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Decades ago, I listened to Tony Robbins say that the Fijians are the “happiest people in the world.” Many live in what Westerners consider squalor and drink a liquid that tastes like dirt, yet, according to him at least, they were smiling and happy, far more so than the typical Westerner.

I’ve heard a lot of other things about Fiji over the years, both good and bad. This is my first visit to the small island nation, and I was very curious to see if what I heard was true.

My reason for this paradise stopover on my current one-month trip to Asia was threefold:

1. To force myself to take a relaxing, three-day vacation after my nonstop go-go-go of the last three weeks in Asia.

2. To break up the painful 15 hour flight home into something more palatable: a relatively quick five hour flight to Fiji (from Australia) and then a 10 hour flight from Fiji to the US a few days later. Much better.

3. To ease back into the time zone of my home, instead of suddenly flying home and then feeling like a damn zombie for four days, which is about how long it takes me to get back to 100% when switching from opposite time zones going from east to west. (Going from west to east is much easier for some reason.)

That last one worked even better than I planned. The Fijian time zone is only three hours different from my home zone, Pacific Standard Time. It’s a full day ahead, but the actual time is only three hours behind.

Therefore, to reset my body clock without shocking my body too much, here’s what I did. As soon as I got on the plane in Melbourne, bound for Fiji, I switched the time on my phone and laptop to PST and considered myself on PST for the rest of my trip. During my entire stay in Fiji I forced myself to be on PST.

This means that I woke up every morning at 9am my time, which was 6am Fiji time, just in time to see the sunrise. Since your body clock is about sleep and blue light, as soon as I woke up I turned on all the lights, opened my curtains, and stared out into the morning sky for a while.

This was easy, since my hotel room was right on the water in a lagoon. Here is what I woke up to every morning:

fiji room

I could have stayed in an actual hut on the beach (called a bure); that would have been awesome. The only problem is huts don’t have air conditioning. During the day that would have been fine, but at night? When I had to go to sleep? Uh, no. I’m as Western, Northern, and white as they come. If I have to go to bed while feeling hot and humid, I’ll be tossing and turning all night and won’t get any sleep. So I did the next best thing; booked a hotel with AC but located literally on the water. It was nice.

Back to the body clock thing. Around 5:30pm my time (2:30pm Fiji time), I would hustle back to my hotel, turn off all the lights, close the curtains, and be a hermit for the rest of the evening until 11pm my time (8pm their time) which is when I went to bed. During that evening I would avoid looking at my phone (too much blue light there) but would allow myself to work on my laptop since I have the f.lux app installed.

This has worked great so far. I was a little sleepy during my first few days in Fiji (since I was getting up very early in regards to Asia/Australia time zones), but since the goal was relaxation, that was okay. By the time I arrive back home, my body clock will be completely adjusted and I’ll be able to hit the ground running.

Fiji is a truly a beautiful and relaxing place, but before I get into the details I should tell you about my only major screw-up during this month-long Asia trip. It was a doosey.

Because I’m a dumbass, I figured that Fiji was a little island like the Bahamas, where it takes you about 30 minutes to drive across the entire island. In actual fact, Fiji is a gigantic island, more like Hawaii, with hundreds of square miles, multiple cities, and multiple climate regions.

Whenever I find a hotel, I use Google Maps to verify how close it will be to everything, in both walking and car distances. I did not do this when I booked my hotel in Fiji, thinking the location didn’t matter because everything would be a max distance of 30 minutes away. (Oh, you sad dumbshit BD.)

So I walk out of the Fiji airport, find my hotel shuttle, get in, and we go. I’m excited as I always am, and can’t wait to get out and see everything. Just 10 minutes later, we arrive at the hotel. I’m thinking, “Wow, this is really close to the airport. Cool!”

Getting out of the shuttle, I realize the hotel has the same chain name, but is not the right hotel. I determine from asking around that indeed I’m at the wrong hotel, but I can take a taxi to get to my correct one.

So no problem, I hop in a taxi, tell him where to go, and off we go. I banter with the taxi driver, and he remarks that it will take three hours to get to my hotel. I laugh, thinking he’s making a joke. He laughs too. A little later he says it again; it will take three hours to get there.

