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Rule 1: Always be working towards one or two big goals that excite you. Keep it to a maximum of two goals though, as working to improve more than two areas in your life at the same time will likely cause you to spin your wheels and stress you out without accomplishing much. (You can have more than two goals, just work on no more than one or two at any given point in time.)

Rule 2: Formulate a personal Mission that really turns you on and stick to it regardless of other conditions that change in your life, which they will. Your life can (and will) change. Your Mission should not.

Rule 3: Practice outcome independence in all areas of your life. Calm down and stop giving a shit. Women and money are automatically attracted to the man who doesn’t need either (or at least acts like it). Outcome independence doesn’t mean you don’t care about the outcomes of your goals. Yes, you want to make money. Yes, you want to get laid. Yes, you want to be physically healthy. Instead, outcome independence means you don’t care about the outcome of any individual scenario, like a particular date or business meeting. You don’t need any one woman or one customer to hit your goals.

Rule 4: Make sure you make at least $75,000 (or €67,000) per year in pre-tax net income. If you make less than this, you’re not as happy as you could or should be. No matter how much of a left-winger you are or how much you hate rich people or capitalism (I’m talking to you, Europeans), you will be happier if you make $75,000 / €67,000 per year if you don’t already. $75K per year isn’t that much money anyway. It’s not that hard.

Rule 5: Never become completely sexually monogamous. Pair-bonding is okay, sexual monogamy is not. Never promise absolute sexual monogamy to any woman and never delude yourself into thinking it will work long-term (I’m talking to you, Americans). If you find one special woman you really like, then feel free to decrease your sexual activities on the side if you wish, but never allow the number of women in your sex life to get to just one.

Rule 6: Practice redundancy in your financial life and your woman life. Build multiple sources of income. Don’t rely on just one. Have multiple women in your life. Don’t rely on just one. Relying on just one, of anything, is a path to eventual unhappiness.

Rule 7: Make sure you’re having sex on a regular basis. Different men require different frequencies of sex, but if you’re regularly letting 30 days or more go by with no sex, you’re screwing this up. You’re damaging your overall happiness as a man. Stop being a pussy, stop making excuses, and get it done.

Rule 8: Look as good as you can within the confines of your height, genetics and age, and do so for the rest of your life. For you younger guys, that means you need to back off on the drugs, smoking, and alcohol. For you older guys, that means you need to watch your diet and may need to spend some money on cosmetic procedures. Beta males (and Alpha Male 1.0s who surrender to monogamy) can afford to let their looks go. You can’t.

Rule 9: Focus on getting as many positive emotions as you can, while simultaneously avoiding all negative emotions. There is no need for you to experience any negative emotions once you’ve hit age 25 or so. By then, you’ve likely experienced every negative emotion known to man, probably many times each. You don’t need to repeat them any more. Leave the drama, anger, sadness, fear, jealousy and loneliness to those younger people. There is nothing virtuous about being unhappy; that’s just right-wing Societal Programming. It’s time for you to be happy, and stay that way.

Rule 10: Always remember that society’s role is not to make you happy. It’s to ensure you’re a drone who serves the elites. Also remember that the vast majority of men are not going to agree with your lifestyle choices and will likely not be your allies in your efforts. Beta males are too busy being scared and being slaves, and Alpha Male 1.0s are too busy being outcome dependent and angry.

Rule 11: Avoid legal structures in your personal relationships with women. Avoid things such as legal marriage, co-owning property or businesses, co-signing debt, and sharing a lease with women (and ideally, men too). Dealing with women is complicated and dicey enough; if you add government to the mix, you’re guaranteeing future unhappiness for both yourself and her. Always remember that loving a woman, living with a woman, taking care of a woman, and/or having children with a woman does NOT require legal marriage, sexual monogamy, or co-owning a home or lease. The only reason you think otherwise is false Societal Programming.

Rule 12: The more you are rooted to a particular region for your income or your love life, the less happy you will be long-term. Men stuck in one place are not men, they’re plants. Make sure both your income and your love life / sex life are location independent.

Rule 13: No one has the right to make you unhappy. Permanently or at least temporarily eject anyone, and I mean anyone, who causes consistent unhappiness in your life: friends, parents, siblings, co-workers or bosses (meaning jobs), wives, girlfriends, FBs, it doesn’t matter. (The only exception: your own children under the age of 18, and even with those there’s a limit). Never forget that you’re going to die soon, and that means you’re never coming back to enjoy this world and all the wonder and joy it offers. This is not a video game where you can do it over if you screw it up. You get one shot, and then you’re done. Forever. Don’t waste your life being angry, lonely, dealing with drama, or limited by some else’s rules. That’s beyond insane. Be happy, and stay that way.

66 Comments on “Rules of Alpha Male 2.0 Summarized

  1. BD, I have used your template to enhance my life with very good results since my divorce 2.5 years ago.

    I’ve got my goals, my mission, make about 120k, a few FBs an OLTR, sex several times a week, early 40s, decent shape…

    Here’s the thing (and I bet many men are in the same boat): I would like to be more mobile–try different opportunities across the country–but can’t because of shared custody of minor children.

    Has anyone tried anything to get around this particular issue without “abandoning” their kids (not financially, obviously). If you have, how did the kids do? How did you do?

    Or is it best to just grind it out until they head to college/turn 18. It’s the only thing at odds with my 2.0 life right now.

    J6P

  2. Life is a full contact sport, take no prisoners!!  Other peoples opinions are their way of demonstrating their anger, and resentment to the world. Keep up the great work!!

  3. Great list for everyone BD!  Those of us who frequent here and are trying to live the Alpha 2.0 lifestyle know these things but we all need the occasional reminder like this to keep on track.  To me, outcome independence has been on the greatest changes in my life-it’s very liberating.  Plus I think we’re both fans of Harry Browne’s work if I recall from one of your previous posts.  His book was an eye opener and I see his influence in your writings.

    Hopefully this reaches that 15% or so of men that are willing to hear the message and apply it.  Some men you just can’t reach(I think that was in a move???).  I would say your 15% is pretty accurate since doing a sampling of my ow social circles, I’d say 1 or 2 guys would be down with this lifestyle.  The rest are mainly deeply vested betas with a couple needy Alphas mixed in.  It’s funny how easily I can peg them now after being versed in these new ideas.  You are pretty spot on in defining those 3 types(same goes for women who are dom/sub/independent).

     

  4. I would like to be more mobile–try different opportunities across the country–but can’t because of shared custody of minor children.

    Has anyone tried anything to get around this particular issue without “abandoning” their kids (not financially, obviously). If you have, how did the kids do? How did you do?

    For the last 10 years or so I’ve had the same limitation. I chose to not abandon them and stay, even though it indeed caused a limitation on my happiness and freedom. (If I had no kids it’s entirely possible I’d be living in Asia or S. America right now.)

    Every guy needs to make his own decision about this. Yeah, I know few men who have done it. It never sat right with me since I love children and have strong opinions about personal responsibility, but I do agree it’s an option. (Harry Browne even recommended it way back in the 70s.)

  5. There is no need for you to experience any negative emotions once you’ve hit age 25 or so.

    That’s pretty funny, the majority of my emotions have been negative since 25. Most of my buddies say that I like being sad, angry, bitter, cynical and depressed. Maybe they are right? lol.

