A few weeks ago I asked all of you to send in your Alpha Male 2.0 success stories for a chance to win some cool stuff, including $500.
We finally have our three winners, and you’re about to hear their stories. This was an extremely difficult contest to judge. Holy crap. We had at least eight different guys who all could have easily made first or second place, and a bunch more that could have tied for third. Reading these stories was an emotional experience for me, since I resonated with the pussy beta-to-Alpha 2.0 transformations many of you reported. A lot of you also reported some Alpha 1.0-to-Alpha 2.0 stories, particularly many of you younger guys. Those were great too.
The good news for you is that we’re going to compile the top 10-15 stories we’ve received into a free downloadable PDF. It will be available soon; when it’s ready I’ll be posting the download link here at this blog.
But enough of that. Time to read the stories from some of your fellow blog readers on the amazing life turnarounds they made. Once you read these stories, you’ll realize that you have no excuses…you can do it too.
First Place Winner ($500) – BH
Note: He sent lots of photographic evidence.
I was the stereotypical 40yr old. Beta male trapped in a loveless sexless marriage for 12 years. Staying together “for the kids”. It wasn’t always this way. Before marriage I dated a lot and had crazy times. But the Societal Programming was strong and I knew I had to “grow up” and “settle down”. I was more Alpha then, and met another Alpha woman. The sex was great at first and the relationship was fiery and exciting. Typical dual-Alpha relationship that starts fun but is doomed. To be honest, she was more Alpha than I was. I started backing down, for the sake of keeping our relationship together. Societal Programming taught me that “marriages are hard work”, so I assumed they were supposed to suck 50% of the time. She wanted marriage – I got married. She wanted kids – we had kids.
Fast forward a decade later and I woke up one morning wondering where my balls had gone and who was this pathetic miserable person I’d become? I was still Alpha in my business life. I hold a high level position at a Fortune 100 company. I lead multiple teams of people and they respect me. I take charge at work. At home, I was a sniveling groveling loser.
I discovered Blackdragon’s blog in February of 2015. I was fascinated by the concepts, framework, ideas…everything. I bought his books. I soaked it in like a sponge. It helped me realize that it wasn’t too late for me. I had a lot to offer and became a student of “the game”. I had a few natural strengths to leverage – I have moderately attractive looks and I’m 6′ tall and I have a good paying job, so that definitely helped. I decided to salvage my life and filed for divorce a month later.
I took a few months to get my life in order. I didn’t need any time for emotional repair because I had stopped loving my ex years ago. I was excited and ready to move on. But I needed a few months to get logistics in order and calm my life down. During that time I read all of Blackdragon’s books, past articles, and started branching out into other articles and blogs on the manosphere. Not all of it resonated with me. Some of it I vehemently disagreed with but reading the thought processes and explanations was fascinating and I learned a lot. I started crafting my online profile, getting pictures taken, updating my wardrobe, and working out and eating right. I took about 5 months to get ready and then I launched into action. I created profiles on multiple sites, followed Blackdragon’s advice, sent out my openers, and waited for the sexy women to come pounding down my door!
…yeah, that didn’t quite happen. It was a learning process. I analyzed my efforts and figured out where I could make improvements. The responses were low and there were multiple false starts. But I was mentally prepared for this and knew these things take time. I worked at it. Some of Blackdragon’s teachings didn’t feel right to me. So I altered some of them. Sometimes it turned out to be a mistake. Bad stuff would happen and I’d say “Oh ok NOW I see why he says to do X.” But other times I’d alter the plan to suit my own personality and goals and make it my own. I learned that Blackdragon’s teachings aren’t immutable gospel. They are a toolbox of tactics, personality hints, and other things. Strong suggestions that most people should probably follow, but everyone is different and you need to customize things to your situation.
