex without one.
– You’re both ready for sex, but you’ve already had sex twice earlier that day with someone else and are reluctant to go a third time because you think you might not be able to perform. (This is one of those Alpha Male 2.0 quality problems.)
– You get her back to your place to have sex but forgot to tell your roommates to leave, and she’s too nervous to have sex with roommates in the apartment.
– You’re both ready for sex, but since you didn’t plan logistics correctly, you spend an hour or two running around trying to find a place to fuck (a friend’s house, the car, a hotel) and by the time you find a place you missed your window and now she just wants to go home.
And on, and on, and on.
Bad date logistics are always your fault. Always! I have never heard of a bad logistics scenario that wasn’t 100% preventable by a little pre-planning on the part of the man. That includes when I’ve had logistics problems. They were always because I was stupid or in a hurry and didn’t plan correctly.
If you’re following my system, you are having a very brief first date with no sexual activity followed up quickly by a second date where you move to sex fast.
This means that before you leave for the second date, you need to come to a complete stop, force yourself to calm down, and focus. In your mind, pre-plan out exactly how and where you are going to have sex with this new woman.
Once you do this, you need to go back through your plan and ask yourself this question: What are the logistical problems that could arise with this plan that would make it difficult to have sex? If you can envision some, then you need to come up with logistical solutions before you leave your home, or change your plan.
I’ll give you two examples.
I have found that sometimes I’m not quite as hard the very first time I have sex with a new woman. This doesn’t always happen, but it happens sometimes. Combine this with the fact I always use a condom on first-time women, and this can sometimes create some interesting scenarios during first-time sex. Not always. Not even most of the time. But sometimes.
Also, there are unusual times were women aren’t as wet as they need to be during first-time sex, and sometimes condom usage exacerbates this as well.
Therefore, when I go out on a second date where I’m reasonably sure sex will occur, I not only make sure I have condoms, but I also make sure I have a small, travel-size bottle of lube on me as well. Right before sex, a drop or two goes inside the condom and outside the condom, solving both problems.
Now here’s the thing: the vast majority of the time when I have first-time sex with a new woman, I don’t need it. But during those unusual times when I need it, it’s there.
Now here’s a more complicated, but not usual scenario.
You’re a 26 year-old guy who lives with two roommates. You’re about to go out on a second date with a hot 22 year-old. You’re following my system and had a perfect Blackdragon first date, so you assume (correctly) that your odds of having sex with this girl tonight are high.
You were going to just have her come over, but she indicated to you that she wanted to meet at a bar down the street first, so you agreed (which is okay).
First, you plan it out. You’re going to meet up with her at the bar, have just one drink, chat for a bit, and as soon as you can, bounce her to your apartment. You don’t want your roommates there because that might make her nervous, so you’ve made sure that one of them is working tonight and the other one will be out with his friends. Good logistics planning, at least so far.
You go through your room and make sure you have condoms. Dammit, you’re out! So you run down to the store and get some. Again, good. So far, you are light-years ahead of the typical 26 year-old at this point.
Then you take things to the next level and think through the possible problems that might occur. There are two that immediately come to mind.
The first one is that one of your roommates is an irresponsible idiot, and it’s entirely possible he could come stumbling into your apartment much earlier than he said he would, right as you’re trying to sexually escalate with her. Not good!
The second problem is that you and the girl have a mutual friend who lives just two apartments down from you, and she knows his car. She could see his car in the parking lot and get nervous.
So thus armed, you come up with contingency plans. First, you’re going to have a strong talk with your moron roommate and tell him he can NOT come home before 9pm that night under any circumstances. You’re also going to text him before you start sexually escalating on the girl to confirm that he is, indeed, across town with his buddies.
Next, you’re going to make sure to drive into the apartment complex from the right entrance instead of the usual left entrance, where your mutual friend usually parks, so she won’t see his car.
So you take care of all these logistics, and have sex with her within two hours on the second date, and she becomes an amazing long-term MLTR. Well done!
Don’t worry if this preparation seems like a lot of trouble. Once you get in the habit of doing this, it only takes a minute, perhaps even less than that, to think this stuff through. Reading through this the first time is much more work than actually doing it.
I do this stuff every time I’m preparing for a second date. You should too. It’s even possible that if you can’t solve certain logistical problems you should reschedule the date for another time to ensure more favorable logistics. Yeah, I know, I don’t like rescheduling the date either, and time is your enemy, but I’d rather have a favorable date two days from now than a second date tonight with horrible logistics. (And remember, logistics don’t really apply to first dates under my system, just second ones.)
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