  6. I had this scary thought.  Let’s say you took 2 lovers, and then each of them took 2 other lovers, and those 2 lovers each had 2 other lovers, and so on and so on.  Wouldn’t that give an infinite chance of you getting a disease?

     

  7. Rule 12 is a tough one for me. I am a lawyer and only licensed to practice in Illinois. I am self employed which makes it even tougher to leave Illinois and practice law. Don’t tell me to get licensed in another state. I am 51 and am not going to study for another Bar examine and try to build a new practice in another state.

    However, I am looking into other things I can do with my law degree to make money. However, I earn middle 6 figures and that’s a lot to just blow off to make only 75K.

    Any advice?

     

  8. the majority of my emotions have been negative since 25. Most of my buddies say that I like being sad, angry, bitter, cynical and depressed. Maybe they are right? lol.

    Not maybe.

    Any advice?

    Instead of being a lawyer, which is one of the most bureaucratic, restrictive, and non-free professions there is, use your knowledge of the legal field to become a consultant or information provider to other lawyers or other businesses/providers in the legal field. Do it under the Alpha 2.0 business model I describe in the book.

  9. Also remember that the vast majority of men are not going to agree with your lifestyle choices and will likely not be your allies in your efforts.

    I really struggle with being happy around people. I get the impression everybody hates me and my carefree life, so I can’t really build a social circle.

    Plus every one my age is married or in “serious” relationships. Its also really hard to listen to people’s imaginary self created problems and struggles without being either dismissive/indifferent or trying to help them, but then realize the way they think is all fucked up and fixing their problem would require telling them something like “but if you didn’t believe in monogamy/marriage you wouldn’t have to worry about x or y” or something similar that would make me sound like a condescending douchebag.

    Everybody is blue pill as fuck and following their little predictable narrative and it bugs the crap out of me.

  10. I really struggle with being happy around people. I get the impression everybody hates me and my carefree life, so I can’t really build a social circle.

    Plus every one my age is married or in “serious” relationships. Its also really hard to listen to people’s imaginary self created problems and struggles………

    Everybody is blue pill as fuck and following their little predictable narrative and it bugs the crap out of me.

    This doesn’t bother me much, but a lot of men have reported to me the exact same thing you’re describing.

    I’m working on something that might help with this, but it’s going to take some time, and I’m not even sure it’s going to work. The summary is that we might need an Alpha Male 2.0 community, that differs from the manosphere community, in that we’re not angry.

    More on this soon.

  11. Great Advice – But…

    Ah – the only thing your missing is Jesus Christ!  First I am not talking about organized religion, that is secondary to the first sentence and  – am I going to open this can of worms, you bet your ass I am. Ok first, believe what you want, but when they put you in that box, and you will go in that box (cremated or not) you are going to come face to face with your maker. Don’t believe me, that’s ok it your life.  But mark my words – there is no avoiding this fact. It’s everywhere in every religion, there is a GOD. Do you think man has the capability or the intellectual capacity to understand creation and the universe? Not even close, shit, we can’t even cure the common cold, or world hunger (even thought there is enough to eat for everybody)  Think I discovered him on my own, this great mind and insight of mine, not a chance in hell.  He gave me the grace to see and understand that he is real. Oh I will hear a great out -cry from you and your readers, but make no mistake this is not folly. If your a betting man, I would bet with me on this one, if I am wrong no big deal, it won’t matter, and we wont’ know the difference. But, young grasshopper, if I am right and you are wrong, watch out – there is a price to pay for ignorance and I don’t want to pay that bill and either do you. So that leads me to a bizarre way to come full circle. GOD knows how difficult, challenging, manipulative and cunning women can be, he made them! Hell look at Adam and Eve (though the temptation was not between her legs) she still got the man to be subservient and do the wrong thing. Kind of set the precedence, don;t you think? I agree with your assessments of women, been there done that. I agree with the OI philosophy, and allot of other “wisdom: you bring to the table, but I want you too open your head and your heart to another who has greater “wisdom” than you when it comes to woman and business. Go ahead give it a try, unless your scared, because it might change your life.  God Bless Keep up the good work and I have a question regarding this woman I would like your opinion on.  lol…

  12. Everybody is blue pill as fuck and following their little predictable narrative and it bugs the crap out of me.

    Being “different” does not equal being lonely or angry. Yes, society is blue pill, but so were we before being exposed to new concepts and aware of how fucked up the western world is.

    Don’t hate the inmates, hate the prison and mostly the gatekeepers. Shrug it off if and don’t take it too seriously man…if you don’t do that you’ll most certainly feel isolated.

    Just joke and make fun of their inabilities, their deep desire to compromise to what others think and their lack of drive to be happy (but never forget to focus on your own happiness). It’s not that hard, really.

  13. the only thing your missing is Jesus Christ!

    Ohhhh boy. Here we go. And I thought the left-wingers were bad…

    It’s everywhere in every religion, there is a GOD

    I disagree with hardcore atheists, and I believe in a higher power, just not your Judaeo-Christian version. That’s bullshit.

    Plus I knew plenty of people who don’t believe in god who are plenty happy, so clearly believing in a mythical sky god is not required for long-term happiness. If it was, I would be addressing it.

  14. @Duke

     

    “it bugs the crap out of me.”

    Incompatibility at its finest.

    “Its also really hard to listen to people’s imaginary self created problems and struggles without being either dismissive/indifferent”

    Yeah, like how I felt when I read your post.

    LOL I’m just kidding. ;]

    Accepting that not many people are very sane is kinda liberating.

    Hanging out with friends too much can get annoying. Hanging out with women too much can get annoying. (Even though I do extremely well with very attractive women, I still indulge with escorts. Why? Because sometimes I just like to fuck someone hot and cuddle without really having to have a conversation before or after.)

    There’s a sense of peacefulness, clarity, that comes with doing things alone. And I find that when you really get used to being alone, and it doesn’t bother you, you can really learn how to quickly get in tune with whatever environment and really feel which girls want you to approach them. It’s almost like being psychic LOL (you’re just not in your head anymore). Especially in chill spots that people lounge around at for several hours during the day, such as around college campuses ;].

    I also find that being very, very at ease while being alone is very attractive to women. It’s like peacocking. Being alone is generally kinda weird, but when they can tell you don’t give a shit, it highlights how awesome you are. There’s a difference between being alone because you don’t have any friends or the ability to make new friends, and choosing to be alone because you actually prefer it and you know the benefits to it. Like, only the people who are stuck in groupThink and are uncomfortable being alone think it’s weird. This is why it also helps to filter for the kind of woman who also has a tendency to be alone herself. And so you guys both get it. It’s easier to meet people who are more compatible this way.

    And because meeting people is so easy, I don’t see a point in trying to hold on to social circles and people who I don’t vibe with.

    I also don’t even go to the movie theaters anymore. Personally, I think other people are distracting (oh and the seats as well, even the “luxury” ones don’t have great support for your cervical spine, not to mention for almost 2 hours straight, more or less, they’re fucking uncomfortable). Watching at home with certain people whose company I enjoy is nice at times, but nothing beats being able to rewind something super funny or super badass over and over and over again, without slightly annoying someone. And not to rewind only for the laughs, but to examine why the composition of a scene was funny, or evocative in the way that it was. That kind of stuff interests me, and that kind of depth in the little things you can’t always experience when you’re with other people.