“Wait a minute,” I say, my blood turning to ice water, “Seriously?”

“Yes, sah,” he says.

“Wait a fuckin’ minute. It’s going to take THREE HOURS to drive to my hotel? From where we are right now?”

“Yes, sah,” he says in his thick Hindi accent, “About three hours. Suva. East side of island. About three hours from here.”

I shake my head. “THREE HOURS?” I say again. I had just sat for five hours on the fucking flight over. I hadn’t eaten or gone to the bathroom.

“Yeah,” he says again, “Three hours. I get you there by 8:45pm.”

“How much is this going to cost?” I ask, shaking my head in disbelief and seriously pissed.

“220,” he says.

I whip out my phone, bring up my currency converter app, and plug in 220 Fijian dollars. It reports an equivalent to $101 US. God dammit. I just went $100 over my travel budget, not to mention wasting three fucking hours, and not to mention I’ll have to do this all over again on Thursday to get back to Fiji’s only international airport. Fuckballs.

I think fast. Maybe I can cancel my hotel and just get one closer to the airport. But no, I was a dumbass yet again. For some reason, during my Hong Kong euphoria, I broke one of my own cardinal rules and used Hotels.com to book the hotel room. This meant that the entire stay was already pre-paid, uncancelable, and nonrefundable. Fuckity fuckbeans. I really screwed this pooch.

“How do people normally get to the hotel from the airport if it takes three hours by car?” I ask incredulously. My eyes narrow, thinking this is some kind of scam.

“People take domestic flight to other airport when they land in Nadi. About 30 minutes.”

Oh well. Since everything in my life is my fault, I decide to reframe the experience. I clear my head, and “decide” that I’ve paid this nice taxi driver $100 to take me on a three-hour tour of his beautiful island. I take a few deep breaths, sit back, and relax.

On the way there, I have the guy stop off at a gas station so I can take a piss and quickly grab something to eat in the car. He politely does so, and soon we’re back on the road. I’m in the back seat with my shoes off, leaning back, and watching the beautiful landscape go by. When it starts to get dark, I pull out my laptop and get some work done, which is easy for me since I have nine hours of laptop power wherever I go. It ended up being a nice and relaxing experience.

Sometimes you’ll screw up in life, but life is still what you make it. Your happiness is your responsibly; no one else’s.

Now let’s talk Fiji:

1. The people. Interestingly, Fiji is made of up two distinct races: Fijians (about 50% of the population) and Indians (about 44%). The Fijians are various, casual versions of Christianity, the Indians are very devout Hindus.

The Fijians are indeed super happy, amazingly so. Whenever you see any together, you always, and I mean always, see them smiling, laughing, and joking around. When you drive by their ramshackle homes, they smile and wave at you as you pass by. Even if men are working out in the fields, sweating and doing back-breaking work, when you drive by they pause, smile big, and wave. Little kids actually play outside here (mostly because it’s a third world country and there isn’t anything else to do). I haven’t seen children play outside since…the 80s.

Not once during my entire visit so far have I seen a Fijian upset, about anything. Even in Australia I saw a few pissed off people, but not here in Fiji.

The Hindu Indians here are also happy, and very polite and pleasant, but more organized and reserved than the Fijians. They’re also much classier, snappier, well-dressed, and poised. Most of the Indian women here dress in traditional Hindu fashion, with bright, colorful, sparkly (and sometimes just a little sexy) dresses, complete with bindis (those things in the middle of their foreheads). The Indian men are also a little better dressed than the very casual, often slovenly Fijians.

Watching the outcome independent Fijians alongside the very outcome dependent Indians here has been a fascinating social study. Both groups get along great, and I haven’t heard one group badmouth the other (though perhaps that might be done behind closed doors here; not sure).

The difference between the two peoples is stark. As just one example, if you get into a taxi with an Indian driver, he’ll be very professional and negotiate with you hard. His taxi will be completely clean, plush, comfortable, and nice. Get into a taxi with a Fijian driver, and the car will look and smell like shit (sometimes literally) and the guy will be smiling, laughing, and joking with you for the entire trip. Both taxi rides are a fun experience.