I started going out on dates. Many dates. Most failed miserably. I refined the process. It’s a continuous improvement loop. Sometimes I did a poor job of filtering out a bad candidate. Other times I screwed up the first meet in some way. I worked at it. Rome wasn’t built in a day. A few months went by. Eventually the numbers game paid off and I found the girls I was looking for. Girls that were cool with non-monogamy, looked good, were fun and low drama. I would date multiple women at a time. Some would leave because they wanted exclusivity, or money, or whatever. No worries. Strong abundance mentality carried me through. Eventually I worked my way to where I am now – a rotating roster of beautiful cool women that think I’m amazing and know I’m not exclusive. Will it last? No of course not. At least in the sense that this particular group won’t stay intact. Some will leave but I can get more. I haven’t been doing this long enough to see if any of the ones that have left will “boomerang” back to me eventually, but I don’t care either way.
Today I have 4 woman that I have active sexual relationships with at least once per month. 3 of them are weekly.
FB – 38 year old woman in an open marriage. Hot body but the emotional side is a bit distant. I see her about once per month.
OLTR – 36 year old that pitched the idea of open relationships TO ME before I even need to bring it up 🙂 She is attractive and loves to explore. She brings me to swinger clubs.
MLTR – 30 year old hottie that likes to watch guy flicks so it’s very chill. This one may not last because she’s not keen on the non-exclusive part. That’s ok. I’ll enjoy it while it lasts.
MLTR – 20 year old stunner. That’s right – 20. She’s into older guys. She’s very chill and likes to smoke weed with me occasionally. (It’s legal in my state) This girl sends me NSFW snapchat messages constantly. Very hot.
I’ve been dating all of the above for over 2 months. A couple of them for 5 months. And there’s 2 more girls that I’m going on 3rd dates with that are very eager to see me. Both of them are 20 as well! I had to disable my dating profiles and stop using Tinder because I’m overburdened with prospects right now. What an amazing problem to have!
My friends barely believe me when I tell them, until I send them pics. It blows their mind. I’m living a fantasy according to them. The “me” from 5 years ago would not have believed it was possible – it’s all so surreal. My happiness is off the charts. I’m a realist and I know there will be down times and setbacks. I know some girls will leave. But I have the tools and the mindset to move forward.
I’m living the dream. It took hard work, guts, time, and a lot of online learning – mostly from Blackdragon.
The hardest part is taking that first step.
Second Place Winner – Cowboy
Note: He sent over extensive spreadsheet data and notes as evidence.
How BD got me laid over and over again…
I was a great husband and an involved father. I had married the 5th woman I had sex with and had little experience dating and had never had sex outside of a relationship. I was a beta pussy. My hot wife got sick of fucking me and cheated repeatedly. She treated me like shit. I grew a pair and divorced her.
Around that time my marriage went to shit, I read the Game and started reading dating forums online. I discovered BD and his online dating advice. I’m generally shy and introverted, so online dating is perfect for me. I started with POF and OKC and now have hooks in many places (OKC, Bumble, Tinder, Coffee Meets Bagel, Hinge, J Swipe, Happn). BD also helped me realize the possibility of dating much younger women.
I’m of average looks. But I’m fairly tall (6’2”) and I keep myself in good shape. I started Crossfit right before the break up of my marriage and with it dropped body fat and increased muscle mass. It’s great to hook up with a college student and have her tell you that you have a better body than the college boys she dates. I have an awesome main profile picture I use on all the sites. I try to dress well, and keep a nicely trimmed beard and keep my hair tidy. I do a cheap first date: meet for drinks, a walk in a park or on the beach, or coffee. Occasionally I have done lunch and in rare cases dinner. If they don’t come home with me on the first date, something I’ve started always asking, I invite them over, usually for dinner that I cook, and then seal the deal on the second date. Some hold out and depending how hot the chick is, I may go to a third or fourth date, but many won’t get a third date if they don’t have sex with me on date two. I make an effort to talk about sex and to start touching and accelerate it. If I have a date nowhere near my house, I try to have some sort of logistical plan of where to go to have sex. It seems that many girls who aren’t comfortable bringing you home for sex, will go to a hotel room or even your back seat for it.
I’m now 46, and have been single for 4 years. I’ve had many hook ups, FB’s, and a few MLTR’s in this time. I put in the numbers and have approached dating as another job. Things started slowly. My rebound girl was a woman from work…a mistake I won’t make again. I’ve since hooked up with some I met at work, but only if they are about to move away or we no longer work together.