  15. Rule 5: Never become completely sexually monogamous.

    BD, I’m passing through a NRE time with a 18 years old hot blond, and it is everything going to the direction of a MLTR (I’m 26). By reading your articles and truly believing its logics and results, I’m starting to feel bad about knowing that if keeps its natural way, the relationship will make both of us feel unhappy, cheating and so on.

    About this matter, I have two questions:

    1 – How to suggest an open relationship and when its the right time to talk about it with her? (the time I mean relating to the NRE energy )

    2 – Supposing I would have suggested it to her, by your experiences, would she be more open to other guys than if it would be an LTR?

     

  16. 1 – How to suggest an open relationship and when its the right time to talk about it with her? (the time I mean relating to the NRE energy )

    You don’t suggest it. You simply never get into a monogamous relationship in the first place. It sounds like you didn’t follow my advice and promised her monogamy, or at a minimum you made the mistake I talk about here.

    2 – Supposing I would have suggested it to her, by your experiences, would she be more open to other guys than if it would be an LTR?

    Over time, yeah, but it would take quote a while (perhaps years). Women aren’t any more monogamous than men.

  17. Great list of reminders. I agree with another poster. My life is so much different than basically everyone I know (not total Alpha 2.0 but getting super closer) and it often causes friction. I’m seen as a threat to their girls and they literally can’t believe the life I live.

  18. Great list. Once I’m home, I’m ordering the book.

     

    The outcome independence idea is the one I’m focused on lately. You could conflate it to the concept of recognizing, isolating and exterminating all of your psyche’s approval paradigms. They go hand in hand and are maybe the same concept in a lot of ways.

    Imagine Steph Curry missing a three pointer at the buzzer. My guess is that he’s a lot more likely to think about the actual mechanics of his shot: elbow placement, the roll off his fingers, footing etc.  A lesser guy might stew in all of the lost respect from the fans, the pain of thinking about all the adulation and approval he could have won for himself if he’d hit the bucket. Steph is lost in the mechanics and the actual passion he has for the activity at hand. That’s why he’s so amazing. Sure, he’s happy to hit the bucket and smile at the fans but it’s the actual act that occupies his mind, not the approval or lack that it results in. (That’s my guess about Steph, could be wrong. I made the same observations about MJ, a notorious asshole in real-life. The mechanics of basketball were his preoccupation, not the opinions of people. It’s ironic that the people who are the most deeply lost in an activity will excel the most, win the most adulation, and care the least about that adulation.)

    Most pain of failure comes from the social aftermath; the shame, loss of approval, ego-deflation. Outcome independence means that the social reaction is not on your mind. The mechanics of the activity is where you place your focus. It’s way easier to handle a negative outcome because you’ve simply learned more about the mechanics of what you’re involved in. It’s hardly even a negative outcome, just part of the game you’re playing, how the ball bounces, as it were.

    Get to outcome independence and a lot of things fall into place naturally;

    –minimalism…you’re no longer spending money on socially required things. Dropping 250$ at a club or some other status signalling crap.  A library book is free, as is a hike. A barbell is cheap or a membership at a shitty gym (the only kind you need.)  Big house? Pttthhhtt…Fuck big houses. You need to play a round of frisbee golf inside your house? Get a mini-home for 25k.

    –diet…once you no longer keep pressuring yourself to maintain that extra twenty-five pounds of aesthetic bulk (for others’ approval), it’s easy to eat right and chill out.  My problem for years was trying to gain weight though. Other guys, might have the opposite problem. As a middle-aged man, my focus is simply health, not overeating to maintain a few lumps on my shoulders to win compliments. I used to do that and it’s exhausting. Too much food. Not to mention about 4k a year more for that food. And often living in a catabolic, high cortisol, stressed state when you don’t eat that 4-5ooo calories a day that you should be eating if you’re lifting heavy. This is something not discussed often enough when weight lifting is the topic.

    –negative emotions….I would guess 90% of negative emotions are in reaction to others’ opinions of you, disapproval, insult, regret over lost opportunities for more approval, self-esteem issues, bad memories of shaming yourself in front of others and losing their approval. Negative emotions are nearly all when your own mind is struggling with ego which is an approval-based mechanism. “I could have played college baseball,” cries a guy lost in his lifelong approval paradigms. That same guy hasn’t taken a ground ball in 25 years. He doesn’t care about the mechanics of the actual activity, just the approval it would have won him in life or that he could have spent his life throwing in peoples’ faces, essentially pleading for their approval. Don’t be that kind of bitch. Approval doesn’t add to your life. It’s not a nice ass in your face or a hike in the woods or a swim in a tropical lagoon or a dram of topshelf. It’s just space in your head that other people have acquired the rights to. It’s not anything real.  Approval only adds to your life when you’ve set up the paradigms that require it. The more elaborate your approval paradigms, the more power others have over you, ironically, the less likely you are to win it anyway.

    –People, especially women….drawn like flies to someone who doesn’t care for their approval.

    –Quietly and subtly shedding people from your life who don’t add to it. You don’t need to maintain that collection of 100 hometown acquaintances who have a decent opinion of you. You don’t have to maintain that approving collection of old buddies if your life isn’t moving forward with them. Also, it’s much easier to go and start a new life if you’re not staked to your hometown or home-state just because it’s where some people know you and respect you. It can be nice, but it’s not something you need.

    –Outcome independence and an eradication of approval mechanisms simply wins you more head-space. Learn that language, dream up a novel, study programming. When your brain isn’t trying to manage all of that approval-based thought/memory schemas then you can actually concentrate on something.

    The acid test is this;  What if someone really did you in on facebook with a well thought-out, nasty, photo-shopped disaster of a humiliation? They did whatever they had to do to make some incredible humiliation something that even your own mother couldn’t be swayed from believing. All the old boys, even your family is now convinced that you’re into bestiality or something extraordinary. Everyone in your life is gone. Their approval is gone, 100% of it, from everyone.  Someone set you up to ruin your life and utterly destroy all the respect you’ve ever won. Even though it wasn’t true, even your high school battery mate, your own parents and your nieces and nephews disown you emphatically. How quickly can you recover? How do you feel moving down to Indonesia and starting over? You know it wasn’t true yet everyone in your life is gone now. How quickly are you as happy as can be hitting the weights in the morning, making a livable wage, reading on the beach in the evening and dating a 20 year old with all of your old life (old memories of approval) gone? It should be immediate if you have eradicated your approval mechanisms. Even a loss of approval on that scale shouldn’t matter to you if you are outcome independent.

  19. The summary is that we might need an Alpha Male 2.0 community, that differs from the manosphere community, in that we’re not angry.

    You should know better than anyone what this will lead to. You’ll have to go against your own values of freedom just to ban manosphere invaders.

  20. “I disagree with hardcore atheists, and I believe in a higher power, just not your Judaeo-Christian version. That’s bullshit.”

    Hold on my man – so in one sentence your saying you believe in a higher power – but in the second part of your sentence you refute and say / comment that the Judaeo – Christian version is bullshit.  That reeks of mis-understanding, lack of knowledge, and self  aggrandizement! If there is a higher power, as you admit, how do you know it’s not of Judaeo – Christian based? Who told you that, or did you discover it on your own? And if you did, how did you do that?  When people want to debate Obama Care the first thing I say / ask is did you read all 7K pages of the bill? Do you understand the underlying economics of it? Did you study 2006 Massachusetts Health Care Reform on which it was modeled? In order to have respectful and intelligent discourse you need to do your homework first. Just like your advice on woman, empirical evidence, real world case studies, comments from some of the experts.  So, where I am going with this is – until you tell me you read the Bible and Torah, it’s really a moot point to have a discussion. You don’t understand. However, you are a bright, intelligent soul, take a gander, do some research on your off days, ask him personally to tell you, and open the door when he knocks. He is ALWAYS knocking, you just need to answer.

