Aging and The Alpha Male
A while back I made a post about the freedom an Alpha Male 2.0 experiences. Dennis made this comment:
I propose that your Alpha2 man is fiction and totally dependent on age. Right now you are in your prime, health wise and earning potential wise. Fast forward another 20+ years. If you haven’t worked out nor ate right you will have health problems to deal with. Also your earning opportunities will be limited and slowly disappear because of your age and/or health. If you haven’t made it, earning-wise or wealth-wise by 60, you are doomed to a life of trying to make ends meet..talk about stress! With respect to women, forget about 20 yr olds you are in the ewwww box. Single women in their 40s , 50s and 60s all have emotional baggage which means drama. Also the number of attractive women in that age group that will fuck by day3 exponentially decreases with age. That is, the supply of attractive women gets a lot smaller. Also to fuck this smaller supply of women by day1, day2 or day3 depends on what kind of shape you are in. Also because of these women’s emotional baggage, and their lack of female hormones(menopause) they are less forgiving of you fucking other women at the same time. Just my experience. I’m in great shape, have good money and fuck these women. Not one has lasted more than 3 months.
Most guys reading this blog are under the age of 40, but I still want to address Dennis’s point. This is because YOU, regardless of how old or young you are, will be over the age of 60 someday. (Take it from an older guy…time goes by much faster than you think.)
Can a man this old live the lifestyle I talk about? Or is he screwed due to his old age, his lackluster appearance, and the advanced age of his available women? Once you get “old”, is a man forced to either be alone or “go beta” because he has no other options?
Since I will never get monogamous no matter how old I become, these are legitimate questions for me, and I hope they are for you. Since turning 40 almost two years ago, aging has become something I’ve started to pay very close attention to. It was one of the big reasons why I started losing weight.
Since hitting my late thirties, I have focused more on things like proper eating, exercise, skin care, vitamins, water intake, and supplements. When I was younger, these were things I never gave a shit about (outside of my brief weight-lifting phases).
The Endgame In Our Old Age
Before I get into the specific topic of the aging Alpha Male, let’s get our contexts and goals straight.
I’m not one of these guys like Howard Stern who’s going to sit here and announce “GRRR! I’LL NEVER GET MARRIED AGAIN!!!”, only to have to eat my words a few years later when I get married. It’s not a question of marriage or love or children or living together. It’s a question of monogamy. I shall explain.
Regardless of any strong opinions I have or lifestyle I live, I’m still a human being with human needs. This means that as time goes on and I get older, I might do all kinds of things. I might have more kids. I might live with a woman. Hell, I might even be married in my older years <choke! gag!>. I have to admit that even that is possible. (Hopefully not, but if I do there will of course be an extremely comprehensive prenup in place, and it will be in a country that actually honors such things.)
The only thing on the “never” list is absolute is monogamy. I will never promise monogamy to anyone. Period. Never ever. It is the one thing, the only thing, I will never compromise on, regardless if I’m 35, 41, 50, 65 or 75 years old.
Don’t believe me? I understand, but just watch. I walk my talk. Check back in with me in 25 years when I’m 65. I still won’t be 100% monogamous. Yeah, I’ll be an old bastard by then, so I might be in looooovee and may even act a little like an NRE lovestruck beta. I might even agree to a stupid Disney fairytale wedding. All of those things are possible as I age into my golden years. But I will never be monogamous, nor will I ever promise it. No matter what happens, there will always be at least one FB on the side I’ll be playing with at least occasionally in addition to my primary woman. Many times and in many places I’ve described how other men have done this and how I will do it, especially right here.
The only way I could ever be sexually monogamous is if I lose the physical ability to have sex.
Granted, as I age I will probably back off on the activity level; I probably won’t be having 4 different women on rotation when I’m 65. It will likely be one very special woman and one FB on the side that get rotated and replaced once every few months.
The point here is to determine what an acceptable goal is for you when you reach your old age, and I define “old age” for this blog post as age 60 and beyond. I have said before that if you get monogamous at age 60, I still don’t agree with it but it’s also not the end of the world. Of course I still will be poly at that age, but if you hold off on monogamy and then finally surrender when you hit your sixties like Gene Simmons did, I won’t be screaming bloody murder.
