Q&A Today: Ask Blackdragon’s Girlfriend Anything!
Something a little different today. I thought it might be educational to provide a viewpoint on a serious, non-monogamous relationship from the female perspective. It’s not often women (or men!) publicly talk about this topic, so this is one of the rare times you’ll get some insight on this.
Today, instead of writing an article about Pink Firefly’s and my relationship, I’ll just turn it over to her and let her answer any questions you have for her in the comments. For those of you who don’t know, Pink Firefly is my OLTR / fiancé who is soon moving in with me under an OLTR marriage, something I’ve been talking about wanting to do for around seven years now.
She’s free to answer any questions she receives from you. She is also free to not answer any questions she considers too personal; it’s completely up to her. The only questions I’ve instructed her to not answer are any questions regarding her or my finances, including the legal and financial aspects of the marriage. If you’re curious about the exact legal / financial structure I’ll be using for our co-habiting relationship, read this article here. Beyond that, I can’t give you any more specifics. (I don’t give personal legal or financial information over the internet to the public, and neither should you.)
If you seriously think I’m getting into a typical, traditional marriage where I’m going to risk my finances in any way whatsoever, then you’re stupid, and again you need to read this. I always follow my own advice and have not changed my mind on a single thing I’ve said publicly for the last nine years.
Because of the unique nature of what I’m doing today in the comments, the rules for the comments in this particular thread are different than the usual commenting rules on this blog. Normally, I respect free speech and allow anyone to say literally anything in the comments, even if they completely disagree with me, as long as they follow the 5 Simple Rules.
Today, and for this thread only, that rule set is rescinded, and we’re going to operate under a different set of parameters.The first time I posted an article about Pink Firefly, for the most part everyone was respectful. However, the second time, there were three or four commenters who lost their minds and threw a constant barrage of snarky, negative bullcrap at her that I thought was unfair and shitty. Very few people on the planet have the courage to talk about these issues publicly. PF, if anything, should be thanked for sharing her experiences in a public forum like this. Attacking her is the last thing anyone should do, regardless of what your opinions are regarding traditional marriage, OLTR marriage, monogamy, non-monogamy, or women.
Therefore, in this Q&A comment thread only, no attacks, insults, or snark of any kind whatsoever against PF is allowed. If I see any of those comments in the below thread, I will simply delete them without explanation. This includes any snark that is implied or disguised as a question.
Disagreeing with or challenging PF is perfectly fine. A constant stream of attacks is not. You’re not stupid; you know the difference (and if you don’t, I don’t care, I’ll still delete your comments in the thread below).
On all past and future articles on this blog, things will return to normal, i.e. unlimited free speech is allowed as long as you follow the 5 Simple Rules.
Other than the financial / legal stuff, there are no questions that are off limits; feel free to ask her whatever you like! I think this will be educational for all of us. I will also comment when needed to provide context.
Some of you may be tempted to ask me questions about this relationship. I’m not saying you can’t do that here, but the point of this thread is to ask questions to PF, not me. So please keep that in mind.
As always, my goal here is to be as transparent with all of you as possible, since the vast majority of people in non-monogamous relationships or marriages are terrified to talk about this kind of thing publicly and always keep them a secret from everyone. I realize that I may be your only public source of this kind of information (which is sad, but as time goes on there will be more of us).
I want to provide this transparency to all of you to show that these kinds of relationships are not only possible, but also viable and pleasant. Pink Firefly has been in my life for almost three years now and I’m still very happy with the relationship (I’m sure she’d say the same). Drama has been extremely low over that time and continues to be so. Over time, I will continue to provide updates about this relationship as long as people treat Pink Firefly with some measure of respect even if there are disagreements. (I don’t give a shit if I get respect or politeness from the audience; I’m here to make money, not get respect; but with PF, I expect some.)
That’s it! If you have any questions about what it’s like to be a woman in a serious OLTR relationship, now’s your time to ask! Pink Firefly is right here, watching this thread, standing by. Comment away! PF no longer needs to answer any comments here in one week, after Monday, September 11th, 2017 (unless she wants to), so if you want to ask, don’t wait.