     

  21. The outcome independence idea is the one I’m focused on lately.

    GREAT comment Kaminsky. One of the best I’ve seen here.

    You should know better than anyone what this will lead to. You’ll have to go against your own values of freedom just to ban manosphere invaders.

    One has nothing to do with the other. Your right to freedom doesn’t mean you can disrupt business and discourse on my property, i.e. my web sites. I ban people from this blog whenever I need to; that doesn’t infringe on their freedom, since they can go say whatever they were saying on 100 other web sites.

    And I’m not against the manosphere, I love the manosphere and I’m a part of it as is everyone who reads this site. Not sure how I could be against something I love and am a part of.

    And speaking of possibly needing to ban someone…

    in one sentence your saying you believe in a higher power – but in the second part of your sentence you refute and say / comment that the Judaeo – Christian version is bullshit.  That reeks of mis-understanding, lack of knowledge, and self  aggrandizement!

    And you reek of insanity and stupidity if you think that everyone who believes in a higher power must automatically believe in the Judaeo Christian God. Please go talk about Jesus somewhere else dude. You’re wasting your time here.

    And for the record, I was raised by a Catholic nun and spent eight years in Catholic school. I have read the entire Bible except for the some of the poetry parts (Psalms, etc) and can recite numerous Christian and Catholic payers by heart. I probably know more about Yahweh and Jesus than you do. None of that stuff worked, because it’s false Societal Programming.

    This is my past post here on this matter. Hopefully yours was too.

  22. Ok, last one I promise.  All communication will cease after this.

    Over 52 times in Scripture. But you already knew this.

    1 John 5:10-12All who believe in the Son of God know in their hearts that this testimony is true. Those who don’t believe this are actually calling God a liar because they don’t believe what God has testified about his Son. And this is what God has testified: He has given us eternal life, and this life is in his Son. Whoever has the Son has life; whoever does not have God’s Son does not have life.

    God Bless.

  23. Further to rule #11: never rent off a woman. Women intrude, they take up space in other people’s lives. They have a knack for legally requiring of you things that will take large chunks of time and energy to do, and they’ll do it even if they don’t need to simply in order to be taking up chunks of your time and headspace. Many women buy properties – it’s one of their preferred investments – and so more rental places than you might expect are owned by women. Take the extra effort to avoid them.

     

  24. Firstly, this is an interesting blog, certainly better written than most.

    I realise I’m not going to change your deeply held views…but I don’t understand this obsession in the ‘manosphere’ with the ‘left’ being evil. I don’t really like the terms ‘right’ and ‘left’ anyway, nor do I want to get into a long critique of why not. I just don’t understand this attitude, particularly from someone who rightly recognises that we live in an elite-dominated society that views us as cattle. At best.

    The bizarre obsession that the ‘manosphere’ has with the right has, predictably, led to a lot of its advocates supporting Donald Trump. This just does not make any sense. It should be completely obvious to anyone with a grain of intelligence that Trump is simply (a) running for office solely for the glorification of his massive ego, (b) is willing to say absolutely anything to get elected…and then retract it immediately if criticised. We’ve just seen a classic example of that with abortion.

    On the political compass, I am firmly left-libertarian. Some people may consider this a contradiction in terms. But I believe that everyone should be able to do anything that they want to do, as long as it doesn’t interfere with the freedoms of others to do the same, but, crucially, that there should be as close to equality of opportunity as possible. Not equality of outcome because 99.9% of the population couldn’t do my job as well as me. But everyone should get a fair shot.

    I had to fight like fuck to get to where I am now, and thank fuck I have an immense God-given talent that is marketable. Without that, I would still be on the scrapheap along with most of the people from my hometown. And I live in a country in which the three most prominent political figures were all members of the same elite dining society within a couple of years of each other. Somehow I don’t think the people I went to school with were going to get in there!

    I abhor that, I abhor the fact I had to fight tooth and nail to drag myself up from the bottom while others have everything served on a silver platter for them. Just because I’ve made it now, I won’t pull up the drawbridge for others. Because I’m confident I will prosper in a fairer society. It seems to me that other people aren’t quite so confident of that.

  25. I abhor that, I abhor the fact I had to fight tooth and nail to drag myself up from the bottom while others have everything served on a silver platter for them.

    Why do you hate that?

    Unlike BD where in the end of this article he says life isn’t like a videogame (and I agree to the extent that yes we have one shot to experience life through ‘this’ ‘perspective’)… maybe I’m just incredibly, incredibly narcissistic, but I like to think we come into this world, choosing our difficulty. (Meaning we come here many, many times.)

    If you had to build yourself from the ground up, that means you chose to play the game of Life with higher difficulty, because your “soul” is not a pussy.

    With that in mind, I’m glad I had to put in the hard work. You say you have an immense God-given talent. I do, too. I’m not sure what yours is. Mine’s more in the realm of visual artistry. But don’t you feel amazing, to say the least, when you create something Beautiful from absolutely fucking nothing. When you turn something shitty into fucking gold. And isn’t it fun to revel in the fact that the majority of people can’t do what you do. Not just in terms of your gift, your craft, whathaveyou, but what you’ve done with your life as a “canvas” itself. Not to mention among the hordes of men and women with perhaps similar backgrounds. Sure they may have chose to play this game at a similar level, but the fact they don’t or haven’t done shit means they can’t handle it.

    Again, it highlights how awesome those that can, are.

  26. Not to derail but ..

     

    But, young grasshopper, if I am right and you are wrong, watch out – there is a price to pay for ignorance and I don’t want to pay that bill and either do you.

    This is called Pascal’s wager. The old ‘there’s no real price to believing and being wrong, but might as well ‘fake it’ at least to get into heaven’.

    Atheists have refuted this many times, but among the problems:

    1 You may believe in the wrong God or commandments who will damn you to hell anyway.

    2 It’s pretty hard to ‘hypnotize’ yourself into believing something. IE, you ought to believe that unicorns actually metaphysically exist, or be damned!

    3 There is definitely a price to pay to living your entire existence based on an invisible man living in the sky (and look at the ‘price’ happening in the Middle East and our own history) — to pray to nobody and believe in eternal life and that you will be reunited with loved ones. To live your entire life based on delusion on the ‘off-chance’ that Mr. God exists and  really cares about your belief in him (or her?) and no other factors, and uses this as the sole criteria whether to send you to eternal hellflame, because, d’uh, he left no evidence but c’mon!

    But mostly atheists reject Pascal’s wager just because we simply think the odds of a ‘Creator’ existing are infinitesimally small. It’s telling me to wax my balls every day on the off-chance that Beazlebub the Destructor of Babylon ‘may’ send me to eternal hellflame when I die if I don’t follow ballsack rituals. Uh… I’ll take my chances.

