Vox Day recently made a blog post where he wrote a response to an angry female college student. While I don’t agree with everything he said in his response, it was nonetheless one of the most well-written blog posts I’ve read in a long time.
One part was particularly good:
I’m going to teach you a hard, but very important lesson…only about 200 people on a planet of 7 billion actually care about your feelings, and that’s if you’re lucky. The sooner you grasp this lesson, the better off you will be. And since almost no one gives a damn what you do, say, think, or feel, appealing to your feelings when you encounter differences of opinion is not only illogical, but useless.
I once saw Whoopi Goldberg being interviewed by Bill O’Reilly. They were discussing one of those big emotional left/right political issues. I think it was gun control but I could be wrong. Of course Bill was arguing the conservative side and Whoopi the liberal side. Bill rattled off some facts, Whoopi rattled off an opinion.
Bill explained that the facts invalidated her opinion. To which she responded something like, “Well, okay. But that doesn’t change my opinion. This is how I feel.”
“But you’re wrong,” he answered, “The facts just proved that.”
“Okay, but that doesn’t matter,” she said, “This is what I believe. This is how I feel.”
She actually repeated it one or two more times. She was surprisingly truthful about the fact her political opinions about how the world should work were not based on facts or reality, but on her feelings. Even when she agreed the facts invalidated her feelings, and thus, her opinions.
Whenever I discuss long term monogamy not working, and state mountains of facts to prove what I’m saying, I get a lot of emotional arguments in response. If I respond by stating how the facts disprove their emotional stances, the reaction is usually anger and name calling.
Something I learned while being married (and experienced several more times with other women after my marriage), is that when you’re arguing with a woman, and you finally prove with indisputable facts and evidence that you’re right, the woman often reacts by getting MORE angry, not less. I mean, when they realize you’re right, that’s when they get REALLY mad.
(Men do this too. Especially with the monogamy stuff.)
This is one of the many reasons I simply don’t argue with women any more. I don’t do drama. If she gets upset with me, I soft next her temporarily and go have sex with someone else. When she calms down, and they always do eventually, then I return. Arguing with her is literally a complete and utter waste of my time. So I don’t do it.
The Myth of Equality
Vox said something else very accurate; something I’ve been saying for years:
Equality is a myth; it doesn’t exist anymore than fairies and unicorns do.
Yep. I’ve already quoted Scott Adams when he said equality is a false concept invented so stupid people could join arguments. Equality is a 100% theoretical construct that does not exist anywhere in nature nor anywhere in the human world.
I’ll never forget a big 20/20 report I saw on TV back in the 1980s. They interviewed a Soviet spokesman on location in Moscow. The guy was yelling, “There are no homeless people here! There is no unemployment here! We are communist! The government GIVES you a job! Gives everyone a job! How could we possibly have homeless people under our system? It’s you heartless capitalists who have homeless people! And rich people to oppress them!”
After the interview, the 20/20 camera crew when right outside, walked a few blocks away, and started filming all the homeless people on the street. I was only about 13 years old at the time, but I still remember laughing.
The news crew also noticed the fancy suits, jewelry, limousines, and fancy homes the rich politicians had.
Homeless people and super rich people. In a communist country. Hm.
Equality does not exist, and will never exist in the human world no matter what form of government you choose, what kind of economy you choose, or how you decide to treat different races, religions, and yes, genders. Because of the pursuit of the unicorn called “equality”, you have women in the workplace screaming that they want equal work for equal pay, and at the same time they’ll need you, the man, to lift that heavy UPS box that just came in.
Oh, and you need to replace that big heavy water jug on top of the water cooler too.
And you can’t ever raise your voice at her if she does a bad job. That’s mean. (But you can yell at the male employees all you like).
And if she starts crying in the office, you’d better just leave her alone and let her cry.
Oh, and she’s going to leave the workforce for five years in the middle of her career so she can raise her kids. But she still wants the exact same pay the men are getting the minute she gets back. Otherwise you’re discriminating against her and oppressing her.
She wants “equality”. She wants something that doesn’t exist…and frankly, something she doesn’t even want. She doesn’t want to be treated exactly like a man, and she knows it.
Some of us were born smarter than others. Or better looking than others. Or with more athletic ability. Some of us can control our emotions, others start screaming their heads off at the drop of a hat. Some of us are organized and get things done, others fart around and waste time. Some of us are motivated, others would rather smoke weed and watch Hulu. Some of us are peaceful people, others like to start wars (conservatives) or like to throw things at police and glass windows during protests (liberals). And don’t even get me started on the 16 different types of Myers Briggs personalities there are.
In no way are you ever going to successfully enforce this silly concept called “equality” on all of these different types people. It’s impossible.
All you can do is not give any one group any special treatment.
That means that yes, you pay women exactly the same as you pay men, but that also means if she’s crying in the office on a regular basis, you fire her ass, just as if she were a man. That means that yes, women can serve on the front lines in the military, but that also means she has to carry the 75 pound flamethrower for two days through the desert, just as if she were a man. And if she can’t, she gets booted out, just as if she were a man.
But as I’ve just said, that’s not what women want.
What a wonderful world it would be if everyone stopped focusing on the myth of “equality” and instead focused on being the best people they could be, using their own talents to the fullest.