Bisexual Women

Fun topic today.  These are some observations I’ve noted about bisexual women that hopefully will assist you.  In this post, when I use the word “bisexual” I am only referring to bisexual women.  (Bisexual men is a completely different topic and one I have no interest in.)

Based on my personal experience, anecdotal experience, and some minor research, I would say that about 50% of today’s modern women are bisexual, at least to some degree, and I think that’s a conservative estimate.  Before we get too far into this, I’m going to define the word “bisexual” for this conversation.

Bisexual: A woman who has the desire to get naked with another women, do sexual “things” with her, and enjoy it.

There are degrees of bisexuality in women of course.  There are women who like it a little, women who like it a lot, and women who like it so much they will actually have regular quasi-girlfriend relationships with a another woman. These women are not lesbians however…they still need a man’s cock on at least an irregular basis and will get it.

We could also argue forever about “types” of bisexual, like bisexual or “bi-curious”, or women who will “receive but not give”, but that’s splitting hairs.  My definition for the word “bisexual” stands.

As I said, I’m confident that at least 50% of women out there are bisexual, at least to some degree.  That doesn’t mean that 50% of women out there are fucking other women right now.  Read my definition again.  It means they have the desire to do it.

Some are doing it, but some are just thinking about it.  Even in the U.S., many women live in conservative areas or religious environments and will thus avoid bisexual behavior because of guilt and other bullshit societal programming reasons.

Also, many women will go through bisexual phases.  Sometimes they’re playing with women, sometimes they aren’t.  Or they get a needy or traditional boyfriend or husband who forbids it, and they stop doing it.  (Until she gets bored and dumps him of course.)

Regarding bisexual chicks, I do not believe in the societal myth that some women will “go bisexual” only after they “try it once”, like the “I kissed a girl and I liked it” Katy Perry song.  No, my experience in this area, and I’ve had a lot of it, is bisexual women know damn well they’re bisexual by the time they’re about 15 or 16 years old (if not sooner). Again, I’m not saying they’ll go do it, it means they at least want to.

I would also say there’s an additional 15% of women who will perform sexual acts with other women and at least somewhat enjoy them, but only if they are pressured into doing so by a strong woman, strong man, peers, alcohol, and other external factors.  These women may enjoy the sexual act, but they will never voluntarily seek it out on their own.

That leaves about 35% of women who absolutely have no interest whatsoever in getting sexual with other women and are turned off by the very thought.  These women like men, that’s it, period, end of story.  That doesn’t mean they can’t find other women attractive.  It just means they’ll never “go there”.  These women will also do threesomes with a man and another woman, but that’s not bisexuality.

So 50% bisexual (at least to some degree), 15% can be pushed there temporarily, 35% hardcore straight. Yeah, that seems about right to me.  You more woman-experienced readers can let me know if those percentages jive with your experience or not.

So bisexual women are extremely common.  At the moment, all three of current MLTRs are bisexual, two of them extremely so.  They both actually have a regular, full-time “girlfriend” on the side in addition to dating me.  The third MLTR will happily play with women sexually but only if everything is just right.

As a matter of fact, one of them in the past has LSNFTE‘d me for a chick.  Talk about weird circumstance!  When this happens they’ll then be exclusive with little miss new girlfriend, who may or may not be a full-on lesbian.  That dynamic is very interesting.  When a lesbian dates a bi woman, often the lesbian puts her down for actually being “gross” enough to fuck men.  Ew!

But like I said, bisexual chicks are not lesbians, so soon she’ll “miss cock” and come back to get laid by a man, usually me, while still playing with women on the side.  Which I strongly encourage of course.  Bring some of that home to daddy, sweetie.  I’ve had a plenty of threesomes and new FBs from the dating circles of bisexual women I’ve been with.

Which brings me to my final observation.  There is no “standard” dating or relationship method for bisexual women. Some will have serious (but temporary) girlfriends.  Some will have casual or “side” girlfriends.  Some will occasionally play with a woman, but not regularly.  Some will “go there”, but only under certain conditions.  Etc.

What kinds of women do bisexual women like?  My experience is that they tend to like women who look like them.  If she has big boobs, she’ll likely want a woman who has big boobs too.  If she’s really short, she’ll be turned on by short women.  This is very interesting since usually women are attracted to men with opposite physical traits.  I.E. if she’s really tiny and petite, she’ll like HUGE guys.

The one exception to this is race.  Asian girls tend to love white girls or black girls, but will usually avoid other Asian girls.  If they do go after other Asian girls, they will often demand they’re at least mixed (half white or half black).

The reverse is also true…many white women have a huge “Asian girl” fantasy.  Latina chicks will fuck black chicks or white chicks, but will often avoid other Latinas.  Interesting.  I could go on but you get the point.  Of course white girls will fuck other white girls, which I suppose is to be expected, but white girls seem to prefer female sexual partners of different races.  I really find this fascinating.  Some sexual psychologist has written an entire book about this already I’m sure.

As I said, I will welcome and encourage the women in my life to pursue their bisexual desires if they have them.  Hell, the women in my life are allowed to fuck other men, so fucking other women is certainly no problem.  Bisexual activity among my women is a great place to score threesomes and even some additional regular FBs (not MLTRs…the potential for drama is too great).