     

  27. Why do you hate that?

    I don’t hate the fact that I had to work hard, I hate the fact that the playing field was tilted against me and tilted in favour of other people. I managed to overcome those odds, but what I want for the future, for my kids (if they occur) is for the playing field to be as level as possible. 99% of people couldn’t do what I have done, but everyone should have the chance to fulfil their potential. I strongly believe that the existing society does not deliver this.

    But don’t you feel amazing, to say the least, when you create something Beautiful from absolutely fucking nothing. When you turn something shitty into fucking gold. And isn’t it fun to revel in the fact that the majority of people can’t do what you do. Not just in terms of your gift, your craft, whathaveyou, but what you’ve done with your life as a “canvas” itself…

    I am proud of what I have achieved, and there is enough ego in me to revel in the fact that I can do it and other people cannot, I will agree! As I say, I just want a fair fight, or at the very least a fairer fight, than we get now. I’m not asking for brain surgeons and road sweepers to be valued equally, I’m not asking for everyone to be patted on the back and told that they’re a winner, but I do believe everyone deserves basic dignity and a meritocratic shot at developing their skills and ultimately lives.

    That doesn’t happen now, in my estimation, by a long chalk.

  28. –diet…once you no longer keep pressuring yourself to maintain that extra twenty-five pounds of aesthetic bulk (for others’ approval), it’s easy to eat right and chill out.  My problem for years was trying to gain weight though. Other guys, might have the opposite problem. As a middle-aged man, my focus is simply health, not overeating to maintain a few lumps on my shoulders to win compliments. I used to do that and it’s exhausting. Too much food. Not to mention about 4k a year more for that food. And often living in a catabolic, high cortisol, stressed state when you don’t eat that 4-5ooo calories a day that you should be eating if you’re lifting heavy. This is something not discussed often enough when weight lifting is the topic.

    I’ll slightly disagree with that part. I’ve been lifting weights for the past 21 years and can tell you for sure that if it’s not: 1-enjoyable and 2-done for your own high standards, you will let go and quit.

    I do agree that sometimes it’s a hassle to eat a little extra, but if it’s just a means to an end (achieve the long-term goal of holding an outstanding health and physique, even at old age) you’ll find a way to do it for cheap and without compromising your other relevant activities. I do it, and know plenty of guys who do it too.

    Anyway, if you want to add lean mass there’s a big difference between overeating and doing a slightly increase in your daily caloric consumption. Everytime I think I need to get my weight up, I’ll just add an extra 150/200 cal a day (mostly on easy digesting fats/carbs) and my weight will go up without adding body fat (providing I’m training and sleeping right). That’s nothing.

    Main issue is people want fast results. I have no problem waiting 5-6 months, or even years, to get a desirable outcome in the gym, because I know that as long as I do everything right it will sure come. Few have that patience.

    As I said, it’s always better to take baby steps and keep pushing it than try to rush things and just burnout.

  29. Sorry BD – he opened the door.

    Johnnbegood

    So Atheists, and I presume yourself, disagree with the idea of a higher power and we are just hypnotizing ourselves to believe in something that has no evidence.  Have you been to the library and read or studied all the evidence there is? Have you talked to the subject matter experts, investigated the options or reviewed the complexities of the human condition, our existence and historical manuscripts that support it?  You can believe what you want – it’s a free country. But to outright deny the existence of a high power (or GOD) is self delusional at best and self serving and ignorant at worst.  And a second point, it is not “you” or I who determine if there is a GOD, that would be just a case for the use of thorazine! lol.. It is through the Holy Spirit that we are made ‘aware” of him, period. Empirical research bears this out. Study what some of the most famous Atheists, Agnostics have to say when they converted to Christianity  (Antony Flew, Aleksandr Solzhenitsyn (Noble Prize Winner) Dr. Russell Humphreys, Physicist – Duke University, Dr Russell Humphreys, Neurosurgeon 100’s more) He comes not through logic, but the through the human heart and soul. Yea, he cares, read the scriptures. He also loves you, and the 10 commandments, which one would you not teach to your children?  And regarding faking it, are you kidding me, you can’t fake it and you know that, and it’s not you, but again, the Holy Spirit and his grace that allow you to know he exists. If this world is the best it gets’s wow, what a waste of time. The poor, the homeless, the naked, the sick, the suffering, the blind, the murdered, the raped, Donald J. Trump! lol….  for what? You tell me the answer to that question. Tell me what the purpose of life is. I want your explanation of what it is, write me a short narrative and describe the reason we are all here and explain what its all about. Die with the most toys, have sex with the most women, build the greatest company the world has ever seen, come on, all verbal flatulence. Give me your intellectual arguments, documented evidence, scholarly expertise, years of study and intimate understanding of human life, not your (or your Dad’s, brothers’s whoever) opinion.  But, again I respect your right to choose and your right to believe what you want, it’s call free will.  We all have it. The idea of salvation and heaven make complete and utter sense. Full circle Pascal’s Wager, – he looks into the human heart and soul, you can’t fake it, he knows the difference.  Good health to you and your love ones.

     

    God Bless

     

  30. @Don: If you are right, you don’t follow God’s “commands” so you will pay the price anyway. If you think you play ball by God’s will then newsflash, you ain’t. So if I’m wrong we both end up in hell and 99.99999% of the population.

    I’m not ignorant. I know fully, with absolute conviction that God(or any man-made god) does not exist. It is a fiction of man, to serve his spiritual needs. The fairy tale of God is so absurd I’m so astonished that clever people still believe in it.

    Also higher power does not mean your God, or Buddha or the 12 god of Olympus or the gods of Egypt. Higher power might mean whatever. It is definitely not the God you believe in because you define it in ridiculous ways. Knowing what we know today the tale of God(or any religions) is ridiculous and a big joke.

    I might believe in a higher power that I cannot define(that’s why some people are called agnostics and not atheists). But I know for certainty THAT higher power does not care about Don or any other human being.

     

  31. BD – this has to stop! lol

    hey hey.

    First your human, he knows that. The fact is you “try” to follow his commandments. Which one don’t’ you like? We all fall / fail, I have seen SIN directly, you want to know, go ahead and ask. I am not close to perfect and either is 99% of the population. Will I sin again, most likely, but I try not to, (this is referred to as spiritual maturation) and when I do, I ask him for forgiveness. That is most likely a foreign concept to you. Have you ever asked for forgiveness form anyone in your life?

    All you have is your 0pinion.  State your case. If you came into a court of Law with that as your defense, the Judge would dismiss it on grounds of incompetence. So, give me your evidence and make your argument. I am listening.

     

    God Bless you and your family.

     

     

  32. The next atheist or Christian who makes a comment here about the existence of god will have their comment deleted. If I have to delete your comments more than once you will be banned.

    This is not the place for that discussion. Thanks.

  33. It should be completely obvious to anyone with a grain of intelligence that Trump is simply (a) running for office solely for the glorification of his massive ego, (b) is willing to say absolutely anything to get elected…and then retract it immediately if criticised.

    The people supporting Trump don’t care, and that includes manospherians They want him as a weapon against the establishment, not as a good president who is consistent or makes sense.

    And for the record, you don’t sound very “left” to me.

  34. I didn’t think I’d see the day that a religion troll made BD get the banhammer ready lol. Most trolls here are usually massive SJWs or Elliot Rodger nuthuggers.