Overall, I’ve had sex with 76 women since we split up. Seven the first year, 14 the next, 19 the next, and 36 in 2015. Overall, 12 (15%) I met organically: 3 from work, a hook up with an old friend from college, a girl who set next to me on a flight that was delayed so we both missed our connections, 3 through the charity event I founded and run (great to have a meaningful mission!), one was a set up from a girl I had previously dated (the only set up that has led to sex for me), and one was a girl who was serving my kids and I ice cream. I’ve gone on roughly 230 first dates meaning that I fuck one out of every three girls I go out with. The average age has been 28, roughly 20 years younger than me, and the girls have ranged in age from 18-45.
Online dating in 2015 was a huge success. As I mentioned above, I had sex with 36 women last year. Some of these women were merely hook ups because they were passing through my town or me through theirs. Some were ONS by me, and many by them. Some became ongoing FB’s and one became a LTOR. The average girl I hooked up with in 2015 was 29 and on average we had sex after 1.7 dates. There were two 18 year olds. One of the 36 girls was the set-up but the rest were from online dating. Some were regrettable. Others, top notch. Last year I went out with three of slight fame. One was a former model (now 33) who had been on the cover of Vogue and the Victoria’s secret catalog. Another is on a reality TV show and had people stop her in the street for photos and autographs. Yet another had been in the pages of FHM. I had sex with one of those three, and made out with the other two — the same ratio as all the girls. All three I met through on-line dating. I had sex with girls I met online while traveling. Two in my small, college town, home town, two in New York City two in Lima, Peru, and one in Rome. Again, I met all of them through on-line dating.
In summary, by following BD’s advice I have been crushing it with on-line dating, both at home, and when on the road, even though response rates have dropped.
Third Place Winner – PolyOz
I first found out about Blackdragon from my then wife. Her date at the time had mentioned the site to her, and given all the things that she knew that I was dealing with she passed on the details knowing that it was exactly what I was looking for…
Flashback 2 years earlier: I was 7 years married, we had 3 children together and I was desperately depressed. Our marriage was sexless, I was addicted to porn as a way of numbing and escaping my day to day reality. I had just had another fight with my wife and I left the house in near tears to head to work. Only today was different. Today rather than simply heading to work, I thought about stepping out in front of a train instead. That moment lasted for about 30 minutes, I mapped out exactly where I was going to go and where I was going to walk to and it still counts as one of the darkest and scariest days of my life. It was also the day that I realized I had to sort myself out.
The next 12 months were probably the hardest 12 months of my life and that didn’t even involve my separation. I had to deal with the reality of my situation. I was a 34 year old man who had no direction. I was depressed and I’d had suicidal thoughts. I have an Indian background (born in Australia) and I had to confront all the shame that came with growing up in that culture. I had married my first girlfriend at the age of 26 and had done everything that I thought I was supposed to do. Got married, got the job, had the kids. But inside I felt like a fraud. Even though I had married a Caucasian girl, my self belief was still that no girl was ever going to find me attractive again unless I was a suck up or if my pay packet was big enough. I had to admit to my wife about my addiction to porn and through lots of counseling and my own self awareness I eventually asked her for an open marriage as a way for me to deal with the insecurities that I had never dealt with when I was younger. Although reluctant at first, my wife agreed as she could see how everything that was going on with me was stemming from my core beliefs around myself and women.
Our relationship for the next 6 months was actually incredible after we went Open. We were closer than ever before, we were talking liked we hadn’t talked in years and we felt connected to each other in a way that we didn’t really think was ever going to be possible again. Our sex life picked up again too.
Unfortunately, also during that 6 months, I realized that I had no idea what to do. I went on one date in that period and it ended disastrously as I had no clue how to date. After my initial enthusiasm, I started getting down and depressed again. My wife was meeting confident sex positive alpha men and she’d had sex with about 5-6 guys so her view of me was starting to diminish the longer I was stuck. Then she chatted with a potential date who was also in an open relationship and she was sharing bits about how tough I had been finding it and he passed on BD’s details to her saying that it had been something that had changed his life.