Or you may be the opposite kind of guy, and want to live the Charlie Sheen lifestyle (being a player and fucking tons of women) or Hugh Hefner lifestyle (a core group of 2-3 “girlfriends”, really MLTRs) for the rest of your life, well into your old age. That’s fine too. It’s all up to you.
Goal 1 As You Age: Above Average Physical Health and Appearance
Let’s start addressing Dennis’s points. First he says:
Right now you are in your prime, health wise and earning potential wise. Fast forward another 20+ years. If you haven’t worked out nor ate right you will have health problems to deal with. Also your earning opportunities will be limited and slowly disappear because of your age and/or health.
Dennis is absolutely right here. If, between the ages of 35 and 60, you decide to eat whatever the hell you want, drink and smoke whatever you want, not exercise as often as you need to, pay no attention to your skin and hair, and pay little or no attention to your key health numbers (weight, body fat percentage, blood pressure, testosterone, cholesterol, vitamin D, insulin, etc), then yes…you are going to be a fat, ugly, old-looking sack of shit by the time you reach your sixties. And you’ll be fucked.
One of the many reasons I hate monogamy so much is that in many cases, men are actually encouraged to look like shit as they age. They feel like their wife will “be there no matter what” so they don’t need to worry about how good they look, and many wives will actually encourage their men to look bad to help fight off other competing women.
The primary Alpha Male goal when it comes to aging is, then, to not do these things. If you want to live the Alpha Male 2.0 lifestyle well into your old age, then once you hit age 35 (at the latest!) your physical fitness and attractiveness as an old man should be one of your top two goals in life. Let me say that again: One of your top two goals in life.
You do not have the luxury of aging easily and lazily like a normal man. You simply can not, can NOT be the typical guy in his fifties or sixties with the wrinkles and dead eyes and slow walk and the fat stomach and the thinning hair and outfits that are 20 years out of style. Between the ages of 35 and 60, you need to work at your body and your relatively youthful appearance.
Is this fun? No, at least not for most of us, especially if you have shitty genetics in this area. Fitness has always been my weakest life area and likely always will be, but I still put in the work every damn day. I eat the yucky vegetables, put on the moisturizers, drink the water, take the vitamins, lift the weights, etc. I want to live this lifestyle for the rest of my life, so I have no choice.
Set any goal you want, but the physical appearance goal for my forties that I’m working towards is this: If you put me in a room with 99 other random men who are my age (currently 41), then brought in 100 super hot young chicks in their twenties and had them rank all the men from most hot to least hot, I want to be in the top 15.
I don’t need to be the best looking guy in the room, and thanks to my genetics I never will be. But I do need to be in the top 15% as compared to other guys in my age range. I’m well on my way to this goal…as a matter of fact I might already be there. (New pictures coming soon.)
Again, I’m talking about other men my age. In terms of physical attractiveness, I will probably never be able to compete head-to-head with some 23 year-old six pack guy who has the youth, testosterone, and the spare time to spend 15 hours a week in the gym. But the good news is I don’t need to. I just need to look damn good for my age. Even now in my forties I regularly have sex with women as young as 18, so as long as my appearance doesn’t look bad, my confidence, outcome independence, fashion, wit, and level of game will deal with the rest of the age-difference slack.
Goal 2 As You Age: A Good Income
If you haven’t made it, earning-wise or wealth-wise by 60, you are doomed to a life of trying to make ends meet..talk about stress!
I’m going to repeat the advice of Mr. Steelballs himself, the immortal R. Don Steele. The following is not a quote, just my summary:
By the time you’re middle-aged, and certainly by the time you’re old, you need to be making some damn good money. No, you don’t have to be a millionaire (although I (Blackdragon) think every man in the western world should have a net worth of one million dollars by the time he’s 50, but most of you aren’t mentally ready to hear such a radical opinion, so let’s discuss that one at another time). But you do need to make enough money where you live in a decently cool house/apartment, have a nice car, own some nice clothes, can easily afford to dine in nice restaurants and perhaps travel a bit. By middle age you should have some decent investments, have no problems paying your monthly bills, and no major debt issues.
None of what I just described requires millions of dollars or a six-figure income. It does require a good income and solid financial management.
You need to make decent money! I’ve been saying this forever. I’ve also reported the findings of numerous surveys and studies that clearly show most men aren’t truly happy until they make at least $75,000 per year (that’s 56,000 euros for my European brothers). 50% of all the content in my SMIC Program is all about accomplishing this.