    Now we need to see some raging SJW Atheist come by to balance things out. I mean I’ll admit to being a raging anarchist (big supporter of Adam Kokesh) as well as a dabbler in conspiracy theory but at least I hide my power level lol.

    The bizarre obsession that the ‘manosphere’ has with the right has, predictably, led to a lot of its advocates supporting Donald Trump. This just does not make any sense.

    You can’t figure it out? Trump is pretty much (on the surface at least) channeling the frustrations of (most) manospherians. Its the same reason why SJWs want everyone to “feel the bern.” But like you say its all hot air. If he gets elected (which he won’t, Lizard Empress Hillary has pretty much already won lol), he won’t do anything. My beef with most manospherians (as well as SJWs) is that they want to create their own brand of justice to justify their hate. Feminist SJWs want all sex that they don’t approve of to be rape etc etc (funny that these same feminsts represent a good 66% of BDSM and straight up IGNORE molestation and pedophilia lol), while tradcons want the whole world to go back to the middle ages cuz they think it will benefit them (it won’t, it’ll just make them EVEN LESS attractive to chicks).

     

  35. I didn’t think I’d see the day that a religion troll made BD get the banhammer ready lol. Most trolls here are usually massive SJWs or Elliot Rodger nuthuggers.

    I get it from both sides, the left and the right. Always have. (Because the left and the right are wrong on most issues.)

    Feminist SJWs want all sex that they don’t approve of to be rape etc etc…while tradcons want the whole world to go back to the middle ages cuz they think it will benefit them (it won’t, it’ll just make them EVEN LESS attractive to chicks).

    Yep, one of the many reasons why I get it from both sides.

  36. I realise I’m not going to change your deeply held views…but I don’t understand this obsession in the ‘manosphere’ with the ‘left’ being evil. I don’t really like the terms ‘right’ and ‘left’ anyway, nor do I want to get into a long critique of why not. I just don’t understand this attitude, particularly from someone who rightly recognises that we live in an elite-dominated society that views us as cattle. At best.

     

    The ‘left’ and the ‘right’ is evil because they pass laws and policies that force others to do things they do not want to do. Leftist continually implement asinine social programs where I support near do wells to breed more worthless people for the most part. The right puts in a prison as well with drug laws and marriage laws and such. Don’t even get me started on taxation. The warfare state is as much an issue as the welfare state.

  37. Number 13. Nobody has the right to make you unhappy.

    Every day I dread going to work. I see old men with silver hair avoiding looking me in the eye, defeated. I see little promise in what my future holds in corporate. I am smarter than my boss (note: my boss is more knowledgeable, but not smarter) and she makes me absolutely furious almost daily.

    I am planning to quit in August. If I quit then, I will not be obligated to a lease (see: free housing with generous parents), and I will have enough money to make it through 2016 to establish an entrepreneurial venture.

    Though, I seriously consider quitting after every interaction with anyone in this depressing building. I’ve been sticking it out since October. Do I go 4 more months, or do I put my two weeks in tomorrow and start persuing my mission immediately?

    Financially I’d only be set for about five months. I have no idea when I’d start generating revenues again without picking up another job I’d grow to hate. That’s the last thing I’d want.

  38. @ Horatio

    If your soul is really hurting. Like you feel like you’re having heart attacks. Leave now. You never know what kind of help comes your way when you make that kind of leap. It will also force you to cut out absolutely anything you do not need. You will be forced to learn how to manage your finances, expectations, everything better.

    If you want, or can wait longer. Start reducing your hours and at the same time start doing the actual thing(s) you want to do if you haven’t done so already. Start learning the skillset, setting up your work area, etc., etc. It’s an iterative process so start that now.

    (However, in my experience, I remember this made me want to quit more.)

    Your transition doesn’t have to be abrupt. There is also no shame in picking up a chill or semi-shitty PART-TIME job later if you find you need to. So long as you still give yourself enough time to do what it is you want.

    Ultimately:

    If the idea of leaving now stresses you out more than staying at your job, don’t do it.

    Also, I’d venture to say a year is not enough anyways. Meaning you’re gonna have to adapt regardless.

  39. @ joelsurf  I disagree, I think if Trump goes against Clinton in a general election, he will win, and quite handily. However, he might not get the nomination in the first place. At least, if all the country-club, dorky, effete, old white dudes in the GOP can do anything to stop him, they will. But if he can get the nomination, he will win the general. I’m taking wagers. 🙂

    Good list BD. Although, I am curious, what percentage of the population do you think could get away with living like this without the whole system collapsing (and yes I know you don’t care about potential collapse, I’m just curious). I used to try to convince other people to be like/live like me, but then at a certain point I had to accept that realistically, our complex social system is not sustainable if you have a lot of people who aren’t totally invested in and dependent on it. So really, I think only a small percentage of people could get away with living like me before the whole thing falls apart. My whole MO is basically to minimize my emotional/financial/legal/social obligations to others to the maximum extent possible while maximizing my short and long term freedom. It’s worked out well for me (relatively, and at least for the time being), but I don’t think it works if most people lived that way. And to a certain extent I benefit from everyone else being more invested in the social system than I am.

  40. @gluteus_maximus

    Yeah it’s a lot to consider because it’s such a massive paradigm shift in my daily life.

    First let me thank you for the input. We owe each-other nothing but taking the time makes me appreciate the community of like-minded individuals on the Black-Dragosphere.

    I’ve established a decent plan and I get giddy when I look at my post-August life. I’ll likely stick it out because it follows the most logical path as opposed to following emotional whim. I don’t think that makes me any more beta or alpha or what-have-you. It’s just what I have to do to get out of the corner I’ve backed myself into based on life/career choices.

    For all those young bloods (Hell, I’m young blood at 25), BD knows what he’s saying when he says college is unnecessary. Knowing what I now know, I would never have attended. Knowing what I now know, corporate life is a sad, depressing existence, and I would never pay to work my ass off in college to work through governmental policies, workplace politics, and bureaucratic bullshit.

    Also, Gluteus_Maximus, I think I always knew I’d be working part time while working on my mission. After all, money isn’t gonna pop up overnight. But, during my after hours while working and all the open hours I get after quitting, I think money is likely to start coming in through my mission. Just gotta work the plan I’ve written.

  41. what percentage of the population do you think could get away with living like this without the whole system collapsing

    I’ve been asked that question (or a variation of it) a thousand times, and my answer is always the same: it would never happen, since only a small percentage of men would ever live a life like this. I suspect less than 5-10% of men in the Western world would actually take the time to live this way even if I was as famous and mainstream as someone like Tim Ferriss or Tony Robbins.

    If you really want a specific answer of where collapse would occur, I’m really not sure. I just know that worrying about what would happen if the world was invaded buy purple unicorns is silly and a waste of time.

    realistically, our complex social system is not sustainable if you have a lot of people who aren’t totally invested in and dependent on it

    Perhaps, perhaps not. It depends on lots of different factors way too complex to get into here. What you’re really saying is, our system as it stands right now wouldn’t work if most people were truly independent. Probably true.

    As Ayn Rand pointed out, the only universe you have for comparison is the one right in front of you. Therefore, you lack a lot of information about other ways to do things.

    My whole MO is basically to minimize my emotional/financial/legal/social obligations to others to the maximum extent possible while maximizing my short and long term freedom.

    Yeah. Me too.

    It’s worked out well for me (relatively, and at least for the time being), but I don’t think it works if most people lived that way.

