Why I Stopped Dating Russian Women
I’ve mentioned before that several years ago, I completely stopped dating Russian women. I’ve discussed the general reasons, but I don’t think I’ve ever given specifics as to why I made this decision. Today, I will demonstrate exactly why I had to very reluctantly, permanently boycott Russian women from my dating life.
As always, we need to get our definitions straight. When I say “Russian women,” I mean not only women from Russia, but women from any former Soviet Union (FSU) country, including Ukraine, Belarus, Latvia, etc. Most of the problematic women I encountered were indeed from Russia, but many were from its satellite countries as well. I have noticed literally no difference in the level of problems I’m about to describe between women from Russia and women from any of the smaller FSU countries.
So just remember that when I say “Russian” in this article, I really mean Russian + FSU women as well.
Secondly, I have zero experience dating women in Russia/FSU who actually live in Russia/FSU. 100% of my experience is with Russian women living in the West. I’m willing to concede that maybe Russian women actually living in Russia are different than Russian women living in the USA, but based on the many stories I’ve heard, I really doubt it. I’m just being clear that I have no experience with these women while they’re living in their home countries; just those who live in the USA.
Lastly, I understand that there are exceptions to every rule. I will ignore any comments that say things like “Not all Russian women are like that” or “One time I met a Russian girl who was not like that.” Yeah, I know, exception to the rule, but as always, the exception proves the rule. Generally speaking, what I’m about to say covers the vast majority of Russian women.
Russian women are the most beautiful women on Earth. Moreover, they’re usually intelligent and are often great conversationalists. They also tend to be good in bed. At the same time, Russian women are usually angry, bitchy, demanding, dominant, and have sky-high levels of both drama and ASD. They combine all the worst characteristics of over-33 women (even if they’re younger than 33), Dominants, Provider Hunters, and religious conservatives.
The time and effort necessary to overcome and/or deal with all of these negatives is not worth it, no matter how hot or smart they are, especially considering that the world is full of super hot non-Russian women.
Listed below are just a few experiences I had dating Russian women over a period of several years before I finally gave up on them. Note that most of these were many years ago, so if you have any critiques on my game or my actions, just remember that.
Russian Girl 1:
I was once on a first date with a Russian girl and we were more or less hitting it off. At about 30 minutes into the discussion, she asked me if I could drive her to a friend’s house to drop something off. It was an odd request, but I went along with it because it was in the same neighborhood where we already were.
I drove her to her friend’s house, and she got out, dropped something off, talked to her friend for a few minutes, and got back in my car. Good. I was worried I’d have to text her to hurry up. However, she then asks me if I can drive her to yet another place to run some kind of errand before taking her back home. I start shaking my head, but she pleads with me and says that it’s very close.
After confirming that the location is indeed close, against my better judgment, I agree. I drive her to some little store where she needs to pick something up. She goes in, picks up her stuff, spends a few minutes, talks to someone for a bit, and then comes back out.
She then asks me to take her to another place. I say, “Sorry, sweetheart, but I’m not your taxi. I’ll just take you home.”
She yells, “FINE!” and angrily throws her package on the floor of my car, folds her arms, and looks out the window. Again, this is our first date; I had never met her before this.
All the way to her house, she gives me the silent treatment. When we arrive, she says nothing other than “BYE!” and slams my car door as she leaves.
I have never had a woman behave like this on a first date, before or since. I didn’t text her back.
Russian Girl 2:
I once had a first date with a very hot Russian woman, about 28 years old. The first date went great. She was beautiful, intelligent, and we had a great conversation. She had a successful small business, doing biz both in the USA and Russia. I was very impressed.
I hit her up for a second date the day after and she eagerly agreed. On that second date, before we went into a fancy bar, we took a quick walk around an adjacent mall. At the Nordstrom’s store, she stopped and started trying various perfumes. I could tell this was a very bad idea, so I gently prodded her to move along. She frowned at me, kept on smelling different perfumes, and asking the clerk there various questions.
Finally, after about ten minutes of this, she pointed at a certain bottle of perfume and told me she “really wanted it.” Price tag: $150. “Very nice,” I said.
“What do you think?” she asked, nodding her head at the perfume.
“What do I think about what?” I said.
“It’s my birthday next week,” she said, again nodding at the perfume.
“Great,” I said.
Several times more, she kept trying to get me to buy this $150 bottle of perfume. Remember, this is at the start of the second date. We had only met one time before, and we had never had sex or anything else like that.
Finally, she realized I wasn’t going to buy her the damn thing, so she relented, and we went to the bar. The rest of the date went just fine. In the car, while dropping her off back at her place, she got very sexual but didn’t get to sex (she refused to go to my place and refused to let me into her place).
It was no big deal, and outside of the perfume shit, I had a good time.
The next day, I texted her and hit her up for a third meet. She then sent me a long, angry tirade about how I am a “very rude man” and how I “don’t know how to treat women” and that she never wanted to see me again. When I asked what her issue was, she said, “It’s my birthday next week! I can’t believe you didn’t buy me that perfume! I can’t believe you! I only want to be with a man who treats women nicely!” When I reminded her that I bought her both drinks and some food at the bar, she said, “If I wanted to eat last night I would have stayed home and ate with my daughter!”
Those were her exact words.
Russian Girl 3
I once scheduled a first date with a Russian woman, about 25 years old. She had no car, so I picked her up at her apartment which was right by the bar we were going visit.
