It’s time one again for our regular foray in to text game that gets you laid, or if you’re in a relationship, keeps getting you laid. You might want to read parts one, two, and three of this series if you haven’t already, in order to put the advice in this post into context.
Let’s dive right in with some more common situations that often arise with women and that damn damn cell phone in your pocket during the seduction and relationship phases.
Situation: Dealing With Delicate Questions Pre-Lay
You’re lining up a first date, or day2, or other meetup with a woman you’re working on. You haven’t had sex yet, but you’re feelin’ good about it. Then, during a text conversation, she lays this on you:
“When is the last time you had sex?”
“Are you actually dating other women right now?”
“Do you want kids?” (Or “more kids?”)
“Have you ever cheated on anyone?”
You get the idea. It’s one of those questions where you see the text and say “Aw dammit! NOW what do I do?”. These questions are never fun when you’re in the seduction phase of the operation.
You have four options in this situation.
1. Lie and tell her what she wants to hear. Yes, that’s certainly an option. Not an option for me, however, since I don’t endorse lying to women about anything. Lying to women in order to get laid (or keep getting laid) is something AFCs do.
2. Tell her the truth knowing the answer will be one she wants to hear. Obviously this is the best option IF you know the truth is something she wants to hear. Of course, all too often, it isn’t.
3. Tell her the truth knowing it will cause you to lose points. This is never ideal unless you literally have no other option.
4. Dodge the question with sarcasm, then quickly change the subject. This is, in my opinion and my experience, is the best move if option 2 is unavailable to you. Answer the question in an obviously silly way and when you get her response, change the subject, and keep right on texting about something else. This way, you’re not lying AND you’re not throwing the painful truth in her face.
Her: So…are you dating other women right now?
You: Hell yeah. I have 15 girlfriends. Two for each day of the week plus a spare.
Her: Haha. Mm that’s interesting.
You: It is! Did your boss ever get back to you about that promotion?
It’s best to redirect to a subject she likes talking about. I’m not sure if you’ve noticed, but women like to talk a lot. About themselves mostly. Use that to your advantage.
I have field-tested this in real life countless times. It works.
Nagging is a huge topic. One could write an entire book about it. I’m talking here just about nagging in the context of texting. I define nagging as bitching about something trivial, especially if it’s done often. The best way to deal with text nagging is to give ONE measured response, then terminate the conversation and completely ignore all other future texts about it until you see her in person.
Her: Um hello! You said you’d be home at 6pm and it’s already 6:12! WTF? You always do this! You’re always late <blah blah blah>
You: My boss kept me after for about 10 minutes. Be home in about 10 min.
Her: Being late like this is so rude! I can’t belive <blah blah>
You: <NOTHING. Radio silence. Ignore.>
By the way pal, if you have a woman in your life who does this to you on at least a semi-regular basis, you need to take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself a some very tough questions about your life and who you are.
Sometimes a woman will start negotiating with you over texts. The topic could be anything from what to do on a date to actual sex. “Well I don’t want to have sex, but we could get in your bed and cuddle!” You get the point.
Never, ever negotiate with a woman about anything over texts. Refuse to do it when they try. Either just drop the subject, change the subject, or if it really is an important issue, call her and discuss it verbally.
I see a lot of guys fall into women’s negotiating frame over texting and it rarely ends well. For either party.
Situation: Excessive Texting
Occasionally you’ll run into a woman who texts you every day, sometimes many times every day. First, realize this behavoir is a red flag for other more nasty behaviors to come. At least that’s been my experience. Usually when I have a woman text me all the fucking time, as in every day, I end up with other problems from her. Thankfully this behavior is rare. (It’s usually men who text women too often. Right ladies?)
If this happens before you have sex with her, go ahead and respond to her, but make sure to A) wait a LONG time before responding to her initial text, and B) terminate the conversation relatively quickly, as in after a few exchanges. Make up some harmless excuse if you absolutely have to. No long-winded text convos with women like this!
If this happens once you’ve had sex a few times and you’re in a relationship (any type of relationship, FB, MLTR, WD, LTR, it doesn’t matter), next time you see her in person, tell her clearly that you’re busy and that often you won’t be able to respond to texts. Be very sweet, but very firm and clear.
Make sure you do this in person, not over texts. Never tell a woman to “stop texting you” or “text less often” over texts. Always do it in person. Remember, texting is a much more hard-edged form of communication than than one-on-one verbal.
One of the recurring themes for text game is to never have any intensive or sensitive conversations over texts. Keep those for face-to-face interactions (if you do them at all). Women will often try to have these convo’s over texting. Don’t let them.
That’s it for now! Next time in the text game series we’ll talk about how to use texting to boost her attraction levels for you.