    Again, you’re talking about a fantasy that will never happen, since most people would never live this way. Not even a plurality.

    And to a certain extent I benefit from everyone else being more invested in the social system than I am.

    Financially, no, since I have to pay taxes to support all of these lazy idiots. Sexually, yes. I get tons of sex from girlfriends of Alpha Male 1.0s, and due to the prevalence of betas, my sexual competition is truly pathetic.

  42. And for the record, you don’t sound very “left” to me.

    I don’t really like the terms ‘right’ and ‘left’, but I would characterise the right as being the hardline everyone should stand on their own two feet, welfare should be scrapped completely, the economic elite should be able to do whatever they want unencumbered, any suggestion that the social structure is unfair is just loser talk, etc. I don’t agree with that, but I do want people to have basic liberty and freedom, however, this can only occur when everyone has relatively equal opportunity. That is not the case at present, not least because the elite are allowed to fix everything in their favour, and if you even point this out you’re likely to be called a Communist!

    You can’t figure it out? Trump is pretty much (on the surface at least) channeling the frustrations of (most) manospherians.

    Yeah, this happens in elections all of the time. Obama was supposed to offer ‘hope’ and ‘change’, remember that? Black Americans genuinely thought it was meaningful that a black person had become president. Wow, what a surprise, once in office he backtracked on everything he said while campaigning, did absolutely nothing for the average black person whatsoever, and gave a shit tonnes of money to Wall Street. I didn’t see that one coming.

    If you vote for Trump, prepare to be disappointed. Not just because Clinton is likely to get elected! Either way your planet is doomed, doomed!

  43. Pretty solid list, this one is becoming rather difficult though:

    Completely avoid all legal structures in your personal relationships with women

    In Australia if you’ve been living with a woman for over 18 months you’re essentially married. In fact you’re better off getting married after you’ve been living together 18 months.

    Children are the big one. It’s extremely difficult/impossible to escape the governments involvement in how your kids are raised and what happens to them (and your assets) in the case of a break up/divorce. That’s the hardest thing to protect against in your life, either you don’t have kids, or you just accept that you’ve implicitly signed a bad contract with the mother and the government if you do.

  44. BD and others,

     

    I am lurking around your blog since a long time and always enjoy reading your comments and reports. I would love to receive a respone. I’m 30, live in Germany and work since my graduation in a big german bank as Analyst. Personally my biggest goal at this moment is to earn enough money through different income streams so that I am outcome independent in this area.

     

    Currently I earn “only” 75k EUR pre-tax and I am doing extra work in my free time which nets me around an additional 5-7.5k EUR per year. For this I already need to work 60+ hours per week which is on top of my heavy lifting and training regime (15+ hours per week) and time for dates / sex with different women pretty “taxing” sometimes. I manage but I can only do this because I have a lot of leeway in my day-to-day work. I could work for other banks in other areas and earn probably 20k more but would have to easily work up to 70-80+ hours per week. I think that’s not the smartest way of “moving up the ladder”.

     

    You always suggest going the route to become a consultant and / or market yourself in a different way. My biggest fear which keeps me from doing such a move is the security that I currently enjoy in my employment. I couldn’t just start something out of thin air and expect to keep up with my monthly expenses and I doubt it would lead to a happier life medium term. I love biology/physiology and working out. I plan to get a license to become a coach / personal trainer this year but this market is also not easy to get started in.

     

    I can’t see myself working as employee for the rest of my life. But currently the money is too easy to get without much “stress”. Starting my own company I fear that I will make considerably less in the medium term (which will be though to make it financially) and not without a LOT of more work than I currently do (60+ hours) which would also cut considerably into my personal hapiness. I need my time in the gym daily and also time for the women in my life.

     

    I know this sounds like a lot like complaining but I am just searching for advice from people that have made it so far already in this world and are way more experienced than me in those areas. I am doing fine so far but I am not satisfied where I am. I am hungry.

     

    Thanks and best regards

     

    Craw

     

     

     

  45. Horatio from earlier in the comments section is willing to live back in with his PARENTS.

    You can’t move to a shittier less expensive place? Sell your car and buy a used one? Keep it down to 2-3 FBs? Hell, even fucking one. (But hopefully you won’t get one-eyetis.)

    You really think that’s going to be permanent?

    You’re spreading yourself too thin. And you’re too invested in what you already have. It’s as simple as that.

    It’s like racing down a track trying to make a sharp left turn at 120mph. You have to fucking slow down first.

    You have to be the kind of person who’s willing to let go of shit.

    This is like the first lesson of changing your life. Are you willing to stop being the person who got you into the circumstances you’re in.

    You realize most guys are too much of pussies to even get over that first hurdle.

    If you’re too scared to go straight into personal training, reduce your expenses, work less hours at your job, and double down on what’s earning you that 5-7k. Are those not already sources of clients you’re helping? Build on top of that. But don’t just make that into another 60+ hour job (IF that is not what you actually want to do.)

    The formula is very, very, very, very, VERY fucking simple.

    Because….. There are only so many hours in a day and in a week and in a month.

    Who do you think is gonna get better at learning how to cook? Some dude who buys packaged salads and cooks only once a week — God forbid Once a month? Or someone who makes the time to cook EVERY DAY.

    You’re not gonna learn how to make money outside the comforts of your job if you don’t fucking do it. And you can’t do that if you don’t even give yourself the time to fucking do it.

    If you’re not gonna go Balls-In into personal training, you shouldnt even be working out all the time anyways. You can gain that shit back later. You might even get better from taking a break and taking the time to reflect on it.

  46. In Australia if you’ve been living with a woman for over 18 months you’re essentially married. In fact you’re better off getting married after you’ve been living together 18 months.

    I have no idea if co-habitation agreements are enforceable in Australia. They probably aren’t. If that’s the case, then yeah, Australian men shouldn’t live full-time with a woman. Live part-time with her, or move out of the country (or don’t ever live with anyone). And this is not an Australian thing: I say the same thing to men living in California and England.

    Children are the big one. It’s extremely difficult/impossible to escape the governments involvement in how your kids are raised and what happens to them (and your assets) in the case of a break up/divorce.

    Correct. Men in the Western world need to understand that the very act of having kids puts a goverment gun to their heads. This gun isn’t as big as a marriage gun, but it’s still there.

    Having kids is a very, very big decision, perhaps the biggest in your life, and it’s far bigger than getting married or living with a woman. Men don’t give it enough thought before they do it.

    My biggest fear which keeps me from doing such a move is the security that I currently enjoy in my employment.

    Yes, this is the standard beta male fear that keeps them imprisoned by corporate culture.

    I know this sounds like a lot like complaining but I am just searching for advice from people that have made it so far already in this world and are way more experienced than me in those areas.

    Just follow the standard model I’ve discussed before. It’s very simple.

    1. Only work the bare minimum hours your job requires and that’s it. Work just hard enough to not get yelled at, no more.

    2. Temporarily pause all other major activities or at least dial them down (women, friends, fitness, etc). Remember that this is a temporary dial-down, not permanent. If you are not willing to temporarily do this, you’re not serious about taking charge of your life.

    3. Either build a side-business to the point that it supports about 60% of your monthly bills or save up some cash so that you have at least one year of savings in the bank to support you when you quit. (Or do both!)