The world “bula” completely permeates this culture. I’ve never seen another culture dominated by a single word. Bula is said like “hello” but it also means “life” or “good health,” and is used as a blessing (like after someone sneezes). Not only do the Fijians say it constantly, the word is plastered on signs everywhere you look. You’ll see it on a billboard for McDonald’s. You’ll see it mounted above their ATMs. You’ll even see it on their water:

fiji water

They also have “ridiculous” ice cream here. It says so on the ice cream:

fiji ice cream

So cute. And speaking of cute…

2. The women. Two kinds of women are here, so we’ll tackle both.

Sadly, the Fijian women have extremely masculine facial features, making them look quite unattractive, even the ones who are young or have big boobs. Again I made the mistake of assuming Fijian women would look super exotic-hot like the amazing women of the Bahamas. And again, I feel stupid for making such a foolish assumption. (Bahamas is in a completely different part of the world, with a completely different culture and race.)

I spent an entire day in Suva, the capital city of Fiji (more like a capital town, population about 175,000). Even considering this, during my entire stay so far I’ve seen a grand total of two Fijian women I consider minimal cute enough to have sex with. Not good. Even then, both these women clearly had some foreign blood (Indian, Asian, or European). As usual, mixed women are cuter, but those pure Fijian women are definitely a local’s taste only.

Like everyone else in Fiji, the Fijian women are very nice though. They smile at you, wave at you, and maintain great eye contact. They’re always happy to see you, the young and old women alike. This could be because I’m white, but I’m not sure that was the case (it’s hard to tell sometimes).

Big, 1970s-style afros are in style with Fijian women, which I find fascinating. You see women all over the place looking like Pam Grier in Coffy. Kinda funny. I just wish they were better looking.

Now the Indian women, that’s a completely different story. Many of the ones who aren’t overweight are super hot, shockingly so, far more than Indian women I see in the US. I have no idea why this is the case, but if you ever go to Fiji and visit its small cities you’ll see what I mean. Holy moly.

I talked to several of these young Indian girls and man, they were so hot I have to admit I was getting pretty excited. Perfect skin, beautiful eyes, perfect, feminine features, lilting voices (standard Hindi accent), sexy, tight bodies. It also helps that they are arrayed perfectly with their makeup and their Hindi dresses, with shiny diamonds in their foreheads.

The problem, as I understand from many men who know Fiji well, is that the Indian girls here are notorious prudes, and that you shouldn’t even bother talking to them if sex is one of your goals. If you want to get laid here, you’re going to have to deal with the Fijian girls (yuck), or perhaps the Fijian or Asian hookers who frequent the larger towns (again, yuck). I didn’t have the time or the desire to prove this wrong on this trip, though perhaps on a future visit I might.

You know those jaded older Western men who go abroad, and find a young foreign girl, fall in love with her instantly, and marry her almost on the spot? I would never do something so reckless, needy, and stupid, but I as a man I understand the emotions involved, and these Indian girls demonstrated this for me.

I mean, you’re sitting there talking to a young, hot woman who is pretty much a 9, and she likes you, she’s smiling, happy, super-feminine, not jaded, not pissed, not nervous, not demanding dinner or drinks, not spouting off crap about how she’s strong and independent and doesn’t need you, and not making demands about how a “gentleman” should behave. There’s none of the angst, stress, masculinity, or suspicious vibe so common in Western women. Just pure happiness, attraction, and femininity.

I have to admit, it’s quite compelling. Again, I would never marry a foreign woman on the spot (I would never marry anybody; traditional monogamous marriage doesn’t work anymore), but I understand the emotions behind the act. Thank god I’m not a beta, or I would be dumb enough to marry one of these Indian girls (if their religious and familial Societal Programming allowed such a thing with a non-Hindu, non-Indian white man). Eye carubma.

3. Third world. Fiji is a third world country. It’s not a third word shithole, since I make a distinction between “third world” and “third world shithole.” It is still pretty shitty though. Local newspapers have headlines such as “Two Die In Sword Attack” and “Ebola Scare Returns.”