On my way over, she sent me a string of long texts about exactly where I was supposed to park. I thought it odd, but just shrugged and went with it. I parked where she said, and waited… and waited… and waited.
At ten minutes, I texted her. No response. Five minutes later, just as I was about to drive away, she responded saying that she’ll be right down. I waited longer… And longer. I texted her again. She responded again (after five minutes) saying that she was “almost ready” and would be right down in a “few minutes.”
I really considered driving away, but I waited. After almost 40 minutes of this bullshit, she comes down.
She gets in the car and almost immediately starts loudly complaining about her apartment, one of her girlfriends, and about my car. Remember, this is a first date so I had never met her in real life before. I could already tell this wouldn’t go well.
She spends the entire first date loudly, and I mean loudly complaining about various different things, from her ex-boyfriend, to her mom, to politics, to her job, and just about everything else you can think of. I’ve been on an amount of first dates that numbers well into the triple digits, and I’ve never had a woman this brazenly scream a constant stream of negativity like that, not to mention making me wait 40 minutes.
Needless to say, I never texted her back after that.
Russian Girl 4:
I once briefly (you’ll see why) dated a Russian woman who would literally do shots of vodka first thing in the morning, right after she woke up. I thought it was very strange and obviously a terrible idea, but since I’m outcome independent, it didn’t bother me.
All was well until she started viciously attacking other women on my Facebook page. At one point, my sister-in-law (my brother’s wife who even had the same last name as me) posted a friendly post on my personal Facebook page, and this Russian woman lost her mind. She started posting multiple comments about how my sister-in-law should “watch out” and how I was a “bad guy” and how she shouldn’t post on my Facebook page anymore. She also started direct messaging another woman (a FB I hadn’t seen in two years) after she liked one of my photos.
When I told her to stop doing that crap, she complained that I didn’t text her when she had gone to Disneyland with her friends that prior weekend. I told her that indeed I had texted her on that Saturday, and that she was free to check her phone to verify this. She then started bitching at me about something else.
I hard nexted her ass and never saw her again. I don’t do drama, especially stupid drama.
Russian Girl 5:
I was once on a first date with a very cute Russian girl, about 22 years old. Initially, she was very sweet and we got along great. (That’s often a recurring theme with Russian women; they usually start out great. The insanity and anger only appears a little while later.)
Soon, she started asking about my marriage, divorce, and ex-wife. She asked why we got divorced and I gave her a very general answer about how she took some anti-depressant meds that made her crazy. She kept pushing for more specifics, much harder than any other woman on any first date I’ve ever had. Finally, I told her that I divorced my ex-wife because she got violent with me for the second time in a row, after clearly warning after the first time that if there ever was a second time, there would never be a third time.
This Russian girl was shocked and horrified, not that my ex-wife was violent, but that I left her.
“You divorced your wife because she hit you?” she asked.
“There were many other reasons besides that,” I said, “But that was the straw that broke the camel’s back, yeah.”
“I can’t believe you did that!” she cried, her eyes wide with this appalled look on her face.
“Why?” I asked, “Do you want your future husband hitting you?”
“Of course not,” she said, “But couples hit each other all the time! You don’t divorce someone just because of that!”
As she continued to stare at me like I was from another planet, I was bewildered at what I was hearing. I never saw her again, thank goodness.
Russian Girl 6:
I once had a super hot Russian girl, about 23, come over to my house for the second date, and for sex. As she was driving over, she started sending me the strangest texts that I’ve ever seen a woman send. She was literally giving me step-by-step instructions on how to behave. Things like,
“Don’t touch me when I walk in the door. I don’t like that.”
“Be sure to take my coat when I walk in the door.”
“I do not do anal so don’t ask.”
“I will only have sex in your bedroom, no where else in the house.”
“Make sure the heat in the house is set very high. I get cold.”
As I was laughing out loud at this insanity, I sent her a text saying, “You seem to be very nervous about all of this. I’m happy to do this some other time if you’re feeling uncomfortable.” She responded by saying, that no, everything was fine, and that she’ll be there at 7 pm.
Needless to say, I didn’t follow any of her stupid instructions. We had sex, yet despite the fact that she was super attractive (many men would consider her a perfect 10), it was the worst sex I’ve ever had outside of being monogamously married. She just laid there like a dead body, stiff as a board, and was constantly complaining. Don’t move my leg like that. Don’t grab my ass like that. Move over. I don’t like that. Etc.
I never saw her again, thank god, but hilariously, she got married to some slobbering beta just five months after our encounter. Poor bastard. I give it four years.
Seriously folks, I could go on and on for many more pages about the insanity I’ve encountered with Russian women; these are just a few of my many stories. I have never had this much trouble with any other race of women, including non-Russian white women and even Hispanic women. This is why, with a heavy heart, I simply stopped dating all Russian women several years ago. It was a good decision, since I’ve never had a weird problem since. (It was a very similar experience to when I stopped cold approaching women over age 33.)
Unless you’re a guy who likes drama (and I know there are some of you out there,) I recommend you do the same. If you live in the West, I do not recommend you even attempt to date Russian women unless you enjoy problems and bullshit. I have Russian friends and co-workers, and I have nothing against Russians personally, but the Russian people have a darkness within them that other races lack; a darkness that manifests all too often.
There are too many other beautiful women in the world who don’t have this kind of anger and insanity. Focus on them, not the Russian women.
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