Do you vehemently disagree with me about anything?
Think long-term monogamy is a great idea for most people to pursue?
Think online dating is for pussies?
Think Barack Obama is doing a great job?
Think socialism in huge countries is a great idea and libertarians are dumbshits?
Think hot older women you just met are really easy to lay fast?
Really think I’m wrong about something else? Or just think I’m a asshole who should shut the hell up?
Then listen up. You’ll love this.
I’ve decided to “televise” a debate on this blog. One person will debate me on one topic. Any topic. I will post the debate here over a series of several posts.
YOU can be this person.
Simply put a comment on this blog post or email me directly (theonlyblackdragon @ gmail.com). Tell me what topic you would like to debate me on, and why. It would probably help if you gave me an idea as to why you think you’re qualified to discuss the topic.
Once I get enough responses I will select someone and we’ll go at it. I am open to debating on just about anything in any area (sex, relationships, women, pickup, religion, politics, economics, whatever). The only criteria is it must be something I’ve talked about before (obviously) and I will give more weight to dating/seduction/pickup/relationship topics since that’s the focus of this blog. However I will consider topics outside of this. For example I know that I really piss off a lot of folks with things like my political views, my views on making money, what does or doesn’t make an Alpha male, and other areas.
This debate will not be like the typical emotional screaming matches you see on online forums. We see that all the time so there’s no reason to duplicate that here. This debate will be something more adult, intelligent, regulated, and informative. I’m not saying I won’t be a smartass. I probably will. But you get my point.
Therefore, we need some ground rules for this debate. Here they are:
1. I will post whatever you say on this blog verbatim. The debate will be done over email that I will copy and paste here. I will not edit a thing you say, unless you specifically ask me to. Of course I will have to edit you if you say something that could get me into legal trouble by publicly posting on this blog (like libelous stuff or anyone’s personal information) but other than that, you’ll be completely un-edited.
2. To keep the debate under control, we will limit responses to four paragraphs maximum. I write up to four paragraphs, then you write up to four paragraphs in response, redirect questions, etc, then I respond, etc. This will force both of us to keep our arguments tight and on-point. Just because I’m a nice guy, I will let you start the debate by making your statements first. (I’m a giver.)
3. The first person to make an ad hominem personal attack, even an implied one, instantly loses the debate and the other person wins by default. (Clearly sarcastic remarks don’t count towards this and are perfectly fine.) This is how I view debates in real life anyway. When I’m debating an issue with someone, and I state a fact / position / observation backing up my point, and the person responds with a “Fuck you!” or “Oh, you just think you know everything”, I know I’ve won. If I was truly wrong, the person could prove me wrong with facts. But if all he/she has is anger and personal attacks, it pretty much proves I’ve hit the target.
4. Debates are won by facts and well-reasoned arguments. Therefore you’d better have your facts in order, because certainly I do. If your basis are things like “You’re just against marriage because you got divorced” or “Only trashy slutty chicks do open relationships” or “Well at least Obama is better than Bush”, if all you’ve got is stuff like that, you’re going to put a big smile on my face and lose the debate quickly due to your lack of facts and logic. I will be polite (within reason), but I will be relentless in my hard facts and stats and real-life experiences. Expect me to bring it.
5. Be prepared to back up your non-personal stated facts with third-party corroboration if challenged. If you state that gorillas are smarter than humans, you’d better be ready to present links or books or studies or whatever that demonstrate that. If you can’t, we’re going to have to assume that humans are smarter for the remainder of the debate, no matter how strongly you feel about it. I realize that not all sources of information are linkable on the internet, but you need to at least point to something, even a print-only book.
Notice I said “non-personal” facts. There are facts that are personal to you that you probably won’t be able to prove, and that’s okay. If I told you the number of women I’ve had sex with, there’s no way I can “prove” that to you. If I were to give out that information (which I won’t), you’re just going to have to believe me or not based on other things I’ve reported about my life. (This is one of the many reasons I’ve never given out this number publicly…it would just create irrational arguments from the haters and nitpickers, and I can’t prove it, so I’ll save everyone, namely me, some wasted time and just not tell you.) Therefore personal facts don’t necessarily require corroboration (though if you have it, that would certainly help bolster your point); we’re just going to let the audience decide how truthful you are based on how well you deliver your arguments.