Most people live in homes like this:

fiji house

Some of these houses do not have floors; they literally live in the dirt. Even with the ones that have floors, most do not have plumbing or electricity. Many other residents here live in large tents instead of houses.

A very small and lucky few live in boats:

fiji boats

The higher-income ones live in the cities, such as Suva, its capital and second largest. Even in that city, you won’t find any building taller than about eight or nine floors. Walking around a Fijian city is tough; they don’t have the usual emission controls most Western cities have, so there is a constant blast of very thick exhaust fumes blowing in your face. Walking around downtown is like walking inside of a giant tailpipe. In some ways it’s worse than cities in China.

One good side effect regarding this third world status for visitors is that everything is super cheap. Even in my hotel, which was a mid-range one by Western standards, the big breakfast buffet was just $16 US, so I did it every morning. $16 would be the cost of just a salad in a Western (or even Eastern) first world city.

Land is ridiculously inexpensive. You can buy amazing beachfront plots for less than $10,000 US. Even people living in ramshackle homes own vast acreage (though non beachfront) all the way to the interior of the island.

It’s still the third world even in the hotels meant for Westerners. When I checked in, the air conditioner didn’t work. I had to go back out and complain. The guy told me I had to place my room card key in a little slot for it to work. I’m familiar with this system, but didn’t remember seeing a slot. I went all the way back to the room, looked around, couldn’t find it, and had to go all the way back to the lobby again. This time the guy came with me to “show me where it was.” I thought, “This should be good.”

He came into my room, looked around, and to his shock, he couldn’t find it either. He futzed with the controls for the AC and clearly it was still blowing hot air. Finally, in an embarrassed tone, he told me we’d have to switch rooms since there were no technicians on staff that late. I told him as long as the internet and the AC worked that would be fine.

They moved me to a room that indeed had a card slot, and the AC worked fine.

Then I hit the internet, and it was like being on dial-up in the 1990s. It worked, but barely. To get real online work done, I had to move my laptop out into the lobby, where even there it sucked but was a little faster.

See, shit just like this happened in Australia too, but I expected this crap in Fiji because it’s the third world. When this stuff happened in Australia, it just made Australia look bad.

Anyway, my hotel was very nice. It was right on the water, just like I had planned. The lobby, which was all open-air, looked like this.

fiji hotel

Nice.

4. Beautiful landscape. Fiji is beautiful. The beaches are nice, the water clean and warm (though not in the cities). Crabs walk right out of the ocean and just walk around. The east side of the the island (and yes, Fiji is more than one island but I stayed on the main one) is mostly uninhabited and covered by hilly, lush jungle. I’m astounded by the various types of trees here. Most forested areas around the world I’ve seen is dominated by two or three types of tress that you see lots of, usually growing together. In Fiji, there are scores of types of trees, all growing together in a green mass. It’s impressive.

fiji1

fiji2

fiji3

I got nailed by mosquitoes here but not too bad. If you go inland they’re more of an issue. I stayed on the edges (beaches and cities) for my trip.

5. China’s silent influence can be felt in Fiji everywhere, much like in Australia. Many of the TV channels in Fiji are in Chinese, even though Asians make up a very tiny percentage of the population. The Chinese have purchased vast tracts of land for future expansion, marking them with colorful Chinese flags. In one of these areas I saw, China is going to build an entire town, “Chinatown.” China is also going to help build a second international airport in Fiji, dwarfing their current largest one in Nadi.

Often you’ll be driving down a country road, looking at all the shit houses, then suddenly come across a huge, clean, modern, high-tech building, like a hospital. Every time you ask the taxi driver about it, he’ll say “China built it!”

When you go to the cheap or mid-range resorts, you see a lot of Australians, but when you go to the expensive resorts, you see Chinese.

When you drive by the warehouses and shipping yards, pretty much all of the containers you see are Hong Kong or Chinese companies.

The Fijians are very happy about China’s involvement and money. Constantly you hear, “China built our hospital!” “China is going to build us an airport!” “China is building us new schools!”

In a few years, China will own Fiji, just like they’ll soon own Africa.