As I mentioned just last week, being poor damages everything there is about being Alpha, and being poor AND old is even worse. Don’t do it.
Goal 3 As You Age: Maintain A Focus On The Youngest Women Possible Based On Your Age
With respect to women, forget about 20 yr olds you are in the ewwww box. Single women in their 40s , 50s and 60s all have emotional baggage which means drama. Also the number of attractive women in that age group that will fuck by day3 exponentially decreases with age. That is, the supply of attractive women gets a lot smaller. Also to fuck this smaller supply of women by day1, day2 or day3 depends on what kind of shape you are in. Also because of these women’s emotional baggage, and their lack of female hormones(menopause) they are less forgiving of you fucking other women at the same time. Just my experience. I’m in great shape, have good money and fuck these women. Not one has lasted more than 3 months.
There’s a few things I disagree with Dennis’s above statements, but the gist of what he’s saying is accurate….but it’s not as bad as you think.
First of all, yes, if you’re 65 years old, you’re probably not going to be fucking 19 or 20 year-olds unless you start throwing some money around. I’ve said this before and I fully agree this is probably true. Even if you’re in that top 15% of sixty-something guys, 19 year-old hotties probably aren’t going to go there unless you go full on sugar-daddy or hooker-john. (Yes, there are always unusual exceptions to every rule.)
But let’s talk about who will go there. I know several men in their mid-fifties who are dating women in their mid-twenties, as young as 24 years old. These men are not famous, have had no plastic surgery, and most of them are no where close to being a millionaire. But! They have followed my above advice; none of them are fat, they take very good care of their health, hair, and skin, and they all make decent incomes.
So let’s say I told you that you could never again have sex with a 19 year-old hottie, but you could have sex with 25 year-old hotties all you wanted as long as you patiently put in the numbers (which you should be doing at any age anyway). Would that make you cry and tear your hair out, or would that be okay? I think it would probably be okay. By the time you’re an old bastard you probably won’t even give a shit at that five or six year difference anyway.
Let’s add another 10 years. Now you’re 65. Can you still fuck 25 year-olds? I agree this might be a stretch (but I still think it’s possible). However, if during the prior 30 years you’ve kept your appearance/fitness up, your income decent, and maintained strong game, you could get with women who are 31 or 32, certainly 37 or 39 or 45. I’ve seen many couples like this and you probably have too, particularly in larger cities.
As a matter of fact, C.M. just sent me this email a few days ago:
You’ll appreciate this: So my latest addition is a 39-year-old divorcee (very artsy, free-spirit type) who is still rocking out about an 8 with a great rack. Seeing as she’s my oldest ever (11 years older), I asked her the oldest man she’d ever slept with…60!…When she was 24! Some art exhibition director. That’s gonna be you in 20 years, buddy. Haha
The point here is just because you’re over 60 doesn’t mean you are doomed forever to only date other old people, especially if you’ve taken my advice over the last 30 years and kept your health, appearance, and income at decent levels.
Future Advances In Aging
One last thing about this, and it’s a very important point no one ever considers.
Look at some old 1950s movies and observe how old the men in their fifties look. Compare that to men in their fifties today. Tom Cruise looks younger than me, and he’s 51. Granted, he’s Tom Cruise, so let’s look at an ugly guy: Jon Stewart, also in his early fifties. If he dyed his hair brown, he would look 35. Hell, Jimmy Fallon is just two years off my age and the bastard looks like a child.
Never forget this wonderful secret: Due to technological and lifestyle advances, the more time that passes, the younger human beings look. If you’re now 35, you’ll be 60 in 25 years, but that doesn’t mean you’ll look like people who are 60 years old now. Due to advances in medicine and fitness, you’ll look about as old as Tom Cruise does now at age 51 (unless you don’t take my advice and let your looks go as you age).
So if you’re 50 or 60 now, then yes, you’re stuck with how men who are 50 or 60 now look. Do the very best you can to look as good and young as you can, within your genetic limitations. But if you’re 40 or 30 or younger, in a strange way, time is actually on your side in terms of how youthful people are becoming.
So if you want to live this lifestyle well into your old age, focus on your youthful appearance for the rest of your life, get your income up, focus on the youngest women you can, and take full advantage of all medical breakthroughs that come your way. Then in your old age, all or most of the Alpha lifestyle I talk about will be available to you.