6. You need to stay on topic. We will debate ONE issue. Just one. So stick with it. Like ad hominem attacks, suddenly attempting to change the subject is another technique of a debater who knows he’s lost. I’ll do my best to keep you on-topic, but if you keep on veering off-topic, I’ll have to end the debate and declare myself the winner since it’s clear you’re unwilling or unable to stay on-topic, indicating you’re unable to argue your point.
7. If the debate seems to just be going on and on forever with no clear resolution or surrender or compromise, I reserve the right to call a tie. We can’t debate forever.
8. Despite the male-focused subject matter of this blog, for this debate you can be a woman, and you can argue pro-female positions. However if you’re a woman, I will have to ask you to read this post before you debate me. Also remember that I will NOT “go easy on you”. If anything, I will likely be harsher on you. So you’d better bring your A-game and focus on the facts rather than your feelings. That’s often a tough one for you gals. (And some of you guys as well.)
9. Try not to waste time with nitpick arguments. Occasionally I will get this type of guy. For example I’ll mention some irrelevant event that happened way back in 1977. A guy, thinking the event happened in 1978 for whatever reason, will go into a tantrum about what an untrustworthy liar I am, that I have the gall to tell people that what he thought happened in 1978 happened in 1977. I will then show the guy that it indeed happened in 1977, then wonder why the guy is so pissed or anal or nitpicky about such a stupid and irrelevant point (likely the guy just doesn’t like me in the first place and is actively looking for something incorrect I’ve said, regardless of how minor). Worse, even if I prove to his satisfaction that 1977 was the correct year, that doesn’t matter to him. He’ll look at me suspiciously forever more because I’m such a “liar”.
There really are guys like this. They’re rare (thank god), but they can be very vocal. If you debate me, please don’t spend a huge amount of time on teeny tiny side-points that are largely irrelevant to the main point.
10. I’m going to repeat this because it’s so important: Focus on facts, not your feelings. You are more than welcome to hate me. That’s fine. But if you hate me while trying to argue that 2+2=5, that’s not going to work. Also, you’re more than welcome to hate that 2+2=4, but if you’re going to attempt to get into a rational debate with me that 2+2 doesn’t equal 4, you’re just going to end up looking really silly. The monogamy debate is a great example of this. There are people out there who already know deep in their hearts that long-term monogamy doesn’t work, but they hate that it doesn’t work, so because of their feelings they would rather pretend that it does. They vent anger on guys like me who publicly say it doesn’t work, and sometimes they attempt to deceptively encase their anger in the form of “rational debate” or “rational points”, which it never ends up being once I start asking a few rational questions. Again, feeling feelings is fine. Logically debating your feelings (which are not logical at all) in a rational debate never works, and if you try this with me, you’ll be called out on it fast.
That’s it! Those are the rules. I hereby state publicly that I will adhere to the rules I set forth above, and my opponent or the audience are more than welcome to point out if I violate any of my own rules. Beyond what’s above, I really have no rules on how the “winner” is determined. Maybe one of us will surrender. Maybe it will be a tie. Maybe it will be so obvious I’ll just “declare” a winner. Maybe I’ll leave it up to the audience. Other than the above parameters, we’ll just play it by ear.
One last thing about this. Contrary to what you might think, I am actually willing to change my mind on strongly-held issues. However the only way I do that is with facts and cogent arguments, not emotions or anger or name-calling or nitpicking. For example, I used to be very pro-death penalty. Now, I’m strongly anti-death penalty. Why? Because a very sharp guy once debated me on it, produced the facts, stated his case very well, and changed my mind. It can be done, folks. You just need to lay out your case and stay factual. Emotions, anger, insults, diversions, dismissals, nitpicks on irrelevant issues, and attempts to change the subject not only don’t convince me of anything, they further prove that I’m right and you’re wrong.
That’s it! If you’re a hater or someone who has always wanted to prove me wrong, now is your moment! You’d better have your game face on though! Comment or email me and let’s go!