The West fails, the East rises. That’s why I’m here, following the money.

That’s it for now. Next up, I finally return to the US, but before I go home I’m spending some time in one of the best-looking woman cities on the planet, Los Angeles…

14 Comments on “A Dragon In Fiji

  1. I don’t buy the “America is doomed / China is gold” economic argument.  There are various headwinds and tailwinds associated with each economy, and it’s ultimately a bit of an apples and oranges comparison. My confidence in the US economy of the medium to long term roots in the fact that we remain the heavyweight champions of innovation, and it’s not even close.  Silicon Valley continues to surge with massive amounts wealth creation.  All of the world’s top VCs say this isn’t changing.  In addition, our financial services industry is thriving. Wall Street still acts as the “main artery” of the world’s capital flows.  This mechanism allows us to capture profits of emerging economies globally, as we provide financing to their growth.

    China is cute, but they still haven’t figured out how to truly unlock their economy. I know because I work for a firm that is a large institutional investor there.  They love when you put money in… getting it out is another story.

    Again, this whole story could break either way, but it the prediction of the US’s demise and China’s meteoric rise within a 10-15 year timeframe is by no means a “lock” in my opinion.

  2. Youre three arguments:

    1. “I don’t believe this won’t happen because we innovate better than they do.”

    That is the one and only factor that helps us over them. Everyone else makes this same argument because it’s literally the only thing they can think of. Innovation is important, but it’s one factor in a list of about 15, and the other 14 are in China’s favor.

    2. “I don’t believe this will happen because America is still number one at the moment.”

    Meaningless.

    3. “China’s meteoric rise within a 10-15 year timeframe is by no means a “lock” in my opinion”

    That is not my position. I’ve said many times that A) it will be a slow transition and will take many decades for China/The East to surpass the West in a noticeable way, and B) China will have lots of major problems along their way to number one (economic collapses, wars, etc), just like the US did on their journey to number one.

    You don’t want to believe this because emotionally you don’t want to accept it. As a fellow American, I understand, but there’s too many facts staring us all in the face to ignore it. But if you’d rather believe that “America will be number one forever cuz we’re awesome!” just like the Romans and the British once believed, then feel free to do so.

    I play the long game. Always have.

  3. You got me all wrong! In a multi-decade time frame I absolutely agree.

    This isn’t an emotional topic for me- as a professional investor it can’t be. Most of our long-term capital still targets the U.S. although we are putting more and more into Asia every year.

    The innovation factor is also frequently mentioned because it is massive. Smart young people from all over the world (including Asia) move here for college and then start huge companies that create lots of wealth. This dynamic is incredibly powerful and there is not yet a visible catalyst for it to deteriorate. Inevitably, as you suggest, it will (just not for a long time)

  4. Great article about Fiji .. The interactions with the Hindu population and girls caught my attention.

    I wonder if I am starting to have some influence on you Mr. Black Dragon 😀   As you may have read in some of my posts, that if I ever was to find a woman for a monogamous marriage, that I would love to marry a traditional Indian girl.   In Indian culture, “the woman treats her husband as a god”.. By the way, that is exactly the words many Indian people use to describe how an Indian woman respects her husband.  I know a considerable amount about Indian culture and the women.  Of course, as you know in Indian culture, virginity is extremely important, especially for the woman.  A Hindu girl from a traditional family will save herself for you and she will constantly be under the scrutiny and watch of her family and her spouse’s family.  As well, in Indian culture the woman’s family is expected to pay a dowry to the husband and he in return will promise to care for the wife and bring her into his home.   The wife is expected to be obedient, submissive and respectful to husband and respect his authority.

    However, in practice, in the modern world, depending on the socio-economic status and demographics of the Indian family, this may or may not be as practiced.  Although, to this day, traditional Indian girls will still abide very much by these traditions.   Many Indian women will cook ,clean and care for the home.  In the cities, the more educated Indian women will work jobs and be highly educated, but still may take on some home duties or will be in a joint family where the family participates.   India, a country of 1 billion people, has a variety of cultures.  I don’t know everything about Indians of Fiji, although I have heard they are fairly traditional, although maybe not as much as in North India or in more remote states, like Orissa, Uttar Pradesh, Rajasthan, etc.

