Sexual Harassment Accusations Gone Crazy – Aziz Ansari, James Franco, etc
Last October I wrote an article about all these celebrity sexual harassment problems going on in Hollywood. I titled the article, “All This Celebrity Sexual Harassment – A Dark Cultural Change… for Men.” I clearly said that while this was a good thing for women who were legitimately being raped and sexually harassed, this entire thing is a terrible thing for men. All of this stuff, including and especially the charges that are true, falls right into the “men are bad, women are victims” narrative that has been pushed by the left for so many years. I said the narrative is now going to get much worse for men, including false accusations. I said, and I quote, “it’s going to get worse. A lot worse. Just watch.”
And I was right. Now with this new #MeToo movement, celebrity men who have not committed sexual harassment are now being targeted. I’ve received a lot of email from many of you about the recent cases of James Franco and Aziz Ansari.
My mental response to all of this was, “Yeah, I know. I already talked about this. I said it’s going to get worse, and it is. Why are any of you surprised?” But I kept getting the emails and guys kept wanting to talk about this, so I guess I’ll talk about this again.
A few things you need to understand and emotionally accept before we begin:
1. As I’ve been saying for many years, over and over again, the Western world is moving more to the political left with every passing day. Even post-Trump, America is becoming more left-wing. If you don’t belive this, read this article where I show with clear data how left-wing America is becoming, and this article where I show that even Generation Z is left-wing. This also applies to already left-wing regions/nations like Canada, Australia, and Europe, which are becoming even more left-wing.
This left-wing growth will continue for a very long time, will not stop, and can’t be stopped (unless everything collapses). Understand this and accept this. In the original celebrity harassment article, I blamed the shithead men like Harvey Wienstein for causing this problem, and I still do. But the reality is all this would have still eventually happened simply because of the continuing left-wing shift of Western society.
So expect this shit and don’t let it shock you. This is the same scenario as when so many of you were freaking out about the insane “yes means yes” college thing. You guys were like “OH MY GOD THIS IS TERRIBLE!!! RRRRAAAAHHHH!!!” and I was like, “Yep, more of the same. Why are any of you surprised?” It’s the same deal here.
This is going to get worse, guys. Get ready for it, calibrate your actions if necessary, and don’t let it shock you every time it happens, particularly to celebrities and rich people, both of whom tend to be targets in ways you likely never will be.
It’s also not nearly as big of a deal for you as you think it is, but I’ll get to that at the end of the article.
2. On the flip side, I already wrote this article about exactly what sexual assault is and is not, and what rape is and is not. I strongly suggest you take a minute and read it, especially if you’re a woman or on the side of these women. One of the problems with the #MeToo movement is that it’s now bundling things that are clearly not sexual assault as “sexual assault” (which is exactly what I knew it would do).
A bad date is not sexual assault. A guy being a rude asshole is not sexual assault. A woman consensually doing something with a man and then later regretting it is not sexual assault. I’ll go into more detail as we go along, and I’m going to refer back to that article several times as we do.
A few women have accused James Franco of “sexual assault” in this article here. Here is the summary of accusations as I see them, and whether or not they are “sexual assault.” Feel free to read the article yourself if you feel I’m misinterpreting it in any way.
- In New York, allegedly he hit on a 17 year-old British girl in 2014. He did not have sex with her nor touch her in any way. This is not sexual assault. This is just a guy hitting on a woman who is of legal age of consent. Age of consent in New York is 17, and age of consent where she lived (England) is 16(!). So there’s nothing wrong here. If it freaks you out that an older guy wanted to have sex with a woman who was of legal age of consent, then with all due respect, you need to take a chill pill and calm the fuck down. I already addressed age of consent here. And remember, he didn’t even touch this girl.
- While filming something, he allegedly asked some girls if they wanted to take their shirts off, and got mad when they said no. Again, he didn’t even touch these girls. This is not sexual assault. If it actually happened (and we have no idea if it did, since he denies it), this is just a horny guy being an asshole verbally. Horny men verbally being assholes is not sexual assault. Sexual assault means he did something physical to you against your will.
