A while back I documented some extreme beta male behaviors I’ve seen over the course of my dating life. It’s only fair that I now cover extreme Alpha Male 1.0 behaviors I’ve been witness to. I’m not nearly as hard on my Alpha 1.0 brothers as I am on the beta males because, at least Alpha 1.0s are, well, Alpha. They’re strong, confident, capable men with strong game. The problem is, unlike the Alpha 2.0, the Alpha 1.0s always choose control over happiness. He’ll spend time and energy fighting, arguing and bossing other people around even if he knows for a fact that doing so will piss him off.
Just like with the beta behaviors post, I’m not saying all Alpha Male 1.0s do the following things. These are just extreme examples to illustrate what happens when you let your need for control compromise your happy life.
As always, everything below is 100% true and accurate based on my admittedly sometimes flawed memory.
I once dated a woman who had an extreme Alpha 1.0 ex-husband who had controlled her life to extreme levels. During their 9-year marriage, he never gave her any money, never allowed her to have her own cash, forced her to work in his business, never let her hang out with friends, etc.
When she needed to go get groceries, he would make her write down literally every food item she was going to purchase, then he added up what that would cost with a calculator, then would give her the exact amount of cash to spend. When she came back home he would inspect the receipt to ensure accuracy and demand all the change.
He controlled exactly what she wore at all times. She was never allowed to go clothes shopping unless he came with her and he told her exactly what outfits to purchase. If for some reason she ended up with an outfit without his approval, he would have her return it (and she would).
She was never able to hang out with her girlfriends…unless he came along. Then, he would fuck her girlfriends behind her back. Being an Alpha 1.0, he was a good-looking, confident guy with game. He cheated on her constantly, fucking hookers, her sister, her friends, his employees, and at least two under-aged girls.
As I’ve said before, these types of hyper-dominant men with hyper-submissive wives/GFs do work, but only for a while. She had a more submissive personality so she actually liked her dominant husband…for the first few years. Over time she grew to hate it, as all submissive women eventually do, and when she found mounds of evidence of his cheating, she confronted him, and the shit hit the fan.
He beat her up, she called the cops and he was hauled off to jail. This happened at least twice, both times in front of their small children. During all of this, he started having sex with one of his 17 year-old employees. She being under aged, he again ended up in jail. He avoided sex offender charges because she denied anything sexual was taking place and there was no photographic or text evidence.
They got divorced and he was raked over the coals. After the messy divorce he moved in with his new 18 year-old girlfriend (yes, the same 17 year-old who then turned 18). Last I heard, his business was failing, he was paying massive child support and alimony, he had a criminal record, had failing health and his entire family disowned him for getting divorced and shacking up with a teenager. All he had was his 18 year-old girlfriend (he was in his mid 30s) whom he lived with and had oneitis for. He actually “loved” her. (I’m sure that will work out great.)
One of my long-term FBs was dating a very suave Alpha 1.0. She relayed to me how great he was and how he was totally non-needy “like me” and didn’t push for monogamy at all. All his other behaviors were classic Alpha 1.0 (texting her often, always checking-up on her, etc), so I told her to “just wait, the demands will come.”
“Oh no,” she said, “He’s not like that.”
Oh, if I had a dollar for every time a woman said that…
Literally one week after this conversation, while they were having sex, the Alpha 1.0 said to her “I don’t want you to have sex with any other guys but me!” She was taken aback by the demand and because they were in the middle of sex she didn’t argue and just said , “Okay.” Then to mark his territory, he came inside her while bareback. She was not on birth control and he knew it.
(No, she didn’t get pregnant. Damn, he was lucky.)
Six days after making that promise to him she was having sex with me.
His demands increased from that point and three weeks later she dumped him. He was furious and sent her several angry texts and voice mails, demanding she “stop being a child” and “come back.”
That was two years ago. She’s still having sex with me.
Another long-term FB I once had married a big, buff Alpha Male 1.0. He quickly cheated on her several times, she found out and soon they became separated. He quickly got a new girlfriend but lectured her that she was not allowed to date any one, ever, for any reason, even though they were separated, living separately, and he had a new GF.
Of course, she laughed that off and had sex with me (just like she was before she got married) and one other guy. I forget the details, but the ex-husband found out about the other guy. After having sex with his girlfriend, he grabbed a loaded pistol, went over to my FB’s apartment, barged his way in and brandished the weapon, at one point holding it to her head.
Thankfully, no one was hurt but, the police were called, he was arrested, they were divorced. Because of his violent behavior he lost custody and all visitation rights to their baby.
He later re-married and a very similar scenario played out with the new wife almost exactly as the first marriage.
An Alpha 1.0 in his early 50s I used to work with had been married almost 20 years and had two teenage children. An extremely charismatic guy (as most Alpha 1.0s are) he cheated on his wife often. Soon, he started having sex with one of his co-workers – very pretty but very irrational and an emotional receptionist.
Like most married men who cheat, he did very little to hide what he was doing. He would make her do things during the workday like flirt with her openly, going out to lunch with her often and make her massage his shoulders in his office, with the door wide open and glass walls out to the rest of the office where all the other employees could see. She kept his secret, although it was barely a secret.
She started having sex with another guy. Mr. Alpha 1.0 found out and flew into a rage. The woman explained that it was a little dumb to demand she couldn’t have sex with other men if he was still having sex with his wife (which he was; his wife was in her 50s but still skinny and pretty).
He didn’t care. He demanded that she stop seeing this guy and only have sex with him, he was still going to have sex with his wife and if my FB didn’t like it that was just tough shit for her.
This argument went on and on, over a week or two and soon they were arguing about it over the company email system. This was discovered by the head of human resources and the “secret” was out.
Everyone found out, including his wife. His wife divorced him, took the kids, took his house and took 50% of his retirement savings, forcing him to cash everything out early, thus paying massive taxes and penalties. This was on top of child support and monthly alimony. In his mid-50s, he’s now completely screwed and will probably have to work full time for literally the rest of his life.
To this day, my FB still says, “If he would have just let me have sex with other people just like he was, there would never have been a problem…”
A FB I was seeing had a boyfriend who would, every time they saw each other, demand to see her phone. He would then go through all of her text messages, her Facebook messages and her email accounts, scanning for any communication between her and any other men whatsoever.
He did this every time. Literally. It became a routine every time she saw him.
On the rare times he’d see any message to any man, even if it was her cousin or long-time friend-zone orbiter, this guy would lose his shit, screaming at her for 20 minutes about how she was NEVER allowed to text other men except him, her dad, or her brother. (Even work-related texts and emails set him off. “You work with him? Yeah right! How do I know you work with him?!?”)
This system didn’t work well, since she was sporadically having sex with me and I was texting her whenever I wanted without a problem to set up meets. She simply did what men do when they cheat: she changed the names of men in her phone to women and assigned them female pictures. She made sure to carefully delete any conversations that said anything incriminating before she saw him.
I always found it amazing that he didn’t realize that’s what any woman would do under that level of scrutiny. But it didn’t matter; his need for Alpha Male 1.0 control overrode his logic and rationality.
This guy isn’t alone. I’ve heard of many other men doing this and many women doing the above to avoid it.