Well, it’s finally happened.
I knew that eventually this day would come and I’ve been preparing for it.
Now that it’s happened, it’s presenting some interesting scenarios.
I don’t talk much about my personal life on here. This post probably won’t apply to 95% of you, since it’s unlikely you’ll ever be a public figure, nor want to be. But today I thought I would relay something interesting that’s happened in my life. If may be helpful if you have, or want to ever have, an information-based business.
A few weeks back I was on a second date at one of my usual nice bars with a very attractive young woman. As I usually do, I steered the conversation towards sex and dating. And as usual, she was only too excited to talk about sex. (Women love talking about sex.)
As usual, to strengthen my open/poly EFA I mentioned something about how I “date a lot” and have “been around the block” when it came to women and dating. She responded by saying, “Well, yeah. Isn’t that one of your businesses?”
I was confused for a minute. On the first date I mentioned I ran three small businesses out of my house, but I didn’t remember describing to her exactly what these businesses were.
“Yeah,” she continued, “Isn’t that one of the things you do? Show guys how to date women? I Googled you. You do a lot of different things and have a lot of web sites, but one of them was about dating women or something.”
“Yep,” I said with a smile, “That one is actually my fastest-growing business.” She shrugged and we just kept talking about something else.
Sure enough, she had found my business blog and my personal blog and this blog. We still ended up having sex, so it wasn’t a problem. Regardless, the day has finally come where women are able to Google me prior to a first (or second) date and figure out pretty quickly that I’m Blackdragon, or at least sell a book about Alpha Males that includes as one of the topics, “getting better with women.”
I have never once lost a woman when I told them that one of my businesses was about teaching guys about women and sex. I show most of my MLTRs my BD web sites and not once have I received a negative reaction. I’m mean that; not once. The response is usually just a shrug. Contrary to what a lot of men in the seduction community seem to think, most women really don’t give a shit about what you do for a living.
Regardless, I have now crossed over into a different world where I am no longer anonymous to women I meet. My main book was published under my real name, and over time I will be slowly be merging the Blackdragon / Alpha Male 2.0 stuff with the Caleb Jones business stuff. Moreover, the book has done extremely well so far and I haven’t even started marketing it yet other than announcing it on a few blog posts. My marketing plan for the book is 28 pages long and I’ve only executed the first few sentences.
This is all well and good and all according to my long-term business plan, a plan that stretches out to 2024. As I’ve said before, I started my Blackdragon business back in 2009 with a 15-year time horizon. Everything I do in my business life, and I mean everything, is a part of a longer-term structure. I play to win, which means I play the long game.
What’s interesting is that I have no idea how this will affect my dating life / love life. Will it reduce my online dating response rates? Damage my success with first or second dates? Will it force me to start doing daygame again? Will it force me to stop sarging altogether and focus on current and returning FBs and MLTRs?
Or could it it go the other way? Could it improve my results with women? Will this stuff DHV me and cause me to work less hard and get better results? Or will it just increase the amount of gold-diggers or fame-seekers I have to deal with and remove?
Honestly, I really have no idea. On the business side, things are going exactly according to plan and I’m very good at predicting future results there, but on the woman side, I’m in uncharted waters. I really have no idea what will happen. I’m not accustomed to not knowing what will happen. It’s a very interesting feeling.
Behind the scenes, I have spoken to a few other manosphere personalities about this. Most bigger-name manosphere bloggers choose to remain anonymous (which I think is a very big mistake, but that’s a conversation for another time), but the few who operate under their real names don’t seem to have noticed a very big difference in their results with women. Then again, most of these guys are Thrill of the Hunt guys who focus on one night stands or similar. A few historical guys like Mystery, Style, and DeAngelo weren’t affected by everyone knowing who they were, but these guys always leaned strongly towards serial monogamy.
None of that applies to me. I don’t do one night stands and I don’t do absolute monogamy. I do long-term, nonmonogamous relationships. With the possible exception of Johnny Soporno, none of these bigger name manosphere men are open/poly guys like me. They either focus on having brief sex with tons of women, or they go monogamous, leap-frogging from one girlfriend to the next every few years. I’m pretty unique in the industry.
I’m not super concerned. Again, years ago I planned on this day arriving anyway. My current needs and long-term goals with the woman side of my life is completely unchanged. I will continue to have FBs when needed, and keep things to just one MLTR, perhaps two if I have trouble with the first one. My eventual goal is take one special MLTR who has proven low-drama traits over an extended period and move her in with me under an OLTR or worst case, an OLTR marriage. As always, I’m in no rush for this, but it will happen at some point, especially considering how old I’m getting. And of course I’ll keep all of you updated along the way. (I may have to protect her privacy though; a lot of it depends on how public she chooses to be.)
To answer the question I know I’ll get: no, I currently do not have any women in my life who I consider true candidates for OLTR, which is unusual for me. I do have two women who I think are extraordinary and who may make the grade, but they’re both new enough where I’m not sure yet. OLTR qualification takes time, and of course she needs to want that too. If neither of them work out, no problem, I’ll just get some more until I find a really one. I enjoy pair-bonding with one special woman. At the same time, I live a really good life so I’m in no rush to change it.
Interesting times ahead.