- During a sex scene, he allegedly removed the plastic covering that goes over a woman’s vagina during simulated sex. The woman proceeded with the scene anyway. This is not sexual assault, although I agree it could be perceived as a grey area since he had the power in the scenario. Regardless, the woman proceeded to do the sex scene anyway. She could have simply said, “No, I want the plastic covering, and if I don’t get it, I’m not doing this scene, thank you very much.” To say that she “couldn’t” say that means you’re saying women are children, or retarded, or have no free will. Of course she could have said that. If she didn’t, she chose not to. Therefore, you have a very hard time making the argument that this was “sexual assault.”
- One woman allegedly received “mass email requests from Franco to audition for roles playing ‘a prostitute or a hooker.'” This is not sexual assault. It’s not even close, and hopefully I don’t have to explain why.
- Someone uploaded a sex scene from a class Franco was involved in to Vimeo. There is no evidence whatsoever that Franco was the one who did it. This is not sexual assault, though I absolutely agree it could be a crime. Regardless, it could have been many different people who uploaded it besides Franco.
- A woman complained she only got paid $100 per day to do nude scenes in his movie. This is not sexual assault. This is a woman making a stupid career decision. Everything in your life is your fault, sweetheart. You have free will. You could have turned down the job. No one forced you to do it.
- A woman he was dating in a consensual sexual relationship once felt he pressured her into giving him a blowjob, which she gave him. This is not sexual assault, unless he physically grabbed her and forced her head down on his cock while she was physically pushing him away and saying no. Is that what she is alleging? No. By her own words, she said, “He was kind of nudging my head down.” That’s normal sexual activity, not sexual assault. Here’s what I said about that in my original sexual assault article:
If a guy was walking down a crowded city street and he suddenly pulled his cock out, grabbed a random woman, and put her hand on it, is that sexual assault?
Yes. That man is guilty of sexual assault. Throw his ass in jail.
Now let’s say a man and woman are alone, in private, making out on a couch, and it’s consensual for both. His hand is up her shirt and he’s playing with her boobs, and she’s letting him. Then he whips out his cock, grabs her hand without asking for permission, and puts her hand on it. Is that sexual assault?
No. That’s sexual activity, not sexual assault. The action is completely within the context of everything else going on.
If you really think that circumstance is sexual assault, and that man is guilty of some kind of crime for which he must be punished by courts and cops, then you are not thinking rationally, and frankly, I don’t even know if it’s worth your time to keep reading this. Have a nice day.
Precisely. Just because a man is physically directive during mutually consensual sex does not mean he’s committing sexual assault. As I’ve written about many times before, most women (not all, but most) prefer a man who is more dominant, strong, and directive in bed. I am very dominant during sex and do all kinds of things to women in a physically directive way.
OBVIOUSLY if a man is physically directive with a woman during sexual activity and she says no, he must stop immediately. I’ve said that literally hundreds of times over the past many years in my blogs and books. I’m 100% opposed to rape or any forced, nonconsentual sexual activity as I clearly stated for the record here. On the rare occasions a woman says no to something I’m doing sexually, I immediately stop, and I’ve never had a problem. It’s very simple. However, even that isn’t enough for some of these #MeToo women, as I’m about to show with the next example.
A woman who chooses to remain anonymous (coughfuckingcowardcough) has accused Aziz Ansari of “sexual assult” here. Feel free to read the article, but the gist is that they went out on a first date, went back to his place, started getting sexual, she said no to sex, he said no problem, they put their clothes back on, talked on the couch for a bit, he called her a cab, and she went home. This was “sexual assault” to this woman.
She complained that during the dinner date, she wanted red wine, but he ordered white instead. OH MY GOD! THAT SEXUAL ASSUALTING BASTARD!
She complained that when getting sexual, he could not see her non-verbal cues that she wasn’t interested. OH MY GOD! HOW DARE HE NOT READ HER MIND!