    Now, there is a very big obstacle you must get around with traditional Hindu cultures that you may not be aware about.  It is called the caste system which is very prominent among religious Hindus.

    However, if you want to go sleeping around with lots of girls, as I know you say you must do, you may want to reconsider marrying a traditional Indian girl.  Although, many Indian men cheat on their wives, it would have to be done secretly and from reading your many blog writings, I know that type of secretive lifestyle is not one you would want.  OLTR relationships do not work with traditionl Hindu (or Indian Christain/Sikh) women.  Although, who knows, if monogamy was to work in this world, I would think that a woman from this part of the world with this culture would be the only possibility left.

    If you want to marry an Indian girl, but don’t want to have to deal with all the caste and religious drama, the Christian women are much more accommodating.   Southern Indian women have much more intermarriage with Western men.  However, they are a bit more Westernized, although nothing to the degree you see here in the Western world.  Of course, if you are turned off by religion and Christianity, especially, that could also pose problems.

    Then there is Sikh women who I find to be traditional, very beautiful (many are Punjabi), slightly more independent, as Sikh women have more liberties than Hindu women.  Their religion is not so assuming and a lot easier to handle than Hinduism or CHristianity.  I actually, being Jewish , attended a Sikh Gurudwara and sat through the service and found it pleasant and not polarizing.  They even give you lots of free food and are not demanding at all.  You come at your own will and they do lot of singing.  They also like to wear their kurtas and pagadis (turbans).  I actually like to dress up in these time to time myself for fun.. They look very elegant and the Indian women are very turned on by gora (white man) dressed in these garments.

    If you marry a Christian girl from village or smaller town, you will find a pretty loyal and traditional wife in many cases. But, if religion and traditional stuff is a turn off, well once again, you can have problems. Hindu/Christian/Sikh Indians, are not a culture that look highly upon polygamous type of men.

    Oh yeah, when you marry an Indian woman, you marry her whole family.. 😀  This can be good or bad, expect many visits from the in-laws and they may even want to live with you..

    Mujhey Shaadi Hindustani Kudi Hai!  😀

  5. I ever was to find a woman for a monogamous marriage, that I would love to marry a traditional Indian girl

    And your marriage would still eventually fail (unless you moved to India and stayed there the rest of your life).

  6. And your marriage would still eventually fail (unless you moved to India and stayed there the rest of your life).

     

    Or Fiji, maybe??  Then again, maybe if I take her far off the grid in rural Montana or Wyoming.  The Mormons, Amish and some religious Christian sects still live pretty traditionally and off the grid in some remote parts of this country.   When I was in Montana, I saw some of the women (maybe Mennonite or Mormon) wearing the bonnets and in traditional garments. Their husbands, ironically, many times would be dressed normally or wearing cowboy type clothing.  I’ve never seen that all my years living in Oregon or Washington.  Obviously, a religious Hindu is going to be miserable in rural Montana.. And, there is no way I would ever marry or become an LDS/Mormon or Mennonite, etc..  Nor would you, obviously 😛

    PLEASE NOTE:  I would NEVER have a monogamous marriage in the USA, that is legal, by any means. If I ever had a relationship with an Indian immigrant woman (for example), she would have to have her own greencard/residency permit. Don’t misunderstand me.    However, Indian culture is very polarizing, especially on the women and, unlike, Russian, Filipina, Thai, Vietnamese, Latina, etc women who are Westernized from the start, Indian women still have some very strict cultural rules embedded in their brains that stay with them wherever they go.  As well, an Indian woman (and men, as well) always have to answer to their families wherever they are.

    The Islamic people I know here in USA, have set up a de facto Sharia government or culture and the women live in very similar mindsets as they would in Saudi Arabia, Oman, Iraq, etc.    Indian women live under strict cultural conditions too, but nothing like Muslims, obviously.    For example, I had a cyber sexual encounter with a beautiful Jordanian girl who lived in Texas.  However, she let me know we could never meet and that her father or brothers would cut her throat if they ever found out about it.  Weird, how some women will risk their life for forbidden sexual encounters?