After she passed it onto me, I went through all the information on BD’s site and it was everything I had been looking for. It was like all the lights had been turned on for the very first time. I got in contact and organized coaching with BD and shortly after I had organized a date and had sex for the first time with another woman who wasn’t my wife. It was incredible. I had my first FB and it lasted about 2 months.
I’d love to say that things turned out perfectly and we lived happily ever after but things don’t turn out that way. Despite all the gains we had made, there were still break downs and me and my wife separated. I want to add though that it had nothing to do with us doing Open. Having an Open relationship nearly saved our marriage but given the stages we were at in our lives we each had too much to figure out ourselves for us to be able to stay together. We both saw that we’d be happier being apart. After our separation we did really well and maintained a civil relationship and despite the bitterness and anger that developed (as BD says, it’s a natural response that women seem to have) I was able to ride the angry waves and I now have an amazing relationship with my 3 sons and that wouldn’t be there if me and my ex hadn’t been able to work though our stuff as we did.
At the time of my separation, I’d been getting coaching from BD for about 6 months prior. After I moved out of our house, I had 3 dates lined up in the first 3 weeks. I had sex with 2 new girls in that period. And I was happy. For the first time in about 15 years I was genuinely honestly happy and confident that I would be able to deal with everything and move forward again.
One of those girls that I initially went out with turned into an MLTR after about 6 months and we’re still together now after 3 years. She is well and truly on her way to full OLTR status. In the last 12 months I also had another MLTR, a gorgeous 25 year old Swedish girl that I wouldn’t in my wildest dreams have ever imagined I would ever get to have sex with. We started off as FBs and that developed into an MLTR relationship. I learned how to be Poly and have 2 genuinely loving relationships at the same time. I’ll admit that it wasn’t all plain sailing and that there were small dramas along the way but there was never anything that ever affected my overall happiness. At no point did I consider monogamy with either one of my partners. I genuinely love them both and it would be like being asked to choose between one of your children. Just not possible and wasn’t going to happen and neither of them ever asked for it either. I also had 2 FBs in that time as well.
I’m not going to lie and say that all of my insecurities around women are gone. My Swedish girlfriend is about to move back home to Sweden and there is a fear that when she moves I could be stuck looking for other girls again for a long while. It is daunting. But unlike before, I know I can do it. Yes I have a myriad of short comings to deal with. I have my cultural background, my inexperienced youth and being married through my 20’s but I can either look at all that and use it as an excuse or admit that I have to do a little bit more work than some other guys out there. Yes it might be hard, but the happiness I feel now is worth the work. Thank you BD for seeing me through to where I am now and I look forward to what lies ahead.
Young Guy Runner-Up
Note from BD: Since the three winners above were guys in their 40s or 30s, I wanted to include this final story to show a success story from a younger guy standpoint. Alex is 20, a former Asian virgin who completely turned his life around and now dates very hot white girls. We had many good stories from younger guys but the judges and I thought his was the best. He also sent over photographic evidence.
I’m writing this to show guys what’s possible when you actually try and just how achievable your goals regarding women are. I’ve come a long way, especially when I compare myself to what I was like back then. The possibilities are endless, and some of the situations I find myself in are incredible. Here is my journey.
I started as a standard teenage AFC in my senior years at school. Frustrated was an understatement. I didn’t understand women at all and was baffled with the guys they chose. I used all the whiny clichés such as “nice guys finish last”, missing the point entirely. I’m half-Asian, and I used that as an excuse too, complaining that girls didn’t like Asian guys. I was a virgin: I hadn’t even kissed a girl. Yet I’d noticed that many other guys, including many who I deemed less physically attractive, were already getting laid. All these things hurt my self-esteem, and certainly left me frustrated and confused.
As a very introverted guy I played A LOT of video games. Especially ‘League of Legends’ in which I ended up reaching the top 1.8% of all players worldwide. Writing this right now makes me imagine all those thousands of hours being used for something productive like Game or piano. I was a typical beta, who spent most of his time indoors being sexually frustrated. I think a lot of guys can relate to that, no matter what age. After lucking out on a prom date, getting oneitis for her, and then hearing she slept with some random at the afterparty, I’d had enough and made a conscious decision that I needed to change.