    4. When ready, quit your job and go full time with your business. You’ll either have savings to help you or your 60% income which you can quickly get to 100% once you have the 40-60 hours per week freed up by not having a job.

    5. Focus and marketing and sales so you can get your income up fast. Don’t fall into the trap of focusing on your product or service like most new business owners do.

    6. Be happy and enjoy your new free life.

  47. This is probably one of the best things any AFC or beta can ever read. It`s streamlined, right to the point and effective.

    That doesn`t mean these rules are easy to follow. I have found after reading your material for years that some weren`t too bad to follow, some took some adjusting and others were downright hard. I`m still working on earning the $75,000 per year you talk about but the rest I am either there, or close to being there with.

    I urge any male who isn`t 100% satisfied in life to print these off, put them on the mirror and look at them each morning, ala Rocky Balboa. Lol

    Thanks man.

    Calum

  48. It is good that you mentioned which negative emotions you should avoid, since I currently have a couple not on the list that I believe I have to learn to handle. Nervousness, that I hope will lessen with practice and confidence. Anxiety to meet new people, that I now almost only notice in a smal rear area of my conciousness. And some other stuff related to being a very prononced introvert 🙂

    But thanks for all your tips, books and time, my life is slowly improving!

  49. 2. Temporarily pause all other major activities or at least dial them down (women, friends, fitness, etc). Remember that this is a temporary dial-down, not permanent. If you are not willing to temporarily do this, you’re not serious about taking charge of your life.

    To me this is the hardest (by far) to do on your list.

    Not easy to let go of those good habits (even for a while).

  50. To me this is the hardest (by far) to do on your list.

    Yes. That’s likely the hardest for most people.

  51. A great post, and coincidentally the one regarding outcome independence (Rule #3) has been on my mind and I’ve been working on that.  I’m American, and have found women to be a constant source of dissappointment, frustration, and wasted time and effort due to the silliness of pre-wall women and the emotionally damaged post-wall women.  Flaking is extremely common now, and without a “IDGAF” attitude, tuned into outcome independence, I can see why some men would simply give up.

    Regarding change:  I’ve found over time after working on myself over the last 2 years or so (especially physically, now I have a good muscular body & and dress well and get compliments) that there’s a lot of inner work to be done.  Both aren’t something that happen immediately, and change takes progressive time.

    In my opinion the hardest challenge a man will face is changing himself.  Affecting your personality is extremely hard, as we’re shaped into who we are after years of up-bringing, social programming, personal insecurities, and more.  It’s well worth it, but we need to be aware of that it will take some real effort.

    Recently I’ve been thinking a lot about location-independent income, and will start working on that soon as well.  It amazes me to hear from men who live overseas and make American money, enjoying a fantastic life with better women and true independence.

    One comment for those guys reading this who haven’t started hitting the gym yet:  DO IT.  It is one of the most beneficial things you can do, and has significantly changed how I’m treated by both men and women.  Not only that, when you reach a certain level and have hit relatively higher points in strength and appearance, there is a “feedback loop” from how people treat you, which will positively affect your confidence and even start to mold your personality more into that of the type of men the author here illustrates.

    Thanks for the great post. I’ll be bookmarking it and re-reading it.  It’s that good.

    Note: how unfortunate there’s so much “noise” in the comments section for this one.  This is far too valuable to be distracted by meaningless off-topic stuff.

  52. Note: how unfortunate there’s so much “noise” in the comments section for this one.  This is far too valuable to be distracted by meaningless off-topic stuff.

    ‘Tis the nature of the blogging medium. We’ve gotta take the good with the bad. Great comment though.

  53. There is no need for you to experience any negative emotions once you’ve hit age 25 or so.

    BD, do you have any general advice (that you think the average person isn’t aware of) on dealing with the loss of one’s parents ? It seems like the one exception where even the alpha 2.0 over 25 is going to experience negative emotions no matter what.

  54. BD, do you have any general advice (that you think the average person isn’t aware of) on dealing with the loss of one’s parents ? It seems like the one exception where even the alpha 2.0 over 25 is going to experience negative emotions no matter what.

    Buy my book and read Chapter Two. I address that fully.

    There will be very rare, unusual, isolated occurrences that are outside of your control that will cause you unhappiness, but they will be very rare, unusual, and isolated.

    How often are your parents going to die? You’re going to live approximately 80 years and it’s going to happen once or twice in that time frame.

    See my point?

  55. Politically speaking, do you have to be a Libertarian and vote Republican to be Alpha 2.0?

    Political affiliation has nothing whatsoever to do with Alpha 2.0 status. You can be anything you want.

    In my book I said that it’s mentally easier to be Alpha 2.0 if you lean either left or libertarian, since leaning right often includes a lot of sex guilt, but it still doesn’t matter, you can be a right-wing Alpha 2.0 as long as you’re not too extreme about it.

  56. I know I will probably be blocked that is fine but BD the LORD will reach out to you if your heart is humble and you ask him directly and sincerely.

    I just want to help you out brother, no need for a argument or wanting to start drama just want to leave this verse here.

    Blackdragon:
    And you reek of insanity and stupidity if you think that everyone who believes in a higher power must automatically believe in the Judaeo Christian God. Please go talk about Jesus somewhere else dude. You’re wasting your time here.

    And for the record, I was raised by a Catholic nun and spent eight years in Catholic school. I have read the entire Bible except for the some of the poetry parts (Psalms, etc) and can recite numerous Christian and Catholic payers by heart. I probably know more about Yahweh and Jesus than you do. None of that stuff worked, because it’s false Societal Programming.

    This is my past post here on this matter. Hopefully yours was too.

    Luke 10:21 At that time Jesus, full of joy through the Holy Spirit, said, “I praise you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth, because you have hidden these things from the wise and learned, and revealed them to little children. Yes, Father, for this is what you were pleased to do.
    That is why it is hidden from you.
     

  57. I know I will probably be blocked

    I don’t block people who disagree with me. Never have and never will. I only block people who violate the Five Simple Rules.

    If someone is derailing a conversation with off-topic stuff, then I ask them to stop, but I don’t block them.

  58. I know I will probably be blocked that is fine but BD the LORD will reach out to you if your heart is humble and you ask him directly and sincerely.”

    I realize you seem to have good intentions, my friend, but posts like this do nothing but derail and water down blog topics/discussions like B.D. takes the time to start here.

    I for one have plenty of ideas or opinions floating around in my head here also, but I don’t insert them where they don’t belong, are irrelevant, or provide nothing useful.

    It’s hard enough finding places men can discuss non-politically-correct subjects like here or over at Reddit.com/r/TheRedPill.  The amount of hate and insults we’ll get for it is immense.

    We don’t need having it watered down more to the point where is discourages men who come here to check out what’s being talked about.

    Remember the rule:  THINK before you type.

  59. BD, I often find that I can take Outcome Independence a little too far. For example, with women I stop wearing shirts when I go out, I stop looking in the mirror before leaving to make sure I look sharp, I stop approaching which leads to very bad results, there is somehow a line I am not seeing here. Do you have one tip to differentiate between OI and just being lazy?

  60. Do you have one tip to differentiate between OI and just being lazy?

    Outcome Independence means you don’t care what happens with any one interaction with a woman, but you still have an overall goal.

    Laziness means you have no goal, thus no motivation (other than to “have fun,” which is a shitty, very hazy goal, as I talked about in my first podcast).

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