    One more note, knowing your very sexual nature, Black Dragon, I would probably not advocate you marry an Indian girl, as you would require polygamous relationship.   I am not against polygamy and even could consider marrying multiple wives myself, if I had the opportunity.  However, I know this would not work with any Non-Muslim Indian woman.

    From reading your posts, you do seem attracted to black women.  I read about how you found Bahamian women attractive.  I was in West and East Africa for half a year.  West Africa has a significantly lower rate of HIV than East Africa as the people are big on condom use.    If you are into polygamous type marriages, West African women are very open to them and have no problem with their husband taking on more than one wife or having another woman on the side.  When I was in Africa I was amazed at the number of polygamous relationships.    Ironically, the Christian men had more wives, on average, than the Muslim men did.    Ghana is a fairly male dominated and the women there can be quite attractive if you are into the voluptuous ebony type of beauty.  They also are totally crazed about white men and finding super model grade women, if you are even half way attractive, will be like shooting fish in a barrel.

    Now, Africa’s main problem, third world shithole.. Even Ghana.. Damn poor and dirty place. And, lot of diseases to deal with, including malaria, typhoid, hepatitis, etc.. Ebola also has become prevalent in West Africa now and they have a culture big on SHARING food with the same bowl and eating with hands.

    Although, when I was there, I was amazed at the number of Europeans and Chinese people who not only were visiting, but were permanent residents and set up their own little Europes and Chinas in the country.

  7. Hey BD,

    Out of curiousity: I believe earlier you’ve mentioned you want sex three times a week. Over the course of these ‘A Dragon In’-articles you’ve spend a month in foreign countries. Do you (usually) try to find other women on these trips or do you just suck it up and prioritize The Mission?

  8. Or Fiji, maybe??

    Haven’t researched divorce rates in Fiji but I doubt it.

    maybe if I take her far off the grid in rural Montana or Wyoming

    Good lord, you’re dreaming. Montana and Wyoming’s divorce rates are only slightly less horrible than other states.

    If you wanted to lock her up in a remote log cabin, miles from any town, and keep her cloistered for the rest of her life, then maybe. Having fun living that kind of life. All that for monogamy? I’d rather be an Alpha 2.0 and be happy. Crazy me.

  9. Out of curiousity: I believe earlier you’ve mentioned you want sex three times a week.

    Correcto.

    Over the course of these ‘A Dragon In’-articles you’ve spend a month in foreign countries. Do you (usually) try to find other women on these trips or do you just suck it up and prioritize The Mission?

    On these long trips I usually don’t have sex. Sometimes I do and many times I have, but usually I don’t. These long trips are literally the only time I go without sex for longer than about a week.

    On this trip I didn’t. I was too busy either A) having fun or B) working. For the first two and a half weeks or so it was fine, since I love Hong Kong so much (and Singapore is cool too) and because I’m not attracted at all to Chinese women.

    However, when I hit Sydney and saw hot chicks again, I definitely started to feel it. It all came back in like a sudden wave. By the end of the trip I was ravenous.

    I’m not going to travel this long without sex again. I thought I could pull it off, and I did, but my sex drive is way too intense.

    The next time I do this I’m going to pre-ensure that I get laid, a least a little, either from women there or women I already know who meet me there (or both).

  10. Good lord, you’re dreaming. Montana and Wyoming’s divorce rates are only slightly less horrible than other states.

    Relax, I was joking about bringing your Hindu wife to Montana and Wyoming, I even stated that in my original post if you had read the whole thing..   LOL..     The divorce rate of religious Mennonites, Mormons, etc are much lower than the more secular and non-religious/libertarianish people of these states. Strict religious communities have much lower divorce rates.   Please realize that doesn’t mean they are necessarily happier people. But, if we are just talking DIVORCE RATES here. Most religious communities in USA are actually very secular compared to the Eastern world. The divorce rates of religious Hindu, Sikh and Islamic people (even in the USA) are also lower than with white American people in general.  Of course, you take a Western man with his Western more betaish/egalitarian culture and marry a traditional girl and live in USA, most likely the woman will assimilate, not only from her surroundings but because of the man whose lifestyle she will absorb.