She complained that, at dinner, he paid the bill too fast when she still had some wine left in her glass. THAT FUCKING RAPIST! HE BOUGHT HER DINNER??? WHAT A PIECE OF SHIT!
The next day, he was perfectly nice to her:
“It was fun meeting you last night,” Ansari sent on Tuesday evening. “Last night might’ve been fun for you, but it wasn’t for me,” Grace responded. “You ignored clear non-verbal cues; you kept going with advances.” She explains why she is telling him how she felt: “I want to make sure you’re aware so maybe the next girl doesn’t have to cry on the ride home.”
“I’m so sad to hear this,” he responded. “Clearly, I misread things in the moment and I’m truly sorry.”
OMG HE’S SUCH AN ASSHOLE! SEXUAL ASSULT!!!
Guess what? He’s now being punished for that apology. There are actually articles saying that because he apologized, he’s now “admitting to crimes.”
Left-wing cultural collapse, folks. And again, it’s going to get worse. Don’t be surprised at any of this stuff.
A few points to any women reading this, who I’m sure will ignore them if they don’t know them already.
1. Men can’t read your mind. I know that’s shocking, but it’s true. Every man who has some level of dating or relationship experience can relate several stories where the woman (or women) in his life fully expected him to read their minds and magically know what they wanted without saying it. Ladies, men don’t work this way. We are direct communicators and we need to be verbally told what you want and what you don’t. If you expect us to read your minds, you’re going to have all kinds of problems for the rest of your life.
2. Complaining about something you chose to do implies that women are either children, retarded, or have no free will. If you don’t want to have sex with a guy, don’t. If you don’t want to do a nude scene, don’t. If you don’t want to give a man a blowjob, don’t. If you don’t want to do something, but proceed to do it anyway, then complain about sexual assault, you are clearly stating that women are weak, pathetic, stupid creatures with no agency and that men are far stronger, smarter, and more powerful. Is that the message you want to send about women?
3. You diminish real cases of sexual assault when you cry wolf about things that clearly aren’t. As I said in the original article about this, guys like Harvey Wienstein did actually commit real cases of sexual assault (and likely even rape) that he needs to be punished for. But when you women screech about men like James Franco, Aziz Ansari, Matt Lauer, and various others who, while perhaps guilty of some crass behavior, didn’t commit sexual assault, you lessen the severity of the cases where it actually happened. This harms you, and it harms women, and it harms your cause.
How This Applies To You – The Men Reading This Blog
The main question is how all of this crap personally affects you, the guy reading this blog. Does this stuff actually make a difference in your day-to-day dating life? The answer is no, with these two exceptions:
1. You’re in college while dating / having sex with women on your college campus.
2. You’re a celebrity or similar public figure.
If you’re a celebrity, obviously you’re going to be a target of this garbage and there’s probably nothing you can do about it. Hopefully your millions of dollars and massive fame will be enough consolation for you. (I have always found it very difficult to feel sorry for celebrities. So some people think you committed sexual assault while you’re world famous and you made $9 million last year. Boo fuckin’ hoo.)
If you’re in college, you live in a bizarre, left-wing, totalitarian world were the basic, logical laws of the universe don’t apply, so I can’t really help you if that’s the case. (You shouldn’t be going to college anyway, but that’s a topic for another time.)
But if you’re not in either of those categories, you don’t need to worry about this stuff. I know that manosphere hype will tell you to fear all of these things, but as long as you don’t do something stupid, you’ll be fine. Just be sure to follow the advice I gave in these articles:
For you particularly negative guys who think the sexual world is coming to an end, you should also read these two articles:
Yes, this stuff is going to get worse. Yes, the Western world continues its slow collapse. Yes, the left will continue to grow in power. But no, at least for the time being, the typical guy out having sex who isn’t doing anything blatantly stupid isn’t going to now instantly be bombarded with false sexual harassment claims. Many years down the road, this may change (I’ll be far, far away by then), but right now, you’re fine despite all of this negative news regarding celebrities.
Enjoy the decline!
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