After some searching, I stumbled across the Manosphere. As a guy who understood NOTHING about women, I found it confronting to say the least. There was this secret knowledge about women that the average guy didn’t think it was possible to understand. I read through a number of blogs and became hooked.
What I realized was that girls don’t want a nice guy, they want an outcome independent badass; a guy that will excite them. An Alpha 2.0. I realized that I was definitely NOT an Alpha guy, in fact I fit the beta description perfectly, thinking that kissing ass and being a gentleman would get you laid. I decided I needed to improve myself, to get more experience, to live a little. I stopped playing games, I started forcing myself to interact with people, and most importantly I started talking to girls. I noticed myself becoming more socially adjusted, more confident and most liberating of all, not giving a shit about what others thought. I started dressing more ‘cool’ and casual, and I started acting how I wanted. I soon got my first FB through Tinder with some shaky but fundamentally sound Game, and finally lost my virginity. For the first time in my life I didn’t feel like that butthurt guy with oneitis who didn’t get the girl, I was that guy with MORE than one girl, free and happy.
Fast forward two years.
I was in Rome on a holiday and decided to hit up Tinder. I matched with an girl from Finland. We met up and what started off as a normal date turned into the craziest night of my life, from skinny dipping in fountains together, to making out on famous statues, lucking our way into a free hotel room and then banging until the sun rose. It was crazy. We kept in touch, and decided to begin an LDR. This is where one piece of BD advice helped me most. Do not lie. I knew I’d get up to mischief back in Sydney if we were exclusive, so I just laid it out for her and told her the truth of what I was willing to do. She was completely understanding. This saved me a lot of drama and trouble in the future. She arranged to come stay with me in Australia for 2 months during the Christmas holidays.
During the time before she arrived I’d met a Norwegian girl at a barista course and arranged to meet up the following week. We hung out, and after some time she mentioned that she was home alone. BD advises against kissing on the first date but I was confident with the outcome: so I just pulled her in. Not long after, she invited me back to her place. She lived in Vaucluse, an extremely wealthy part of Sydney with great views of the Harbour Bridge. I didn’t believe her for a second, but sure enough after a short Uber ride we pulled up at this goddamn mansion. It was a massive three story house, with an onyx staircase, indoor swimming pool, underground cinema, you name it. I woke up the next morning in this fucking mansion next to a naked blonde Norwegian girl, staring at the harbour bridge.
Fast forward a month and my OLTR girlfriend from Finland was staying with me in Australia. We were definitely in NRE but I kept myself very self-aware, so although I was happy, I didn’t lose my brain. She was definitely an Independent, not needy or controlling in the slightest. I decided to bring up one of those things most guys my age would think is unattainable: a threesome. She was happy and curious to try. Because I’d maintained solid frame, she didn’t mind me doing some daygame with a good mate of mine after uni. So I was out one afternoon in Hyde Park and noticed a cute blonde sitting by herself writing in a journal. I opened her confidently, showed dhv chatted for a few minutes, grabbed her number then left. She turned out to be German, over on a short stay. A couple of days later I hit her up with an amicable but straightforward text asking if she wanted to be the third in our threesome. After a few exchanges she agreed to meet up near my place. We met and spend about an hour chatting before heading back to mine. We ended up in my bedroom: I slowly but confidently pulled the German girl in close to me and started making out with her, I then pulled my girlfriend in too and that was that (three-way kisses actually work alright.) Unsurprisingly, four boobs are better than two. It was completely fun, relaxed and casual. Compared to my old scarcity mindset, I felt totally independent and in control: even if my OLTR left me, I knew I’d be fine. I would be able to find another girl.
Writing this I’m a bit amazed at how much I’ve changed. Just as I started off a typical beta and climbed pretty high (I’m still climbing), I know that any guy reading this can do the same. Just make that decision to start that change, and you can become successful with women without sacrificing your freedom. Since then my OLTR has returned to Finland, and I have two dates in the following week: one with a busty Aussie girl, and one with a Swiss girl I met on the streets. Life is good.
Final note from BD: Thank you to all of our participants! All the rest of the top success stories will be available here soon! Until then, all of my books are here and coaching services are here. This stuff works, gentlemen.