    ANyway, I may move to Montana or Wyoming one day, as I grew up in the mountains of Oregon and enjoy hiking, shooting, outdoors and freedoms of being in nature and not stuck in the rat race.  Also, if you want to talk about a country collapsing and not being DEPENDENT on others, living in the forest/rural area and being self-sufficient is quite a emancipating from a society where you are at the mercy of other people all the time.

    On that subject, I apologize for swaying in so many different directions:
    Are you saying Alpha 2.0s are forced to live in cities?  Is having sex all the time the only trait of an Alpha 2.0?  I, myself, consider myself a MGTOW type of guy.  For me, I can only really enjoy sex with a woman that I have power over.. Everything else just feels too needy for me. Yes, this is the opposite thought you would have.. Wouldn’t this be the typical debate of the 1.0 vs 2.0?  I am typical Alpha 1.0 and really don’t think I want to change that trait; it just goes against what I am.  I’m also not against drama and conquest. There are traits of the 2.0 I respect.. For example, as much as I love to conquer a woman, I know that I should not devote my entire soul to that. I am liking the concepts of soft nexting and quickly extinguishing a woman who conflicts with my well-being. These concepts you teach I respect and would like to adopt.

    In your articles you said you do not condemn the Alpha 1.0 , but just believe it is an older version of something good.  I respect you are 2.0, but I always said I prefered Windows 7 to the new Windows 10..  Not saying Windows 10 doesn’t have its advantages or Windows 7 its disadvantages..  But it works for me.

    One more question, now that we are discussing the issue of being all alone on an island or away from a “dating scene”.  How is a super duper high sex drive guy like you going to survive in China, in a place where all the women are very unattractive and do not stimulate your sex drive?  Won’t that kind of be like being locked up in a cabin, at least on the sexual/dating level?  Heck, you are probably better off living in Montana, as those mountain ladies there are fit, voluptuous and hearty.   I can attest from my trip there, that small butts are not an issue. 😛     You do mention how you are going to move to  Hong Kong or CHina one day to escape the collapse of Western society, then mention you need your sex urges satisfied.  How many women from USA (or any country with sexually satisifying women) are you planning on putting on your Ark after the flood hits, so your sexual needs are satisified in Asia? 😀

  11. I was joking about bringing your Hindu wife to Montana and Wyoming

    I don’t think you’re joking as nearly much as you’re trying to display here. You are clearly trying to figure out some convoluted way of making long-term monogamy work with some Unicorn woman. And it won’t work. But have fun trying and failing.

    Are you saying Alpha 2.0s are forced to live in cities?

    No. I’ve never said anything like that.

    Is having sex all the time the only trait of an Alpha 2.0?

    No. I’ve never said anything like that.

    (Are you new here or something?)

    I can only really enjoy sex with a woman that I have power over.. Everything else just feels too needy for me. Yes, this is the opposite thought you would have.. Wouldn’t this be the typical debate of the 1.0 vs 2.0?

    No. I’m an extreme 2.0 and I’m very dominant during sex and I’m very turned off by sexual dominant women.

    Outside of sex, I don’t care what she does. A 1.0 does care. A lot.

    How is a super duper high sex drive guy like you going to survive in China, in a place where all the women are very unattractive and do not stimulate your sex drive?

    I’m going to fuck:

    A. Non-Asian women in Asia. (There are many.)

    B. Non-Asian women (or woman) I bring with me.

    C. Asian women with big boobs (there are some, just not many).

    How many women from USA (or any country with sexually satisifying women) are you planning on putting on your Ark after the flood hits, so your sexual needs are satisified in Asia?

    Zero to two.

    Once they leave, I’ll just get more. Women are a renewable resource.

  12. Spent a month in Fiji for work. Fijian Indian girls is the best kept secret of Fiji and your assessment is spot on. They are hot, Super friendly and fun. It’s all social circle game though… I met a few nice ones as colleagues or friends of colleagues. They have a thing for fair skinned Indians. Being one helped and I never got so much attention anywhere in the world!

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