So whenever a woman even slips that she might want to get busy with another gal, hell yeah dude.  I draw it out, encourage it, and milk it for all it’s worth.  I suggest you do the same.  I have even taught women some pickup techniques they can use to attract other women.  It works.

So to all those women out there who think they want to get with another hot chick…play on, playa!

11 Comments on “Bisexual Women

  1. The Book “Sex at Dawn” has a link to research that shows that most self identified hetrosexual women are usually bisexual. (At least they get physically aroused by pictures of naked women). Self identified lesbians, not so much. Men correctly self identified apparently (shock, horror :D). So your views are backed by some science.

  2. Yep. My views, as difficult as many of them are to digest, are based on what really happens in real life. 🙂

    One of my more extreme views is that I believe, I’m not sure about this but I believe, that men cannot be truly bisexual. If you’re a man who enjoys other men’s cocks, you’re gay (at least to some degree), not bisexual, even if you like women too. Just an educated theory.

    Sexual psychology is very fascinating.

  3. I don’t know about your theory, I know some guys who also did men. Some of them are hetro, other self identify as bi. Apart from the people who say they are gay, they all have girlfriends now. So it differs.

  4. I… have to argue that there are truly /bi/ guys, they’re just pretty uncommon. It’s even rarer that a truly bisexual man will actually admit to it. I’ve met two men I believe are bisexual in my life – one admitted that my guess was correct after I asked him in private, and one insists he’s straight to this day. As far as I know, neither has actually done anything sexual with another guy (though I’d be willing to bet they’ll do so in the next twenty years).

    But you’re right that women tend towards the middle and men tend towards the extremes, so bi guys are few and far between. More often, they’re gay and just too scared to admit it yet.

    I’ll take the chance to say that as a gay male, I’m very much enjoying archive-binging on here. It takes some work to ‘translate’ some of what you say into info that applies to me, and some of it is downright unusable, but the way you view sex and life is pretty similar to me – we think in the same patterns, even if we have different priorities on the particulars (and I’m far less Alpha than you, heh). I must give a massive amount of thanks to you for explaining some things in a way that finally makes sense to me, unlike pretty much everything else I’ve ever read on the subject.

  5. Oh, and also, guys who have tried something with other guys once or twice but never since? I wouldn’t call that bi, because that’s far more likely to be a one time thing for a guy than it is for a girl who says the same thing. Again, guys tend to be either fully-straight or fully-gay. Might try something out once because someone suggested it, but they won’t come up with it on their own, and they probably won’t ever do it again.

  6. Actually yes, I’ve found that gay men actually do view sex a lot like I do. Good for them! 🙂 It’s also interesting that on the other side of the coin, full-on lesbian women are hardcore, high-drama serial monogamists who tend to be relationship-addicted (specifically dysfunctional relationships). From the outside looking in, it appears to me that gay men have much less drama in their relationships than gay women.

    Which, if you think about it, makes perfect sense.

  7. As I said, I’m confident that at least 50% of women out there are bisexual, at least to some degree.  That doesn’t mean that 50% of women out there are fucking other women right now.  Read my definition again.  It means they have the desireto do it.
    Some are doing it, but some are just thinking about it.  Even in the U.S., many women live in conservative areas or religious environments and will thus avoid bisexual behavior because of guilt and other bullshit societal programming reasons.

    In conservative societies, the shame is so much that you’ll find no more than 3-4%, at most, of women who don’t hide that desire from their own conscious mind and know they have it.
    But it could be 1%, or less.

    Speaking from experience, 0% of women from Asia, 5-10% from East Europe, 30-40% from the Anglosphere will not be shockedby the topic itself and admit to being at least tickled by the idea.

    A rule of thumb is to observe her behaviour when she sees stunning women. I think that’s telling.

  8. The best way to “test” if a woman is bi or open to have a threesome is this:
    While in the heat of the passion(usually doggy styling her), I will tell her that I will bring a woman to suck her tits, lick her pussy and eat my cum out of her pussy after I finished. There are only 3 outcomes, 1- she will be upset and disgusted: 2- she will keep quiet but still enjoying me f*cking her, 3- she will moan and shiver in pleasure. Option 2 can be worked out and option 3 is ideal, she is ready to go.
    This procedure have allowed me to have several 3sums and save valuable time.
    Enjoy it!

  9. @Blackdragon –

    You said,

    ” I suggest you do the same. I have even taught women some pickup techniques they can use to attract other women. It works.”

    Can you share any of these pick-up lines with us cuz my lady is horrible at it when offline and in public.

    Thanks!

  10. Can you share any of these pick-up lines with us cuz my lady is horrible at it when offline and in public.

    It’s not about pickup lines. It’s about techniques. If she really sucks at it, just have her log into her Facebook page then use it and start messaging hot women pretending you’re her.

  11. Oh she can sext chics all night long if online.

    It’s when we are in public or the real world that she is very uptight and kinda jealous versus flirty and fun.

    We had this chic approach us one time at the pool being Extremely friendly and she got all cold feet. Ugh. I am more into us flirting w chics as a couple while running around doing every day stuff.

    So, if you could use your #1 technique for her to loosen up in public and initiate conversation/flirting on the fly, what would it be?

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