I often receive questions about my family and my upbringing. I also think it may be helpful for you to know what my family makeup is and was, to put everything into context. I’ve mentioned my kids, parents, and siblings various times before, but I’ve never laid out my family in detail. I will do so today.
My wife is Pink Firefly, whom I’ve discussed in great detail at this blog before, so I’m not going into detail about her today. We’re in an OLTR marriage and she’s been living with me for almost six months now. She’s 38 years old (I’m 46). I will regularly update you on how we’re doing here at this blog. If you want more info on her and our relationship, here are some of the links (look at the archive for more):
I have two children. Neither of my children have fully adopted Alpha Male 2.0 lives, though my son has certainly embraced many of the business aspects of it. I’ve told my kids many times that I want them to follow their path, not copy mine. As I talk about in my book, the Alpha 2.0 father encourages his children to be individuals, not clones of himself.
My son is 26 years old and lives with his girlfriend. He is an entrepreneur who has worked in various industries, including online and real estate. He’s outgoing, intelligent, and hard-working and I’m very proud of him. He is a very mild Alpha Male 1.0 and a libertarian.
My daughter is 20 years old. She currently lives with her mom but will probably move out this year or next. She’s an intelligent introvert who is extremely gifted artistically and we share a lot of nerdy interests. She is a Type Two VYW Dominant and has a long-distance boyfriend in his thirties. She is a left-winger though with some libertarian leanings.
Both of my kids currently live in the same region as I do, but both have expressed strong desires to move to other countries at some point; my son to Thailand, my daughter to Australia or New Zealand. Obviously I love both of my children very much.
My parents are both retired and in their mid to late seventies. They live about 45 minutes away from me, still living in the same neighborhood that they lived in when I was a small child. I see them both on a regular basis and we have a close relationship. They are still married after 47 years of marriage (though they’ve had all the usual trouble you’d expect of such a long-term relationship). Politically, they are both left-wingers, since that’s what most people in Oregon are.
My dad is a retired psychologist. As I wrote about in my book, decades ago when he was younger he was a short-tempered Alpha Male 1.0, today he’s a retired, chill beta male. He worked for the state of Oregon when I was very young, though when I was a little older he started a mental health practice and it eventually became successful. He sold it about 15 years ago and retired. We have lunch on a semi-regular basis. He is a big Bernie Sanders supporter.
My dad has been married twice. My mom is his second wife. His first wife has passed away, though one of my brothers is from this marriage. I’ll talk about my siblings in a minute.
My mom is an extremely high-energy woman who runs around all day and wears everyone else out despite the fact she’s 75 years old. She’s extremely emotional and very happy; much of my “happy” genes I get from her. When we were kids, she was a housewife, though when the kids grew up she became a teacher, and was so for about 30 years before she retired just a few years ago. She was a Catholic nun in the 1960s, and was so for eight years before she married my dad, in what was a very interesting story that I may tell later. This is why most of us kids spent at least some time in Catholic schools. Today she’s not very religious and is left-wing in her political views (she absolutely worshiped Obama).
I grew up with four other siblings, of which I was the oldest. I have one additional sibling, my older brother from another mother (literally) who grew up in Mexico and California with his mom while we were raised with my mom and dad in Portland. He would spend several weeks a year with us in the summer. I love him and I consider him my brother the same as my other brothers, so let’s start with him.
My older brother is in his early fifties, married to his second wife, and has two grown children from a prior marriage. He’s an intelligent, dynamic, fun, extreme Alpha Male 1.0 who “likes drama” (his words) and is (not surprisingly) a hardcore Donald Trump supporter. He travels often with his wife and they do a lot of fun things together. However, like most men of his personality type, he tends to have a lot of drama in his marriage and family life.
Then there’s me, the oldest of the kids from my mom and dad.
Sister #1 is the next child. She’s two years younger than me. She is the typical Dominant, married and with three kids. She runs her own business, two daycare centers. She is very emotional, very busy, very disorganized, and very charismatic and likeable. She lives in the Portland area and is a mild left-winger, I think mostly because her husband is black and her kids are thus bi-racial. Her husband is a very nice, chill beta.
Sister #2 is also a Dominant, also married, and has four kids, though she is very different from her sister. Sister #2 is organized, authoritarian, and meticulous; more on the extreme Dominant side of the scale. She is a nice person but is also usually very stressed out (having four kids will do that to you). She’s a housewife, married to a very hard-working, high-income beta who works in the corporate world. They live in the Phoenix area and are mild left-wingers.
Brother #1 is an emotional, chill, artistic, free-love type of guy who has never been married and has never had kids. He’s been a DJ, a video game designer, and all kinds of other things. He currently lives in Thailand, living off of his modest investments. His typical day is sleeping in, doing yoga and meditation, hiking, and enjoying young Thai girls. He’s a confident beta with no strong political views.
Brother #2, my youngest sibling, is a hard-working, intense, blue collar beta who lives with his girlfriend in the Denver area. He’s very smart and anal and can easily stress himself out. He works in the I.T. industry. He has no kids and never wants any; instead he and his girlfriend are “dog people” and have three giant dogs who are their “kids.”
My siblings are interesting in that you can see how five different people with the same two parents and same upbringing can end up as radically different. None of my siblings are similar to me, except for certain aspects of my older brother (who I wasn’t even raised with), and frankly, none of them are very similar to each other.
Only my parents and sister #1 live near me; all the rest of my siblings are far away.
If you’re curious about my extended family, I have only a tiny handful of relatives on my dad’s side and a gigantic mountain of relatives on my mom’s side, since my mom is Italian. My mom had eight brothers, and I’m literally the oldest of over 30 cousins. I’m not close to anyone in my extended family.
Anyway, that’s about it. As you can imagine, our family reunions are always colorful. 🙂